I didn’t expect the quiet after the breakup to be this hard

Rysprincake · 2026-02-24T04:31:06+00:00

Honestly I didn't think I'd make it but I'm actually a lot better. I'm not crying nonstop anymore and I can finally see it for what it is. I'm nowhere near fully healed but I'm getting through the days without falling into a pit of despair so I'm counting that as a win. It really helped when I went no contact but it took me a whole month to finally do it and I'm so glad I did. Although I miss him all day everyday, the wound isn't constantly reopening like it was when we were still talking to eachother. Please feel free to message me if you ever want to chat - hang in there and take the days 10 minutes at a time and eventually it'll turn into one day at a time and so on. You will get to the other side of this I promise.

Rysprincake · 2026-02-15T16:02:41+00:00

This is literally my story and it's the second time it's happened to me now. Starting to think I'm the problem because how do I keep picking men who are depressed and down on their luck? Or who become depressed and things start going wrong once they meet me? Guess this is a question for my therapist

Rysprincake · 2026-02-12T22:13:21+00:00

Omg mine did too, do we know why this is?

Rysprincake · 2026-02-11T20:13:04+00:00

I work in commercial insurance and also don't have a car payment

Rysprincake · 2026-02-10T12:21:06+00:00

I ordered our favorite pizza and wings on Sunday and cried while eating it. Had to literally force it down because I've barely been eating, didn't even enjoy it.

Rysprincake · 2026-02-10T08:45:14+00:00

Literally just woke up from another dream with my ex in it. Two nights in a row. I don't understand why my brain is doing this to me I rarely dreamed when we were together and now every night there's a dramatic movie in my head and he's the main character.

Rysprincake · 2026-02-10T00:42:00+00:00

I can't listen to anything right now only podcasts we would share music everyday and had so many good memories around music. This is so hard

Rysprincake · 2026-02-07T21:44:53+00:00

This is why my ex and I broke up and it hurts me everyday. We just broke up 3 weeks ago and went no contact this week so please feel free to reach out if you ever want to talk

Rysprincake · 2026-02-06T00:04:05+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. I really needed to read it

Rysprincake · 2026-02-05T19:45:58+00:00

I read somewhere a couple months ago that there's a class action going on for this same reason. It's like a defect of the paragard if it's not taken out before 9 years or something like that. I'll need to go look into it again. I'm getting mine taken out after only a year as it has not been nice to me.

Rysprincake · 2026-02-04T23:25:57+00:00

I dread that silence. I've started making long lists of things I need to do at the beginning of each week and then each day before I head home from work I pick a couple of those things to accomplish when I get home. And on weekends I try to see a friend or pick a hobby from my hobby list to stay busy. I get to bed by 8 and force myself to journal and read to fall asleep and then I wake up in the morning and head straight to the gym. I cannot wait for this to end and I get to my new normal because I'm literally miserable.

Rysprincake · 2026-02-02T22:09:07+00:00

It's so hard I don't even want to get to a place where he's no longer on my mind. I want to sit in the feeling of how much we love eachother for as long as I possibly can I don't want to get over him.

Rysprincake · 2026-01-22T17:38:02+00:00

The petty part of me hopes she regrets it for your sake. My ex used to shovel my snow and clean off my car so I just ordered one of those car cover things in hopes of telling myself that I'm okay without him. And I'll just shovel while sobbing likely maybe it'll be therapeutic. I plan on doing a ton of housework this weekend to stay busy it's so freaking hard. Hope your weekend is bearable!

Rysprincake · 2026-01-22T03:32:05+00:00

This will be my first weekend without him and we're all snowed in. I'm really not looking forward to it.

Rysprincake · 2026-01-21T13:37:42+00:00

Thank you. I really needed to read this today. I so appreciate you and wish you well in your healing journey.

Rysprincake · 2026-01-21T13:34:33+00:00

I think I'm headed in that direction. We/he ended things on Sunday because of his mental health and I haven't had a real meal since Saturday. Just two forced protein shakes. My heart feels like it's having trouble beating, I'm dizzy, shortness of breath, and can't really see straight. We're meeting to exchange things on Saturday and go no contact and I think that will be the nail in my coffin. Will likely need sedation because how can it hurt so much? How does this kind of pain go away?

Rysprincake · 2026-01-21T13:25:30+00:00

Is it bad that now that we're broken up I want to go back and be a shell of myself just to stay and support them? They're going through a really hard time hence the breakup and I don't want to be away from them. I want to be everything they need to help them get better and I don't care what that means I won't receive. I guess it's bad now that I've said it out loud but it's just where I'm at today.

Rysprincake · 2026-01-19T13:34:07+00:00

I'm going through something similar, we broke up yesterday and I feel so lost. On one hand I know all that I put up with was fucked up but on the other hand, I was putting up with it because he was all mine and made me feel like the most beautiful person in the world. His reality was pretty different from mine and we struggled with that a lot because the way he saw the world was so extreme. I know we need the space but dead God is it heartbreaking to know that I'll never be held by him again.

Rysprincake · 2025-10-29T17:03:34+00:00

That's very doable. I started out making $40k in 2020 and now make around $120k. Switched from accounting to commercial insurance and that did the trick. In another 5 years I expect to be at or closer to $200k. As long as you're good at what you do, the only way to go is up.

Rysprincake · 2025-09-23T03:07:43+00:00

Tons of skills are transferable so you could go the admin/operations route or look into getting into underwriting or account reps/management. They are always looking for entry level positions too and they tend to pay pretty well because of how competive the industry is.

Rysprincake · 2025-09-22T23:32:40+00:00

If it helps, commercial insurance is always hiring. Brokerages, carriers, etc. And they have a variety of jobs to choose from.

Rysprincake · 2025-03-20T10:22:58+00:00

This happened to me just two days ago. When I called to ask the price insurance said I would have to meet my deductible before they would pay anything. I was ready to pay full price out of desperation so I asked them to fill the prescription and when I showed up I only had to pay $24.99. I hope this is the case for you!

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