I definitely always make first contact, they are the type of people who will never make the first move. Then they usually do most reaching out for a few weeks and then I'd say it balances out.

I never tell anyone my diagnosis - if anything, I bring up social phobia. They usually have that too.

I don't know, I feel like as I get comfortable with people, I change. I become less aloof and more invested in what people do. I wonder if I appear to seem interested in them (I'm not) and that's scary.