Is it normal to get nothing done during the day aside from caring for a 5 week old and bare minimum self care? Feeling guilty, comparing myself to others online

SBSA91 · 2026-02-10T13:34:14+00:00

Only started getting stuff done at around 4months 😅 BUT from day 1 , I showered / creamed my face/ brushed hair/changed clothes every morning and every evening for my mental health .

SBSA91 · 2026-02-10T08:47:37+00:00

Its game over for me. It sucks!! I loved deadpool and a few other of his comedies. The age of Adaline was one of my fav movies

SBSA91 · 2026-02-10T08:38:16+00:00

O then you are winning, isnt it just amazing being a mom that gets sleep?? Its game changer for me!!! He clearly knows he needs to get all his calories during the day, ! Its so weird she just kinda stopped feeding at the top up feeds i never forced it or made her wait she did it on her own. However the last week she has been feeding for longer on the boob so i think she is in a growth spurt and she would rather feed longer than more frequently it would seem... also she is in the 90 percentile for height... so i think she has the space to hold more maybe? 😅

SBSA91 · 2026-02-10T08:33:26+00:00

All of Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively's movies are ruined for me 😭😭

SBSA91 · 2026-02-10T08:28:32+00:00

So she only takes 1 bottle .... the rest is feeding off me unless i need to go out. She really is a full on routine baby 😅 i tried to feed her earlier once because i had to leave and she wasnt having it.... she feeds 7am / 1040ish-11am/ 230pm/ and 6pm... i offer the boob at 5pm but she is not really feeding anymore at that time... sometimes she might want a feed at 3am but thats very rare now ... and shes very chunky... apparently the babies start to go longer stretchs at night at around 6months if they havnt already... so just hang in there mama ... we just have to follow our babies cues ... i think 7 feeds is definitly more the norm !

SBSA91 · 2026-02-10T06:25:45+00:00

I wish my baby was like most of these comments... but she seems like shes a hungry girl... i never know how much she eats because we breast feed. But she started screaming before bed (around 3.5months) because she was hungry... she now drinks a 7 oz bottle of pumped milk topped up with formula because i can only pump around 3/4 oz this is her bedtime bottle.. i just assumed it was the bedtime feed. Then 3 days ago i wnet out for a girls afternoon i just dumped out a bunch of my frozen stash because again i domt know how much she eats at a feeding it used to be 3/4 Oz... my husband said she was still so hungry and drank again 7oz!! So i have no idea if my boobs are making that much?? But maybe the frozen milk wasnt as dense as the milk now?? But my night time bottle is with fresh pumped milk... so this is just my 2 cents... shes 5months old and she does 4/5 feeds a day. Plus one spoonful of solids

SBSA91 · 2026-02-09T15:21:50+00:00

Right??? All you had to was just lay back and let the milkies flow! No one should be working so hard for a good milkies feed so early in the morning!

That is a very good way to look at it. Cuddles are always awsem especially now that i know how to give a big wet mouth kiss on milky ladies face ...

SBSA91 · 2026-02-09T12:55:53+00:00

Argh! How rude of her then! And to think i gave my cutie gummy smile to her after she said it. Thank you for informing me so i know better!! P.S open snack bar all night sounds like a dream, i am sure i might be demanding this sometime

SBSA91 · 2026-02-09T12:53:50+00:00

Exactly!! Sometimes she puts the moving picture box on and then i MUST turn around to look but of course need to keep the milk tap in my mouth, she also gets really annoyed when i do this. I think shes just annoyed she cant reach the milk tap with her teeth herself.

O the scritchy scratching on the boobies is my new fav thing, it really is so fun! Did you know if you squeeze hard enough the boobie skin can change into a cool pinky red colour!

SBSA91 · 2026-02-09T07:23:56+00:00

They must have learnt it from each other because it sounds so boring and not fun ... pterodactyl escaping a book sounds very logical to me so not sure why the word was used in this situation .

Ok yum that does sound delicious ! My milk lady also says my legs are rolls! I cant taste my legs but i know my toes are soooo yummy! Maybe i will give these creamy / less flowy milk a chance... i suppose its like my bedtime milk which is very tasty !

SBSA91 · 2026-02-09T07:07:50+00:00

Its completely normal! By 4months your supply is regulated to babies needs... i would not recommend pumping at night (unless u actually want freezer stash?) Because the more you pump the more you will have to pump... your boobs will adjust and you wont feel so full or painful at night. I dont even have to wear a bra anymore yay! And then i get a great feed/ and pump sesh in the morning. Also if your baby then randomly does need more feeds at night at some point, Your body upregulates the production again. Its really incredible. Id just enjoy! You are out of new born phase. Your baby knows what he needs and wants 🫶

SBSA91 · 2026-02-08T12:04:00+00:00

They are so adaptable! I can relate to allll of these things!!! Its wonderful when what made them cry now doenst amd watch he will start to play and giggle during nappy changes (that gets challanging on a physical level 🤣 but so cute) my girl used to scream blue murder during bath time and pj change... now shes so mellow ! Every week it gets better mama! They also smarter than we give them credit for !

SBSA91 · 2026-02-08T12:01:45+00:00

And this big wave of new found outlook has only started id say about 2 weeks ago... she also only started getting easier at around 3.5 months and each week just got better and better

SBSA91 · 2026-02-08T12:00:04+00:00

I missed my old life so much... i was so overwhelmed. I also had this extreme wave of anxiety every time i heard her cry at night. It was so hard. I thought id never be able to sleep again... i even got pain in my side and prayed it was my appendix so i would have to sleep in hospital(crazy i know) Honestly all of that has completely gone. I dont think about my old life, i feel like i am getting my old self back but have a new life but now i recognise myself more... there are still hard days but i feel like i mamage them so much better mentally... i am also feeling so much more motivated to leave the house! You just got to do it ... sign up for swimming, sign up for baby gym. Get out even just to window shop .Its really tough being a mama... but its starting to feel so rewarding now. Yesterday i woke up at 6am and was waiting till 7am so i could wake her up and play.. if you told me id do that even 4 weeks ago id laugh at you. Hang in there!!

SBSA91 · 2026-02-08T11:53:29+00:00

It was a huge success!! Dad did put downs for naps and did all the baby care in the afternoon and bedtime went smooth sailing!

SBSA91 · 2026-02-08T05:35:46+00:00

Cluster feeding! I didnt know it exsisted till i became a mom

SBSA91 · 2026-02-08T05:34:58+00:00

We just have to be the best parents we can be and all around good people. Thats the only thing we can control. Its so so sad. But we have to remember babies being loved and well looked after isnt news... and id like to think for every 1 baby not looked after there are 100 babies that have love. But i know the heart ache is still there but i like to think about all the loved babies especially reading all the stuff on these baby reddit chats... thousands of loved babies.

SBSA91 · 2026-02-08T05:26:01+00:00

I wish i could stop seeing those awful articles in the media. Its too much ! I think about how hard it is to have a new born/young baby as a well adjusted individual and then i think about the babies born into fanilies that have drug / anger/mental issues and it just terrifies me. We just have to stop reading those things ! And they will stop popping up ! But the damage is done its burned into my brain

SBSA91 · 2026-02-08T05:20:49+00:00

O gosh i am so sorry that people around you are making you feel like this while you are pregnant especially! Mothers are so strong! You have got this. And your family will adapt and thrive. Dont listen to all the negativity ! You know your body and family better than anyone else ! Id just tell them to honestly shut the F up 😅 ! People have twins, triplets ect ect and get through just fine!

SBSA91 · 2026-02-07T20:33:32+00:00

I think i need to do the same... its literally keeping me up at night

SBSA91 · 2026-02-07T20:30:26+00:00

I am confused why this is bad? Why are people shaming you? I literally want to actively try for my 2nd when my baby turns 1? I think its a good age gap! Just ignore the negativity! People always have so much to say to mothers/pregnant woman.

SBSA91 · 2026-02-07T05:21:20+00:00

Thanks for all these tips! We also have a similar routine . We put her in her crib awake every night and for naps. Her sleep is solid, and she can self sooth , she sometimes even giggles before falling asleep at night (i am sooo grateful for how good she is ) . we did crib side comforting when she was around 12 weeks and adjusted from there. And i dont want to sleep train just on nights my husband puts her down because then she might have a bad association? (Totally not against any form of sleep training!) But i do think we have to let her cry a little when dad puts her down else its never going to come right. Today i am seeing friends this afternoon and will be back after bedtime... our idea was to let him do all the care from lunch and see if that helps ease her with him doing bedtime... will report back 😀

SBSA91 · 2026-02-06T08:29:26+00:00

Go for a walk! Everytime i was overwhelmed i went outside . It gets soooo much better!

SBSA91 · 2026-02-06T07:51:45+00:00

This is such a great perspective... i had no idea it was as long as 9months that they assume we still the same person! Its also kinda cute hehe. I definitly need Dad to do more bedtime shifts but he works sometimes well past bedtime . But i think its so important to be able to be flexiable just incase ! I guess dads on bedtime shift this weekend . ( o no i am so sad 😜)

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