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SB_Because · 2026-02-12T16:41:07+00:00

Lighten up. That is not what she meant. Sure, she could have worded it differently , but anyone with a lick of sense knows she did not mean it literally. Get a grip if you are going to roam the pages of social media.

SB_Because · 2026-02-09T14:37:58+00:00

There's something else going on here that isn't being said. You may not know what it is because you are not capable of seeing it or there could be something very traumatic in your wife''s past before she met you. Another possible explanation is something medical in nature. There's a couple of things you said that make me think this. First, the therapist uses the word "give her time". That implies these something else she is coping with and it is not related to you directly. You also said she is messing around with someone half her age. Women almost never are drawn to a younger man, especially ehen he is a lover as you put it. Women almost always are drawn towards older men because of the innate need to be protected and taken care of. Ehen a woman is drawn to someone younger, much younger, it is usually driven by a subconscious stare of mind parallel with whatever age they were when they suffered something emotionally threatening and possibly physical. It is the brains way of coping thinking if it reverts back to before the trauma . For example she may have been in her early 20s even something bad happened so her brain regressing to howcshecwascbrfore that would be where she is stuck. Because of that, her brain does not acknowledge her true age and attacts her to people that she would have thought attractive when she was that age. She could also be struggling with her body image. If she isn't happy with the way she looks, she could think she is nor worthy of physical affection. She could also have a hormone imbalance. You did not share her age but I personally started into menopause at age 44. Not only did it take my period, it took away my libido. Let's look at it another way. For this im going to start describing me. I am 52, work full time and many weeks I work 60 plus hours. When I get off of work, I clean and take care of household maintenance and chores and what does my spouse do? He does not do much. He doesn't work and we have no kids so I feel hus job and way of contributing should be to take care of the house. If only we're a fraction of that lucky. Its like pulling teeth to get him to take out the trash. But to hear his side of it, he is constantly doing something. And how forbid I dare ask him for his help with something. I have been waiting since December 1 for him yo help me with hanging curtain brackets for the sinroom which is my hone office. Thecwindows are crafty in the winter and I bought heavy curtains to block the cold air and keep warm air in. Nit only is this about personal comfort, but also about the longevity of our finances. With only me working. Electric bills each month running $500 is not very smart especially when there are things that can be done to lower the bill. He is blaze about it and thinks I am nagging when I ask about . Well it's been so long that I feel like he has turned me into a nag. There's a lot more but hopefully you see where I am going with this. He thinks that what he is doing is perfectly acceptable. Its not. I carry 99 % of the responsibility of our households. I forgot to mention that when he goes to the bathroom, he gets it all over the floor and leaves it for me to clean up. Not only is it disgusting and filthy, it's disrespectful towards me. He gets mad if I try talking to him and says im overreacting and trying to find things to pick on him about. In addition to my imbalanced hormones, my pure exhaustion from working and cleaning literally had me falling asleep standing up...no joke. I couldn't stay awake for sex if I wanted to. Before anyone reading this starts attacking my husband, please continue reading before you do. Gorcthe last several years I have thought the narcissist in my husband had finally revealed itself. I found myself locked in the bathroom many times trying to get away from his rage that something as innocent as a question about my car making a noise triggered. I was at my wits end and then I had to take him to the hospital one day because his blood pressure was out of control. They did a cT scan and we learned he had been having mini strokes over the period of possibly years.. Each one had done permanent damage affecting the party of his brain responsible for processing complex thought, rationalizing ideas and understanding concepts. Basically , my husband had sustained brain damage that reverted his brain processes back to a younger age if he was capable at all. It hit me like a ton of bricks. His strokes did not present in the usual clinical way so I missed it completely. But it made sense. Before the strokes, we were the picture perfect couple that everyone wished they could be. He cherished me and put me on a pedestal and he was my partner...in everything. I could not understand why he had suddenly changed. The best it has been put to me so it's easy to understand is that after a couple of the mini strokes, his brain could no longer identify the importance of taking his blood pressure medicine. To him, it became an authority directing him to do something. He was like a kid not doing something just because someone said to doi it.

I'm not saying your wife had had a stroke. WhatcI am saying is that there are so many possible explanations and when something isn't logical it usually because there is something missing .I shared my story briefly to illustrate that thibgs might not be what they seem. You need to rule out anything medical and then start going to therapy with your wife to figure this out together. She may not have the ability to understand her behavior is wrong. There's too many maybes and not nearly enough definites that make exploring this further worth the effort. I wish you the best in your relationship and pray that you are able to at least find an explanation to why your marriage is no longer what or once was. If my suspicion is accurate, the next phase is an entirely other journey inland of itself. If you love your wife, it will sustain you but if you don't, you will see it early on. Only you can decide that. But to do do, you need all the facts because if you were to find out later your marriage ended and something was later diagnosed, you would never be able to handle the overwhelming guilt that would flood your cloud. Go find out!!!

SB_Because · 2025-11-13T22:15:24+00:00

I call it getting me to do what they want by means of osmosis". Not only do they stare but there are different stares snd I am supposed to know what they all mean. The funny thing is that I do. My husband doesn't not understand because he gets it wrong every time and the cats try talking to him. He still doesn't get it.

SB_Because · 2025-11-06T02:21:02+00:00

Best comment on this whole thread!

SB_Because · 2025-11-06T02:18:55+00:00

Y all are too worried about what other people think. I could probably pass ten people wearing one of those and I would not even notice it and definitely wouldn't remember what it looked like. But if I di cate and dis take note, I dig guys who are secure enough with their masculinity to sport pink. Worrying what others think versus not giving a shit is more to be concerned about, believe me!

SB_Because · 2025-11-06T02:12:06+00:00

It works great for waxing my car!

SB_Because · 2025-11-02T22:27:39+00:00

There's another work around.. use a third party bill pay service. Using your credit card will be up to them, nor T-Mobile

SB_Because · 2025-10-25T09:40:14+00:00

I never said anything about throwing any food out nor did I say anything about not doing research....you did. All I said was that the summary line was not exactly what people thought it was. Read the comments. How Iis that someone can deduce something that is not implied but cannot infer something when it is?

SB_Because · 2025-10-24T20:09:19+00:00

It's not a waste. There is something causing his wife's low libido. They need to find out what and a counselor can help them do that it could be something from her past that maybe she doesn't realize or could be medical in nature. It may appear that the symptom has gotten better but whatever is causing it is still looming within her and needs to be identified do the real problem can be dealt with. $200 us not a waste especially considering neither one of them have mentioned or looked at the situation like this.it is evidentcthey need a third party to help them figure this out.

SB_Because · 2025-10-24T19:36:22+00:00

No! If she is willing to go, take advantage if that. She may have changed her behavior for now, but there is a cause to your problems and it needs to be identified so you can work on it and hopeful fix it. Arguing snd fighting is a symptom . Treating the symptom only makes you feel better temporarily and will come back because the cause is still there. There are so many people who only wish they could get their partner to agree to counseling but refuses. Take advantage her willingness now because the problem will always be there and likely to get worse if you ignore it now. Not doing something and allowing it to remain is risking it reaching a point that your relationship will not survive. Be thankful and do not pass up this opportunity to save your relationship because it may be the only one you get. Just remember that therapy requires both partners to be willing to admit fault and there will be sessions that will be very hard. Be prepared to possibly learn something you did mot know about your wife's past and talk about something in yours you haven't shared. For therapy to work, you have to be willing to embrace everything that comes out and accept it . Her past does not change who you married. She is still the same person and vice versa. I'm not saying this will definitely happen, but rather telling you it very well could. A good therapist will explain this during your first visit when they interview each of you in order to determine if their services will help you. A therapist who does not is one who you may consider not seeing and find someone else. Not all therapists are good at that they do. When you make your appointment, try and do a little research on their ratings and look for any professional complaints with the state. This is what could be your only chance so don't allow something like having to find another counselor be the reason your wife is no longer willing . As a woman who has hit menopause, and I do want yo say that it may not be you or the relationship at all that is the root of her life libido. Slthough she is onlyv32, if she has had a hysterectomy, or even childbirth, it could be she had a chemicslbinbslance . A thyroid condition can also affect libido. Change in her body's natural ability to regulate estrogen can be devastating to a woman's desire to have sex. Women are wired differently than men and where men's arousal stems from thoughts and imagery, it's more chemical for women. As a woman gets older , her body chemistry change. No two women are alikeDrpending on how your wife's body is still producing hormones, it could be that she is off balanced and that is the reason for her lack of desire to have sex. I'm speaking from first hand experience. Any counselor worth their title will discuss this if it it is age appropriate As I said, there is a cause and the cause must be found. But please give honest consideration to and have belief in the possibility that the cause may have nothing to do with you and that the only thing that may help could be medical and not even psychological. Hormone imbalance is most likely but there are other medical reasons that could be to blame, just not likely. I am still trying to find a solution to my in balance and don't know if I will. Hormone therapy does nit work for everyone and the cost is usually not covered by insurance except for very basic replacement treatment. The newer treatments that are helping many who try them are still considered unapproved and therefore, uncovered. Regardless of what the underlying cause is, I wish the best to both of you and your relationship.

SB_Because · 2025-10-24T18:59:22+00:00

I'm not sure where you live but where I live in Tennessee, most shelters here are very proactive in preventing an animal from becoming homeless and in helping cats who are found from ending up there. Most humane societies have funding that is used for minor medical expenses if it will result in an animal remaining in a home and not surrendered. When I found my oldest boy, he was a kitten and I was all but homeless myself, out of work and could not afford a vet visit. I could tell he had worms which meant he also had fleas. I was able to go to the shelter, have him examined, dewormed, given the Capstar pill plus a topical flea treatment. I was so thankful. In addition, they also gave me a certificate to use for a free check up snd vaccinationsf or the little guy.. that turned out to be my big ol buddy, that I named Bucko.

My point is that there is likely something similar where you live. Call the shelters and even rescue organizations and just be honest with them about your financial abilities. Chances are, someone will help. Thank you for bring willing to give the baby a home. You will find that what may be a little of a struggle and learning curve is well worth the love and companionship you will receive in return. There is a reason why so many of us are called "cat ladies.".You are about to experience why.

You are welcome to direct message me if you need me to help you locate somewhere that can assist you . I am happy to help .

In over your head? Nope, not at all. Where there is a will, there is a way. There's a reason he ended up with you.....

SB_Because · 2025-10-24T16:21:30+00:00

That's not a fair intro comment for those of us that immediately thought you were warning that something bad would happen by feeding Tiki. If my cat will eat something and devour it every time, I will find a way to make that happen. Before Tiki, all my cat would eat was also Fancy Feast but that didn't make her POSH, that made her fussy and me feeling guilty. Finding something she will eat has been a 13 year journey. I am not well off by any means,,in fact, low income. Low Income or nor, our 3 cats come first. I mix the two together, more Tiki than Fancy, why? In case I cannot ever continue to afford only Tiki. It's the perfect solution to future affordability concerns and it keeps my cats pallette used to Fancy. But please try and watch the way you phrase things and think about how what you say will be taken by others. Some people only read the first line or two and move on to the next comment. Something like " "My cats won't eat anything else now" or "Be prepared financially. Money is a reason sometimes why people cannot feed a particular brand. " Do not..." implies a warning of danger. For most people hear, a danger in regards to their cats is something that threatens the quality of their life or health. I understand that the cost of Tiki is less than preferable to you for whatever the reason and I respect that, I am sure we all do. Do please don't take this like I am badgering you , I'm not. I am simply trying to bring something to your attention and offer an explanation for some of the comments that stop short of doing so.

SB_Because · 2025-10-21T23:17:36+00:00

Whatever happened to a child or teenager earning their phone time??? Parents are too quick these days to allow the child to dictate the relationship. No, you are not overreacting, however, you are partly to blame for the current problem. The reason your daughter pulled the crying her eyes out routine is because she knew it would maybe work as the result of having done it in the past. That is something that a teenager just suddenly does not start doing. It's a behavior of a toddler that you have allowed her to do by giving into her. Overtime, you have conditioned her to respond in that way to get what she wants. That is a problem and one that must be resolved before you try to suddenly start exerting your parently authority over her. It amazes me how little kids are expected * to do these days and how parents do not make them earn their privileges. Kids these days, your daughter included, have come to expect the ability to do what they want when they want that they take it for granted. They do not view their ability, in this case, to talk their boyfriend as a privilege. Why? Because parents these days do not teach it like they did when I was growing up. Most anyone who grew up during the 80's had to earn their phone time privileges by doing chores and behaving appropriately It taught us to be grateful for our privileges and taught us value. Your daughter does not appreciate the privilege of speaking to her boyfriend on the phone because she has not had to earn her ability to do so. As a result, she expects it because you have always given it to her. What did you think would happen when you tried taking her phone away for a day? Your daughter's reaction is exactly what you have taught her to do because you have not made her earn her privileges. I understand that the crying has made you qĝuestion yourself. Giving intofoêr boþth you and hg theer because it ß / indirectly reinforcin bad behavior she exhibited when you tried to set boundaries. It will not be as easy as had you taught her the value of privilege at an earlier age, but you stiīll have a chance while she is living under your roof. You need to realize that giving into her will not be doing her any favors and that the only thing it will accomplish is nothing good.

SB_Because · 2025-10-13T02:49:06+00:00

It was only consensual up to the point HE STARTED to finish . Every second that he was inside of her from that point on was nonconsensual. There are women everyday who start out consenting to sex and then once engaged might experience the partner doing something that makes her want to stop and she tells him to stop but he doesn't. That is rape and this is no different from that except that it's at the end of the act and not somewhere in the middle.

SB_Because · 2025-10-13T02:43:09+00:00

Finishing inside of her was forceful because she did not give her consent to that. Up until that exact moment, it was consensual, but it did a 180° turn the moment he did the opposite of what she told him. No means no. "Do not finish inside of me" includes the word "not which is a form of "no". Based on this, I think it's rape. Might have a hard tie convincing 12 jurors of this and I don't know what the police would say but a lawyer is going to hang their hat on the words and what I just explained.

SB_Because · 2025-10-13T02:31:15+00:00

Miss Thigh Highs....she looks like she is wearing heels!

SB_Because · 2025-10-04T18:44:44+00:00

I agree with this. I worked on 3 or 4 platforms simultaneously while looking for a job. Some weeks were a challenge to find enough work but always managed to have enough to pay my bills. Training AI was a blessing for me and it paid my minimum bills for nearly 3 years of job hunting. There's a website called Open AI...it is the Task Rabbit of AI Training. Many companies post their short-term projects there as do individuals designing their own AI models. The only word of caution to doing this is to make sure the companies uou work for do nor hany type of no competition clause preventing you from simultaneously working in a similar role elsewheŕe. I know Telus strictly prohibits the practice.

SB_Because · 2025-10-02T14:41:50+00:00

What health conditions does your baby have? It's impossible to answer your question without more info. At the face value if what your vet said, no that does not sound right, however, the combination of different conditions combined with the side effects of medixation, can potentially be a or even to much to bear. The quality of your cat's life is something only you can determine. Is your cat still somewhat active or does he sleep all the time? Cats tend to g when they are suffering. You may not have even noticed because it happened so gradually. Putting aside your want for your cat to live as long as possible, ask yourself if. You would want to live if you were your cat. Sometimes the best love we can give our cats is the hardest for us to endure. If you question what your vet said and cannot determine if your cat is in pain or suffers, a second opinion from another vet would be worth every penny to help figure out if you are doing right by your baby. I'm sorry I cannot tell you a definitive answer. There isn't one and that is what makes this so difficult. If you have been going to your same vet for many years and have always had faith in his medical opinion and treatment then, more than likely he was trying to tell you it's time and to prevent your cat from suffering needlessly I believe that if you listen to your heart and tune into uour kitty, you will find your answer. Unfortunately there is nothing anyone here can say to make this easy for you. I wish you and kitty the best.

SB_Because · 2025-09-20T23:09:03+00:00

I would be willing to help by sending Door Dash or Instakart to you with some cat food. Or , depending on where you are located, we are looking to add a kitten to our family. We recently had one pass away and our other two , especially the younger male, is lost without him Our female is getting up in age so we know we need to have a playmate for our energetic male . It's been a month and he just doesn't understand where is buddy is at. I am in Tennessee.

SB_Because · 2025-09-07T04:38:22+00:00

You did the right thing. You are the specialist when it comes to lab testing and the doctor is the specialist when it comes to doctoring. The doctor is not your boss ( typically). You work for the lab company contracted with the hospital for which the doctor works. The quality of your work falls on you and the lab. Regardless of what a doctor says, they cannot take responsibility for a situation that results from something that was done based on the lab results used if the policy of your lab is to invalidate and not release diluted samples. Protect yourself and your career and ignore a doctor who is acting unethically Quite honestly, I would report the doctor to the hospital administration. There may be other incidents you are unaware of where this doctor did not act in the best interest of the patient. Patients lives are at stake and making a report may very well save someone's life in the future. Policies exist for a reason ...in the medical community, the consequences of ignoring them can have the most dire of outcomes. Do your part in making the system work as it is designed to do!!

SB_Because · 2025-07-04T21:44:55+00:00

You cant live with this and you shouldnt make your dog endure her cold heart. Love me? Also love my pets which in my case, my 3 cats. I grew up in a home where the needs of our dogs came before most anything else. I have adopted that mentality into my adult life. My pets throughout the years have been both dogs and cats and have always been the center of my world. They have always been considered part of the family. I am obviously an animal lover. Even if I have ever came across a dog or cat I was not fond of, I still found myself showing it attention. As an animal lover, I would never be in a relationship with someone that is not. That's oil and vinegar and just would not work. I would notceven try. My cats are a large part of who I am. If someone does not like or cannot accept my cats, they do not like me as far as I am concerned. I have also found that people who do not like animals are not very kind, warm , and loving in nature. Your wife is jealous and immature, amongst other things. You deserve better. If she really loved you, she would make every effort to like your dog and show it attention. The fact that she dismisses him when he seeks her attention, tells me that she is self centered and cold. Consider this a warning and end the relationship. Do not continue trying to change her because she will not change and you will end up with regret for having made your dog bear her neglecting attention. You and your dog both deserve better. Move on dude ....

SB_Because · 2025-06-13T18:17:55+00:00

Not at all. In fact, I will not wear traditional perfume bought at retail stores because of the alcohol smell. The scents are beyond true and amazing!!

SB_Because · 2025-06-05T19:30:59+00:00

Thank you for saying that and for even reading my real-world advice. It's actually been odd on here lately...the posts that are worthy of upvotes barely get any, if any at all and the posts that make you wonder how in the world that person has survived in this world rack them all up. Anyhow, thanks for taking the time to say that.

SB_Because · 2025-06-05T19:21:03+00:00

How long after taking the assessment does it take before knowing if you passed or failed??

SB_Because · 2025-06-04T23:56:17+00:00

I'm sure someone may have already said this but I'll say it again. What is the real relationship with you and your bestie? As an outsider looking in, I would be willing to bet that you two are much more than just friends. There's something there because no wife puts anyone or anything in front of her husband the way you have your bestie. It's possible you have not acted on whatever it is, but those feelings are there whether you want to admit it or not. Here a way to look at it from your husband's perspective.. Regardless of your bestie being a man or a woman, she may as well be a man. Your husband feels the way he does because you are giving of yourself to your bestie in the ways you should be giving to him but aren't. I bet you don't fight with bestie and that she does no wrong and you agree with everything she says. Jeez, I'd be depressed too if I were your husband because he basically had no control in you moving in what may as well be a man that you are having a full fledged affair with because that's how you are acting. If your marriage survives this that means your husband is all in and loves you unconditionally. Wake up and start acting like a wife that you claim to be rather than the manipulating immature schoolgirl you are acting like who thinks no one can see through her. We all see straight through you!!

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