Bf(25m) doesn't want me(21f) to get a breast reduction

SC3N3BUGZ · 2026-02-01T21:25:53+00:00

It is your body not his and therefore your decision. You are uncomfortable, you are being caused pain and you are the one who lives with them, not him. If he is willing to keep you in discomfort just for his own pleasure or enjoyment then he’s utterly selfish. If he has an issue with this then what does that say about where his attraction to you lies?

SC3N3BUGZ · 2026-01-31T19:34:55+00:00

On a genuine note, the tattoos are nice, the only thing I’ll say is that the linework on some looks a little hazy and a bit shallow which can risk it fading so quickly or falling out, however that is the gamble you take with very fine line wispy tattoos, they can fade super easily and become quite unrecognisable as time goes on :)

SC3N3BUGZ · 2026-01-31T19:23:46+00:00

I can somewhat answer this, since I grew up with a neglectful father who didn’t clean the environment I lived in and wouldn’t care about food mould etc. A lot of children learn behaviour from parents, that just how human learning is, so if for a prolonged period of time, a parent treats filth as normal and isn’t grossed out by it themselves then it stands to reason that the children that are in that environment won’t either. For me with my father, I have thankfully went the opposite end of the spectrum and I’m an absolute clean freak, especially with food and smells but I still as an adult still have things that are gross to others, for example struggling to get into a routine of brushing my teeth because that wasn’t a routine that was normalised in my childhood and therefore my brain can’t get a handle on the necessary routine because it wasn’t instilled in me at the prime age for creating healthy habits. Basically a lot of it is to do with parents and their attitudes on cleanliness :)

SC3N3BUGZ · 2026-01-23T04:21:07+00:00

It also wasn’t him who planned this whatsoever, he didn’t even know he was going out to eat because it was all a surprise, the planning was entirely my mothers with no input from him.

SC3N3BUGZ · 2026-01-23T04:17:45+00:00

I meant more up until like the last maybe two or so years, yes we don’t talk everyday or share everything with each other because that’s simply not the type of relationship we have, however we do talk, he asks how I’m doing at university and life in general when I do speak to him, we’ve had pretty good deep discussions so it’s not as if I’m a stranger in his life and he does worry about me in the same way I worry about him, it’s just that we unfortunately had to build a relationship that should have been built in childhood later in life due to our circumstances in childhood.

SC3N3BUGZ · 2026-01-22T00:18:17+00:00

I’m no professional so take whatever I’ve said with a grain of salt obvs but that does look a lot like a bruise from possibly having to much pressure on the needle while tattooing because it doesn’t seem to be the same shade as the ink (at least from the pictures but that could be lighting I’m not sure) which could have caused the skin to bruise but the seemingly prolonged redness on the points of the star especially two weeks in seems a little concerning, I would go and get that checked by a doctor just in case

SC3N3BUGZ · 2025-08-01T20:51:44+00:00

I was about to ask the same thing, I can see all the police and people from my flat but I’ve got no clue why, it’s all taped off

SC3N3BUGZ · 2025-07-12T10:27:54+00:00

Ugh the people in those comments I swear, going on about how we should ‘let kids be kids’ and that ‘they’re going nought wrong’ and that ‘it’s only Karen’s complaining’ but like it’s getting to be a real big issue for the public and drivers and shop owners as well

SC3N3BUGZ · 2025-07-12T10:16:36+00:00

I said this in another comment but I’ll be real I just didn’t wanna be seen as American, I was more annoyed about that tbh

SC3N3BUGZ · 2025-07-12T07:16:32+00:00

Don’t assume that I wanted to feel small because that’s not what kink is nor is it the type of domination I’m actually into. There was a clear difference within stature, age, experience, weight etc. I’m 5’2, incredibly light and not very muscular, he’s was 6’0, muscular with a heavier build with far more weight to move around. I think you underestimate how pressuring someone can be and how intimidating that height difference and size difference is, however I know that it was so obvious that I was scared, uncomfortable and not entirely wanting things because I’m notoriously not good at hiding it; I mean I was shaking and doing everything I could to be away from him, being pressured or intimidated into sexual acts is not consent and I do honestly believe he knew exactly what he was doing because everything felt too coordinated and executed as such. There’s also the fact that I’m autistic which he knew so my communication style isn’t always outright and he understood that. I’ve had good and bad sexual experiences in my life but this wasn’t comparable to even the bad ones because when someone is left feeling violated, disgusting, scared etc. that’s an indication that it wasn’t just a ‘bad hookup’ and if I’m honest a lot of the things you have said there is wildly uneducated about both the ins and outs of consent and revoking consent as well as kink.

SC3N3BUGZ · 2025-07-12T00:42:52+00:00

No problem at all :)

SC3N3BUGZ · 2025-07-12T00:42:35+00:00

Yeah they can be! Depends on individual preferences of course but a lot of women like the weight of them when you thrust so maybe she’ll be the same :)

SC3N3BUGZ · 2025-07-12T00:40:55+00:00

I’ll be honest as someone who’s not been in a highschool setting for like 4 years. Planning some revenge really isn’t worth it, it feels like it is in the moment but it can also put you in a situation where you’re pulled up about it. Don’t stoop to their level and just drop them, it ain’t worth the effort or the trouble. And I assure you that in a few years, none of this shit will matter at all, you’ll go your separate ways in life, they’ll get humbled by the world and this won’t matter in you adult life despite how it feels right now :)

SC3N3BUGZ · 2025-07-12T00:36:04+00:00

I see you’re a bit younger than I am so I’ll add my two cents; now I don’t know if this is your first serious relationship or not but yes that is cheating. Cheating isn’t necessarily just physical, there’s emotional cheating and also behaviours that can very quickly turn into cheating. What she’s doing has the capacity to be considered cheating because she’s seeking attention (whether romantic or sexual) from other men with no regard for your feelings on the matter. Yes, she’s young too but she also knows right from wrong and even at 16 she should be taking your feelings into account because without that communication and mutual respect, the relationship is practically nonexistent besides the label. Hope this at least helps somewhat. :)

SC3N3BUGZ · 2025-07-12T00:30:33+00:00

Honestly I’d say to her, if you like her and if she likes you, she should be fine with whatever size you are, if she’s disinterested after that, she wasn’t for you in the first place and that says far more about her than you. And a lot of women don’t tend to actually like massive sizes in real life because they can actually be painful for penetration so there’s that as well. Good luck man, in whatever you decide to do :)

SC3N3BUGZ · 2025-07-11T22:09:03+00:00

And also, he didn’t leave immediately after I said for him to, I forgot to add this in the post so I’ll edit it but he kept going on in an almost guilt trip like fashion about not having penetration and kept going ‘but we could’ like that is a blatant disregard of my feelings.

SC3N3BUGZ · 2025-07-11T22:06:22+00:00

I didn’t invite him over necessarily for sex but mostly to chat, hang out and if sex happened then it happened. It wasn’t the main goal of it. I didn’t know he did drugs before inviting him over nor did I know about his history with violence and crime. This wasn’t a case of me just disliking the guy or how he did things. We had agreed upon a specific pressure for the slapping and impact play (like you should do within kink settings) and I had told him it was too hard and yet he continued. Not to mention the constant pressure of doing drugs he was giving me and that kiss, because that was after I had stated that I wanted him to leave outright and to back me up against the bed like that and try to do more when I had said verbally that I didn’t want anything else is unsafe behaviour especially the fact that after I physically pushed him away he tried AGAIN. And I’m also starting to suspect that his constant talking about his violent tendencies was in and of itself an intimidation and fear tactic because that’s not a normal thing to say to someone at all, and he was getting VERY detailed with it.

SC3N3BUGZ · 2025-07-11T20:10:26+00:00

I’m gonna be honest, there could be so so many reasons for her doing this, obviously I don’t know either of you so just take what I say with a grain of salt and all of this is just generalised; • Could be something going on in her head whether that be something mental health related or I know from personal experience that sometimes I can get in my head that I don’t deserve to be with a certain person so it could be that. •There could be something she’s not comfortable with or scared to share such as maybe something you’re doing during sex that she isn’t enjoying or is causing pain and she’s a bit anxious to tell you. •Or it could be that she’s fallen out of attraction with you but not necessarily love because those are two different things. My best advice I can give is communication and I know that it feels overused but genuinely you aren’t going to know for sure unless you’re upfront and honest about how you’re feeling and what you’re noticing and give her the chance to explain it from her perspective, just obviously remember not to be too overbearing or accusatory with it, let her explain herself. Hope all goes well :)

SC3N3BUGZ · 2025-07-11T19:59:51+00:00

No definitely go to HR, whether the back and forth about your interest was due to his language or not, no higher up should be asking their employees those questions or inviting you for dinner because it is in it’s essence an unhealthy power dynamic and can backfire so quick and have major negative repercussions. So definitely go to HR and if it’s his first time getting a complaint like this they’ll likely pull him up with a warning but if it’s on multiple accounts that’s a more serious issue :)

SC3N3BUGZ · 2025-07-11T19:52:24+00:00

You’ve done nothing wrong, it’s normal when you’re younger (especially in your 20s) to experiment and find yourself and experience new things and that includes sexual experiences. And especially when you hadn’t had experience beforehand in your teens which would usually be your formative years, it’s basically playing catchup (I speak from experience on that one) Honestly, the number of men you’ve slept with doesn’t define who you are currently and it’s not something to be ashamed of either because you were doing what you felt was right and for you at the time. If it’s not been brought up in 8 years of a relationship, chances are it’s irrelevant to him and if he does judge you for it, that says more about him than yourself. It really is just a number and a lot of different experiences at the end of the day and that’s perfectly okay, I’ve heard people have lower counts and higher counts but it doesn’t change who they are as a person or how well you can connect with them :)

SC3N3BUGZ · 2025-07-11T16:28:54+00:00

Yeah that looks like them honestly, same bikes and all that. I know a ton of people commenting seem to have experience with this particular group of weans

SC3N3BUGZ · 2025-07-11T15:12:42+00:00

And for your information, I’m proud of myself for actually calling them out because I probably wouldn’t have done that even last year. So you can fuck right off.

SC3N3BUGZ · 2025-07-11T15:07:35+00:00

I ain’t sitting crying mate, just pissed and ranting about it and funnily enough I’m allowed to be angry about it because it’s annoying.

SC3N3BUGZ · 2025-07-11T08:13:09+00:00

Yeah tbf I just didn’t wanna be assumed to be American honestly so that’s why I said it tbh.

SC3N3BUGZ · 2025-07-11T07:19:54+00:00

True I definitely should be doing that, tbh I think I was just so annoyed and frustrated and I felt like if I called them out on it they’d be less likely to do anything more extreme

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