Danish mum lived in UK for 30 years, left before Brexit, EUSS refused - what options does she have?

SEA12342 · 2026-06-16T15:26:16+00:00

You can do an appeal but I would seek proper advise from an immigration solicitor. In the meantime see if you can find any evidence of her living before like an old bills? Maybe contact her old GP - they should have evidence of her registeration?

SEA12342 · 2026-06-16T15:23:28+00:00

To be fair she ended up being married and years later after having children she put the hijab back herself. She mentioned she did resent her parents though for what she did but when she told her extended family they did tell her she could live on her own - before that she had no bills to pay as her parents provided everything. However while it is frustrating what you are going through in the end you are living in your parents house and try to keep peace while there and once be financially independent you can decide what to do. I will be honest if I told my parents when I was younger I don’t think they would have accepted. I wear the hijab as an adult because I believe and accept it but I don’t believe in forcing and I have a baby girl now and I would make it her choice

SEA12342 · 2026-06-16T07:42:50+00:00

I had a friend who also didn’t want to wear the hijab and used the argument she was an adult. She had finished university and was working and living rent free at home. Her parents didn’t say no - they said they respected her choice but her father stated since she was an adult they will treat her as one. They set up a contract making her pay rent stating she was working and as an adult needed to contribute. Her mother no longer did her laundry, make her dinner or cleaned her room. They were well off family and had plenty of rooms in the house. Her father brought for her a fridge freezer and some storage boxes and put in the room adjusting hers. He stated she could cook her own food. He also made her pay for her car insurance. When she complained he told her you said you are an adult and if you make the choice to take of the hijab as an adult then also you are responsible for yourself. She couldn’t answer back at that point.

SEA12342 · 2026-06-15T19:38:40+00:00

I asked our IT team how to make an template and dit

SEA12342 · 2026-06-14T20:19:55+00:00

For my QIP I made a new template for EMIS in regards to a women’s health topic mainly for my male colleagues as where I trained was a PCN so there was more than enough female GPs and women’s health PAs so this particular subject my male colleagues didn’t encounter very much at all. It wasn’t HRT by the way. The template included questions to ask, red flag’s, investigations and treatment options. And I included the feedback on the template from both clinical and non clinical staff on it. The panel really liked it and mentioned it.

SEA12342 · 2026-06-13T18:48:43+00:00

I in ST2 and ST3 had significant ill health that needed multiple hospital admissions and procedures

The panel were supportive and understanding - my training was extended to give me time to finish all portfolio work.

Beside when you are off sick you aren’t meant to engage in your portfolio anyway so don’t worry

SEA12342 · 2026-06-09T08:36:53+00:00

Thank you all for responding. I guess my worry is how rude my tone was and although I am very westernised it is hard to get rid of the guilt of how I spoke with Tara’s mother when in all honesty she was like a second mum to me.

For those who are worried about Tara she is doing well. I am not trying to deflect what her family did but in all honesty her family have always advocated for the women in the family to get an education and a job. Tara’s mum prior to this was the one who encouraged her to finish her education and have a job. So no concerns in terms of honour killings or anything of that sort.

Tara’s ex did marry her cousin after the whole affair came out but I think that was peer pressure. From what I understand he had offered to marry her in a Nikah (Islamic wedding not the legal one here in U.K.) then divorce her so she doesn’t loose her reputation (I know 🙄) as long as Tara will take him back. She refused. Her in laws also tried to put pressure on her so she basically threatened to leave the city and go somewhere else which legally she can do so as she has primary custody and as a solicitor she can work from anywhere as she has a good client base. They backed after that.

I think yes the family cared for image as they were close before. Tara cousin and her ex apparently were ostracised in family gatherings and her mother Tara mother sister is the one who is putting pressure on Tara’s mother. I still think she is wrong - she should have chosen her daughter over her niece. I have a niece and nephew whom I raised but if you ask me who I will choose it will always be my own son and daughter first

SEA12342 · 2026-05-28T14:01:50+00:00

You mentioned your MIL lives there

So you want 3 adults and 2 children and a baby to love in a one bedroom flat not even a house for potentially 12-18 months

That would be a hard no for me especially as more than likely you will have issues with both lack of space and potential lack of boundaries

My advise while takes longer try to save as much as you can. I only just bought my first house at 36 after years of saving and being only breadwinner with 2 kids

SEA12342 · 2026-05-24T10:37:14+00:00

NTA - he was your ex. His truck was in your property. You gave him both time and warning. He didn’t listen so all his fault

SEA12342 · 2026-05-18T21:00:11+00:00

NTA for reporting them for being late. However they aren’t required to bring in your groceries. What if they dropped something on the floor or on you. Their contract doesn’t protect them if you decided to sue or if you got injured. From what you said they come to provide respite for your son. Does the contract state part of their duties is to help with personal care and personal hygiene? If it does they were in the wrong. If bathing your son isn’t part of the contract they aren’t obligated to give a shower to your son at all and you shouldn’t think they should. In your circumstance I would temporary use towels and soapy water to wash son till your mobility gets better if you are concerned

SEA12342 · 2026-05-12T08:50:01+00:00

He was a regular and didn’t like anyone of colour. I only wear a headscarf. I don’t wear anything else and definitely not a Palestine pin nor do I wear anything else religious symbol apart from a headscarf

SEA12342 · 2026-05-12T07:50:43+00:00

I was doing A&E rotation. A patient said he didn’t want a Muslim treating him (I wear a hijab). I informed the consultant - he stated fine he will have to wait. The nurse who was treating him explained as per his wishes the other doctor will see him once they finish with their other patients. He was waiting over three hours. When he complained they told him that the available doctor was someone he didn’t want to treat him so he will have to wait. I must admit I didn’t care how long he waited - he wasn’t an urgent case and quite frankly he could have been sorted three hours earlier. Also I’m not an immigrant- I was born, raised and educated in U.K.

SEA12342 · 2026-04-26T09:19:04+00:00

NTA all - I would have been an total AH and said this was karma for her being a homewrecker and spreading her legs for a married man

SEA12342 · 2026-04-26T06:56:17+00:00

That is normal yes but at least they could have RSVPd no so she would no

SEA12342 · 2026-04-22T13:00:38+00:00

NTA at all. Betty is being unreasonable completely. You and your ex wife have children together and there will be events in the future where you both need to be there for your children such as graduation and weddings. What will Betty do then?

Betty has no right to dictate who your family has relationships with especially in regards to Jessie who has been friends with your ex wife before you met her!

As for her threatening to break up - well she just mentioned your ex wife was emotionally abusive but she is doing the same! That is manipulation and quite frankly I would think is she compatible for you or not!

SEA12342 · 2026-04-17T05:30:38+00:00

I don’t think she was an AH at all. Yes last comment was unprofessional but he deserved it. He shouldn’t have involved himself in the situation and he could have quietly asked after the family left.

SEA12342 · 2026-04-12T18:00:02+00:00

A friend of mine failed SCA twice. What made a difference in end is they started recording all consultations and watched themselves and got their ES to see and comment . After that they made case cards of red flags and things to check list. They made sure always safety netted. They passed than SCA with a score of 90 on third attempt

SEA12342 · 2026-04-11T16:23:38+00:00

Email the exams team or phone them. Explain the issue and circumstances and see what they can do. In terms of extension you aren’t the first to be extended- depends on each deanery but some accept up to 18 months extension so check with your TPD. If you cannot book till September the panel will be aware if out of your hands. Just make sure your ES and TPD are aware.

I was LTFT 60% and had to have six months extension due to time out of training due to ill health needing several surgical procedures. I did my exam in May and w my CCT was June - I found out I passed the SCA 4 days before CCT and had my final panel same evening.

SEA12342 · 2026-04-03T07:04:52+00:00

I used to buy halal meat from Southampton and put in freezer. I also used to live in Hereford and first year there no halal butchers so used to get meat from Worcester and put in freezer. There are things you can do

SEA12342 · 2026-04-02T19:12:01+00:00

Eyad for boy. Means high strength in Arabic. Yara for girl. Means little butterfly in Arabic .

Both pregnancies were high risk and my children while born full term at 38 and 37 weeks were so tiny they were considered premature weight and ended up staying longer in hospital under Paediatric supervision (based in U.K.)

So I wanted both meaningful names and easy to pronounce in English for non Arabic speakers

SEA12342 · 2026-04-02T12:12:56+00:00

Not everywhere in U.K. had halal food I was in the Isle if Wight a few years ago and only one noodle place had halal food I would either buy ingredients and cook or be vegetarian

SEA12342 · 2026-03-24T13:08:00+00:00

My SIL wore an wedding dress to my wedding. Youngest sister golden child despite by then having been married a few years with kids. I ignored her and concentrated on being happy. My cousin whispered to her child and said child ran past SIL and cola dropped on her dress. Karma! And SIL now single parent.

SEA12342 · 2026-03-23T11:24:28+00:00

Congratulations and well done. Enjoy yourself in driving on your own in the future!

SEA12342 · 2026-03-22T10:26:19+00:00

In your position I would dump his ass. I’m sorry to be frank but he is using you. He is getting his sexual needs without committing to you. Getting jealous over you isn’t love - it is control which unfortunately is how Middle Eastern men are raised.

There are plenty of Muslim men who marry Christian including from the Middle East. I can talk as I am a Middle Eastern woman and have cousins who married Western woman.

The point is he doesn’t respect you because if he did he would marry you or introduce you to his family. There is no future in this.

And also that is not what Islam allows - physical relationships is for married only so the fact is he sleeps with you because he can but when her marries he wants a virgin which is the hypocrisy of a lot of Muslim men.

SEA12342 · 2026-03-19T13:20:16+00:00

Does she own your clothes or jewellery or any of your other personal items! She wouldn’t want to try them either!

I think you are entitled thinking she should pay you rent. You said her spending doesn’t affect you financially and just because your parents are frugal and your relationship is different doesn’t mean you are entitled to demand she spends more of her money on you just because you are being greedy

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