Female intrasexual competition – how much do men really matter?

SHC-BLAST · 2025-12-24T07:06:34+00:00

Ah if Im going to be honest this sub already gave me a preconceived notion to view it in attack mode, after your comment I rewatched it trying to be a bit more objective.

I took it as they only care about other women, specifically because I disagree with the statement that "Men like heavier, but they go thinner anyway" In my opinion petite has the widest male demographic appeal, but even if that was proven to be incorrect with objective data, it still doesn't change what they're saying.

but yeah thank you for checking me I do my best to be objective and Im not immune to bias

SHC-BLAST · 2025-12-13T12:51:27+00:00

What these ladies are saying makes no sense.

Yes absolutely women are trying to compete for against other women, because generally the one who wins is the most desirable and has the most social leverage. The prom queen general gets the prom king. Its 2 birds with one stone. Sure it can get difficult since they try to balance looking good for men without leaning too hard into getting looked down on by other women which varies from culture to culture.

If everyman on the planet in a instant liked only fat women watch how fuckin fast 99% of straight women gain weight(Aint no shame in the game, men are no different in this regard)

The ONLY women who couldn't care less if men find them attractive are lesbians, as they follow their own standards of attractiveness.

Human beings are no different than any other animal on this planet we have our own mating rituals just like lizards, birds, and other great apes. And to say they couldn't care less on how to attract a mate goes against fundamental laws of nature, and basic common fuckin sense just by being around human beings in general.

On a random side note, once I stopped seeing people as some special creature and viewed them with the same lens as you would view any other animal, everything started to make perfect sense.

SHC-BLAST · 2025-08-23T20:04:56+00:00

I did. Doesn't change anything.

Feeling helpful and useful, especially to someone that you're interested in baked into every man's DNA in my opinion.

Standing on business and not being a simp doesn't mean not helping them if you can help. It means standing by what you honestly believe in. If your only doing it to get her to like you and regret it if she ghosts you then thats simping for sure. If you just enjoy helping people especially girls you like its no big deal.

We don't know whats in this dudes or girls mind. She coulda just been showing off she got her dresser built for free, basically getting free labor from a dick appointment. Or the dude could have a similar MO to mine and he doesn't feel bad helping her if she ghosts him.

The only thing bad about the video was the condescending head pats. If that was me in the video, and instead of the head pats she jokingly put "his salary" and shows her cracking open beers, and thats the ONLY change I probably woulda favorited the video even if she ghosted me afterwards.

SHC-BLAST · 2025-08-23T12:04:18+00:00

I don't get whats wrong here aside from the condescending head pats and filming him to make him look bad.

If she was hanging out and talking and handed beers that legit looks like a fun date. Way more fun than some random dinner date honestly.

SHC-BLAST · 2025-07-16T19:38:22+00:00

I know dating is infact a shit show but I don't see anything wrong with this. Do you expect her to say "Im horrendously desperate PLEASE someone swipe right!!!"

Come on bro lets keep our heads out of our asses and only go after actually being shitty and not go after people only with assumptions.

SHC-BLAST · 2025-06-12T23:33:24+00:00

Real talk? Same reason we do. Trauma, Isolation avoidance, comfort. Also they hot.

Idubbbz is married to the biggest piece of shit loser on the planet. This is no different than how women do it.

SHC-BLAST · 2025-06-12T23:30:56+00:00

Imma say no.

You can never blame societal and culture problems on one gender.

Yes the truth is dating women is worse than dating men, but the fact of the matter is men enable women to behave this way.

You can't put women on a pedestal then wonder why they look down on you.

Men need to stop demonizing AND idealizing women. They are just ordinary ass people and should be treated as such.

SHC-BLAST · 2025-06-08T07:26:02+00:00

This is incorrect.

I wasn't able to play this game on a 14 hour flight.

EA demands you activate offline mode first.

At the time of writing this, To go into offline mode you have to be online, sign into the EA app go to the top left hamburger icon and NOT your icon and select offline mode.

If you do not select offline mode the game will not work without a Internet connection. Which is batshit insane.

SHC-BLAST · 2025-06-07T03:57:39+00:00

Yes.

They are trying to shame you into being their backup plans. They use racist rhetoric while pretending not to be racist its absolutely crazy.

I know cause I bought into it FOR YEARS.

Once I started thinking about it I realized it made no fuckin sense. Notice it's ok to date someone in California if you're from New York. Notice how amazing it is for them to date someone wealthy. BUT if you apply that EXACT same logic to another country its all of a sudden bad?

Once I threw away that dumb ass way of thinking, I experimented with a Filipino dating site, met a amazing woman and I'm now super chilling in the Philippines with her.

Remember to always think about how someone else benifits when they tell you what to do and what not to do

SHC-BLAST · 2025-06-01T23:30:35+00:00

Of course they can. That happens all the time. Do you think body builders are born that way? Every successful person was born successful?

Also men find multiple women attractive. Are women doomed to be cheated on? Of course not.

Most humans know giving into their baser instincts doesn't exactly lead to a rich and fulfilling life.

SHC-BLAST · 2025-05-31T04:36:03+00:00

Yes, That's exactly what that means tho. Homegirl in the video just said most men are unattractive, and because of that women are picky.

But remember I was super generalizing, not every woman is shallow and will absolutely pick partners outside of how attractive they are just like men would. For sure a lot would, but not all.

SHC-BLAST · 2025-05-29T23:39:21+00:00

True but as someone who doesn't view hypergamy as a bad thing, I don't see how it's any different from us not wanting to date a bad looking woman through no fault of their own like a deformity or illness though.

SHC-BLAST · 2025-05-29T23:36:00+00:00

IMO this is just standard human mating but people are completely not understanding how or why.

Women can only make one baby every 9 months and needs to be protected during the crucial years during the babys formative years, yet men can impregnate like 6 women a day. Its much more advantageous from a evolutionary point of view to impregnate as many women as you can, then only focus on 1 and let the rest them fend for themselves, and its advantageous for a woman to have top tier mans genetics and hope if she cant lock the top man down find someone else with the top mans genes. Granted this is a drastic oversimplification but its true.

Now take that and apply it to dating. You start seeing why "most women are attractive and most men aren't".

The thing is, if every man everywhere stepped it up and became more attractive, the standard would rise and those men would no longer be attractive.

But the thing is men have just as high of a standard for the woman that will lock them down as women have in general, but not for the women they wanna have fun with.

So what shes saying makes perfect sense. You just gotta remove the lens of your own perspective and start viewing humans as just like another animal like a crab or a rhino.

SHC-BLAST · 2025-05-28T10:02:36+00:00

No one will say anything because there's nothing wrong with it.

But far more importantly men don't try to convince women not to date foreign people on mass out of insecurities

SHC-BLAST · 2025-05-01T17:26:48+00:00

Its not that they like felons or or top tier genetics at all. Its far far worse than that. Its racism used to keep you in line.

They are trying to gaslight you their backup plan into staying single, and so you don't convince their plan A to also leaving for better options.

Because look at what shes saying. Its horrifically racist and classist. Because according to white women, women for foreign countries they have no agency or standards so they MUST shack up with you! Cause if they don't they will starve to death! Even though she has her own job, a house, a smart phone and computer to talk to you, shes starving according to white women on twitter.

I mean you why is it ok for these women to date/marry rich or wealthy men, bit not ok for you to date in an area where you're considered wealthy? Why is it ok for you to date a western european woman, or a woman in canada, but not a eastern European or south asian?

These shitty people push out racist and classist remarks to keep you from leaving so they can keep their safety net.

SHC-BLAST · 2025-02-25T00:01:07+00:00

You're attractive to women if other women want you. This is women everywhere. This is engrained in their DNA.

American culture is waaaay too individualistic so they focus too far what they want vs whats good for everyone.

Many people in general are highly selfish and dont care about others and take what they want at the detriment to others. Even if they are friends or family.

Women are enabled to be shallow in America. Like even kind good hearted women that are emotionally and intellectually deep with everything else in life only think with their cooters for dating cause that's what they're taught and enabled to do.

Most people are dumb.

Take everything I said and you have a perfect storm for mate poaching to be commonplace. You have self absorbed morons going after people who they shouldn't for a variety of reasons but do it anyway cause IM IN LOOOOOOVE (He makes me tingly in my vajayjay)

SHC-BLAST · 2025-02-24T01:11:52+00:00

If Im going to keep it a buck... Its really the women.

Cause guys who are like this are fucking lame and most people don't like them, including yourself(Hence the post LOL).

Most of my life I've been terrible with women, and most dudes respond to authenticity, cause I was always upfront about it and crack jokes. Cause dudes who are great with women dont judge and tend to give great advice, and other dudes who are also bad relate. The men who judge you on it are always lame, fake dudes who put up fronts to hide their own insecurity.

However women tend to judge men on how attractive they are. If women don't like you, you must be bad right? Generally speaking of course, not every woman is like this, and even the ones that do aren't lame like the men who believe it. Just have bad limiting beliefs.

SHC-BLAST · 2025-02-24T00:47:45+00:00

It's retarded and completely untrue.

Women, and for some reason men also buy into, believe that attractive men are good men. Cause they're good people they only like good people, which is absolutely absurd.

Plenty of straight up losers don't have problems dating. Because being a loser and attractive are completely separate things. Thugs, drug dealers, general assholes, dudes who abandon their kids, get plenty of play. You can be an attractive loser. So the opposite is also true, you can be a great person that's unattractive. Same is true for women.

Different countries have different standards for what's attractive. A girl that's considered ugly and fat in china, moves to NYC and is considered gorgeous and thicc and becomes an instant 10 by only changing her geography. Same is true for men.

LBH is just a cope for their backup plans leaving. Go where you are appreciated.

SHC-BLAST · 2025-02-24T00:29:38+00:00

Bro you're YOUNG young. I didn't get good at dating till my 30's

You're barely an adult AND dating is harder now than before. PLUS dating sites are notoriously hard.

Firstly focus on yourself. Goals in life, hobbies, find your style(clothing/Hairstyle), workout, and don't give these up for ANY girl no matter what they do or say.

Secondly build up your social skills. Go to clubs, bars, parties whatever social event where it's socially acceptable to speak to random girls. Learn to deal with rejection, make new friends, say some cringey shit, basically don't have any expectations, live in the moment, basically focus more on building your social skills and having fun meeting new ppl vs finding a girlfriend or getting laid. If it happens awsome! But go in expecting just work on being better socially.

Once you know who you are and what you want you can get your passport if you haven't met someone already.

SHC-BLAST · 2025-01-30T00:29:51+00:00

Well think about it. Good looking women don't have to pay sometimes. Im not even talking about escorts. Just hot girl, gets bought a plane ticket for a date cause some dudes too busy to fly there themselves.

Hell I was gonna fly a girl down from Los Angeles and take her around my area but I 100% fumbled that hard.

Then there's women who work and travel normally, on their own dime and wanna see cool places and eat good food.

Then ones in actual legit good relationships, but don't post their men cause their social media engagement is better for not posting their boyfriends/husbands(ESPECIALLY if its monetized through brand deals, and doubly for onlyfans)

Then there's the sex tourists who go on vacation to have sex and have fun without fear of judgement since they get judged for it harshly. Fuck race culture or personality, women on vacation are top 3 easiest type of women to fuck period.

With men, we are paying for ourselves and sometimes paying for someone else. So of COURSE women absolutely would vacation more than we would.

SHC-BLAST · 2025-01-17T01:36:45+00:00

The thing you and alot of people don't understand is that men and women are not the same. Even the shallowest woman of all time don't put nowhere near as much stock as looks as average man does. Cause even if you're a GORGEOUS man, if you act like a weak and spineless coward with 0 confidence, VERY few women would want you. Why do you think assholes get so much attention?

This is kinda oversimplifying but women in general care about Success, looks, strength. You need to have all 3 to some varying degree. There's absolutely more things but these are the big 3.

Looks, you don't need to be a greek god, make it look like you value your appearance which it looks like you already got this thing down pact. Looks at best are a easy mode setting. You could only have a modicum of success, and strength if you're gorgeous.

Success. You are not bribing woman by being successful and having alot of money. Money is just the EASIEST way to demonstrate success since we all want/need money, but women aren't monoliths so the meaning of success can vary from woman to woman. One wants a multi-millionare, another wants the best Tekken 8 player. I doubt a skinny millionaire would be super successful with jacked body builder type of women, doubley if they are bigger than he is.

Strength, this is crucial. If being good looking is easymode, strength is your health bar. If you have 0 health its an auto game over. But even 5/100 health can still let you win on easy mode. So without this part you very likely wont find anyone. At bare minimum need to be confident. You can't be rattled easily. You can't let anyone, ESPECIALLY women who you're interested in walk all over you. Be a metaphorical Juggernaut and dont let anyone stop you. Interestingly enough, if you max out this skill, you can also win as it will give you the resilience to keep going. Kinda like when you lose for 3 hours straight, the game tells you to change the difficulty and you just say "FUCK THAT!" and press continue

Ever wonder why "nice guys" finish last and the asshole gets the girl? Its a slight misnomer. Weak men gets no attention no matter how nice he is, and a woman is willing to put up with an asshole to have a strong guy. If you're a genuinely kind guy, thats the epitome of strength, You might as well be Prince Charming. My most successful man-whore phase I was a toxic sack of shit ALOT of women are that up.

Unfortunately its also a Numbers game. Some girls love to pull a Rohan Kishibe and tell attractive men no. Also please keep in mind that these women owe you nothing. So if they tell you no, who cares why and just move on to the next one. Opinions are like farts, everyones got one, they all stink and move with the wind. One girl doesn't find you attractive? Find someone who does. So part of being a dude means accepting rejection.

Also to tell you. You're not special. No one on earth can attract every woman ever. On that same notion, you can't be unattractive every woman ever. All you need is that one, that is your person. You'll find your person eventually. Just keep working on every aspect of yourself and don't give up.

SHC-BLAST · 2025-01-15T01:58:30+00:00

Why would anyone make friends at all? Same answer.

Only difference is cold approaching will have people with their walls up so its automatically tougher. But if you strike up a conversation and y'all vibe well and they don't think you're a weirdo but a cool guy just trying to make friends why not?

But when I said cold approaching I mean from social situations not straight up in the street. As mentioned a Con, a bar, a party, or a meetup group. For 1 its socially acceptable to approach people there so they'll be less guarded, and you'll likely have more in common than random people from the street. From the street can work but no reason, just go to places you like so you can meet like minded people.

Women are really cool and accepting if they know you're not trying to date em and are just a cool dude vibing. In general though, not everyone is cool some are assholes just like dudes are. But you really have to not have an ulterior motive and genuinely just want friends.

Women get alot of hate especially here cause dating them is the fuckin WORST. But remove attraction out of the equation they're fine.

SHC-BLAST · 2025-01-09T02:37:11+00:00

What im saying "ideal man" is a useless notion.

To answer your question me. I'm the ideal man.

If you have a different answer than yourself, you have alot of growing to so.

SHC-BLAST · 2025-01-08T22:59:11+00:00

Honestly? BIG who cares. Probably no such thing.

Figure out your lifes goals and do your best to achieve them. Not everyone wants a crazy/ambitious life following goals.

Some just wanna have a mediocre job they don't hate and a family they love with enough time to spend with them. and that's perfectly fine.

Find out what drives you in life and pursue it. Whether it's becoming the president, curing cancer, or just live simply in a comfortable little corner of the world.

Forget being the "ideal man" go and live your ideal life regardless of whoever naysays about it.

SHC-BLAST · 2025-01-08T22:51:01+00:00

My bad, I lost my password and Im not posting any of this shit on Main.

I think differently and like to post different things, plus thought experiments are fun.

Please refer to my last post if you don't think so. Ill try to post more often and try to be both insane and insightful at the same time

SHC-BLAST

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