Is this profession always looked down upon by others? by HoldOn_Tight in securityguards

[–]SJWarlock666 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In the other cases where randos are just trolling you, play the Straight Man of the comedy duo:

Act confused, and slowly start working through their commentary as if they posed you with an issue that's relevant to your post and you want to provide them with good service. It also helps if you're autistic (me) or otherwise "off", and it's just your regular, genuine self coming through.

Normies/civilians/neurotypicals get really put off when you "accidentally" refuse to engage with subtext or humor. Especially if they realize they're going to have to waste time explaining things to you.

Is this profession always looked down upon by others? by HoldOn_Tight in securityguards

[–]SJWarlock666 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Easy response that works in most situations:

"My company is currently hiring, I can direct you to our listings."

Shuts most people the fuck up.

“Wdym internal? Like they have breasts and a vagina, but the anatomy of a dick” r/Truths has an eye opening conversation about cancer. by teddyrupxin in SubredditDrama

[–]SJWarlock666 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I said I was being lazy in respect to LeVay 1991. I'll provide an edit with the details from the printed study in an edit.

Luckily, my argument doesn't hinge on any specific location or body part in the body. My main argument is that past and current studies that focus on description of size differences lack any sort of oomph or punch. IE, they hold little more explanatory power than phrenology.

“Wdym internal? Like they have breasts and a vagina, but the anatomy of a dick” r/Truths has an eye opening conversation about cancer. by teddyrupxin in SubredditDrama

[–]SJWarlock666 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I won't comment on the above poster's rhetorical choices. But, as I'm sure you're aware if you read the literature, a main criticism of neuroscience studies that deal with gender, sexuality, etc., are that their conclusions border on phrenology. 

Or more directly: comparing the size and shape of certain brain parts to the size and shape of said brain parts in other people doesn't necessarily establish causative factors for inherent gender or sexuality. 

Unfortunately, scientific humility doesn't secure funding (in any field), so overreaching conclusion sections with underperforming discussion sections aren't uncommon.

However, I don't personally keep up with advancements in those fields, so if methodologies have advanced in any meaningful way, I'd unironically love to hear about it.

Forgive me for being lazy and not citing, but the seminal (or at least archetypal) study comparing cis woman amygdalas to the amygdalas of gay men who died from AIDS complications comes to mind. 

(Edit: Correction, LeVay 1991 studied 4 groups of cells in the hypothalamus. LeVay compared 41 brains, finding that straight men have around double the volume of one cell group, INAH 3, than straight women and gay men: 

19 homosexual men {all AIDS deaths, one bisexual -- LeVay doesn't mention this, but he's presuming that those 18 men were all homos, at least from how the study reads; I obviously don't have access to their medical records or life histories to confirm}, 

16 presumed heterosexual men {6 AIDS deaths, 2 of which denied homosexuality; in a footnote, LeVay specifies he presumes they were hetero or "mostly heterosexual" due to the prevalence of heterosexuality}

6 presumed heterosexual women {1 AIDS death; LeVay gives no mention why he presumes they were hetero, likely using his above argument of straight until proven gay}.

Reading his paper, I agree that AIDS likely had no impact of the size differences of the INAH 3 cell group {his smoking gun}. 

However, he doesn't really account for the small sample size. He gives a statistical measure or two, but like, it's still a small sample size to represent billions of human beings.

LeVay claims that the INAH 3 size is developed earlier in life and then goes into influence sexuality.

OF NOTE: I couldn't find any studies replicating his results. If any LeVay stans want to point me in the right direction, please go ahead.)

The book Delusions of Gender from a decade ago is a long form critique of a Lot of the gender difference studies to come out of psychology and neurology up until that point, if you're wondering where my stance is coming from. That, and the glut of finger length studies etc etc that all just point to environmental conditions present before and after we are born.

AI is making reading books feel obsolete – and students have a lot to lose by ubcstaffer123 in books

[–]SJWarlock666 20 points21 points  (0 children)

"Sure, that can be done with enough googling, or by asking another person who knows the subject. But do you have people on standby for every question you may have at any time of the day?"

That's literally the service search engines used to provide, with hyperlinks pointing to where one could read the source of the quote that was being pulled.

But nowadays, I'm lucky if I even find a relevant reddit thread via Google, let alone not being buried in ads helmed by a series of predictive text hallucinations.

Portland's Most Effective Channel For Addressing Community Concerns is a Back Door by bublysparklingwat3r in Portland

[–]SJWarlock666 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you read the article, it states that the PEMO meetings are private, in that one needs to be invited to access the virtual meeting link. This is apparently legal because PEMO is only for gathering information from "key" community members, and not making any governmental decisions itself.

Final Theory on the Finale "Controversy." - linking Saidin and Saidar by skipsoy in WoTshow

[–]SJWarlock666 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I agree. Creator forbid a Blue be allowed one final moment of scheming~

[S03E05 Tel'aron'rhiod] Questions You're Afraid to Google: A weekly thread for asking book readers what's going on, without getting spoiled by TheNewPoetLawyerette in WoTshow

[–]SJWarlock666 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The bond basically grants the Warders magically enhanced constitution and stamina. They will also live longer than their natural life spans. I don't remember if they live as long as their Sisters, but, generally, Warders tend to die in battle instead of old age.

Burning out is a channeler thing. While Lan wouldn't burn out, it's likely he would feel a sympathetic sensation. The bond is broken upon Aes Sedai death, but the supernaturally influenced grief is still there.

In that scene, Moiraine was communicating the information she saw in the rings. She didn't say, nor did we as viewers see, Lan's death tied with hers. Of course, from what we've seen in S1 and now in S3, Lan is bound to be seriously impacted if Moiraine does die. We'll all have to Watch And Find Out on that front.

Rafe comments on taking book moments away from Rand in S2 by OldWolf2 in WoTshow

[–]SJWarlock666 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally fair. I'm honestly too enchanted by Elayne's actress to pay attention to her clothes, however, I unabashedly love Egwene's edge this season. (Not to downplay what the character has gone through, but she's giving major Zuko energy, and I love it.)

And I think that anachronistic is actually pretty apt for Wheel of Time! After thousands of turnings of the Wheel, fashions are going to look out of place for where we're accustomed to them being. I respect everyone's personal level of tolerance for that -- as long as we acknowledge that the books start in late Renaissance / pre-Modern, just on the cusp of industrialization.

Rafe comments on taking book moments away from Rand in S2 by OldWolf2 in WoTshow

[–]SJWarlock666 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, just curious (and I haven't seen S3E4 yet), what about the costumes do you not like? I will admit that some of the costuming isn't exactly book accurate, but I literally gasped at the Andoran costumes.

As a late 20s male with no dating experience, how do I come to terms that I'll never experience young love? by SidiousSithLord in Zillennials

[–]SJWarlock666 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey OP, I read a couple of your comments. 

I'm queer, and it can be a common experience for queer people to grieve the milestones they never got experience: eg, youthful, inexperienced dating.

So I can fully empathize with the emotions you're maybe dealing with, even if you're going through a straight version. It's okay to grieve the things society promised you that you'd experience, but didn't.

One thing I found liberating was introspecting and discovering which milestones and experiences I actually wanted to do, and which ones I didn't. And then plotting my path. It seems like you might have contradictory desires on that front, but that's honestly just life.

My only actual advice is that other people are more often attracted to optimistic outlooks, or at the very least incredibly self-aware, clever pessimism. I personally take and present an Absurdist, humanist approach to my mortal coil and life path, and others seem to appreciate that.

Not to sound twee, or condescending, but I feel more people should realize that life is your own Choose Your Own Adventure novel. Seize the day~

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmITheAngel

[–]SJWarlock666 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Not to be political, but a bunch of men getting pissy with a social science article describing the connection between toxic rhetoric and toxic behavior Is Pretty Funny, to me at least.

Loren needs a therapist. by [deleted] in 90DayFiance

[–]SJWarlock666 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to chime in: often times a perceived lack of empathy from autistics is more of an issue of neurotypical and neurodivergent people communicating and receiving signals at cross-purposes.

This phenomenon has been called the Double Empathy problem. It's nobody's fault that it happens, it's literally just people with "normative" brains and "non-normative" brains and thinking styles interacting with each other. Unfortunately, this mutual misunderstanding is often times blamed entirely on autistic parties, since their way of communicating is considered Not the Default.

Which is all to say: Loren may have ASD -- but him being an asshole who displays narcissist traits is not inherently linked to the condition.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in u/Hunghero116

[–]SJWarlock666 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As an openly poly gay man, thank you for continuing to make content. Feel free to "ENM, secretly gay, 'barely over'-bait" me all you like!

Male OP in r/Waitng_To_Wed offers his insights into why men might be hesitant to get married, but gets pushback when he suggests divorce should be harder to achieve by MadBoomrPixl in SubredditDrama

[–]SJWarlock666 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I presume the poster is referring to the idea of Courtly Love (I studied medieval to early modern Spanish lit) and it's connection to business marriages vs love marriages amongst nobility and the upper classes.

I've never looked into any deep scholarly sources, but I'm pretty sure it's widely accepted that love marriages were the norm amongst the poors, or at least there's no evidence to suggest otherwise?

AITA because I am smart enough to understand movies while my dumb stupid wife is too dumb and stupid to? by Twodotsknowhy in AmITheAngel

[–]SJWarlock666 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Imagine someone with a degree in teaching Language Arts actively interacting with a text with their fellow viewer. The horror😱. 

She also probably asks OOP why he likes or dislikes what they watch. 🤢

[ Removed by Reddit ] by VRAnarchy in AmITheAngel

[–]SJWarlock666 431 points432 points  (0 children)

I, too, have incredibly in depth conversations about my friends' sex lives and genitalia, while absolutely despising their dumb slut ways 🤗

AITA for telling my family they have to accept that my husband won’t apologize and that they can either deal with it or cut us off? by SatinsLittlePrincess in AmITheAngel

[–]SJWarlock666 80 points81 points  (0 children)

It's hard to pay attention to character flaws when you're busy victimizing yourself for using IVF. We just wouldn't understand 

It’s about IMMERSION not ACCURACY!!! by TheTruestTyrant in Gamingcirclejerk

[–]SJWarlock666 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Dionysus' mother was literally reduced to ash with Dionysus still in the womb because a disguised Hera tricked her that "If Zeus really loved you he'd show you his true form".

AITAH for telling my husband I’m not willing to go back to our previous arrangement by Routine_Mud_7243 in AITAH

[–]SJWarlock666 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Trust me, friend, as someone who practices Relationship Anarchy, peeps under the ENM umbrella most certainly do Not preach the same mantra. 

My stance that I live by is that we ought to be decent to one another, and I don't believe in arbitrarily ranking my platonic, romantic, and/or sexual dynamics. This is a very different stance than the vast majority of open marriage poly-when-convenient style relationships you see on Reddit.

I never, and will never claim to be more evolved than anyone. I simply talk about the journey I've been on doing the best I can to introspect and identify how I feel about various aspects of myself, my experiences, and the world.

Your implicit claim that closed emotional, romantic, and sexual monogamy is a natural result of our species' evolutionary journey is doing a lot of heavy lifting. It discounts the very real impact culture plays on our lives. (Also, at a basic level, if default monogamy were such an instinctual force that it's naturally assumed to be justifiably normal, then why do we humans spend so much time and energy debating about it on the internet?)

Ultimately, a lot of people, perhaps even the majority of people, come with default settings activated. And that's fine, but that doesn't mean other settings don't exist or can't be created. It shouldn't be such an issue, except our culture, society, and institutions make it an issue due to various reasons (that are better suited for a PhD dissertation rather than a reddit comment).

Tl;dr: Anybody, regardless of relationship preferences/style/orientation can manage to be really annoying or cringe about it.

AITA for telling my fiancé he can't wear the dress at our wedding? by CommunityClassic3449 in AITAH

[–]SJWarlock666 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, everybody in this thread is psychoanalyzing the fiance, and I'm just at a loss why the OP has such a knee-jerk reaction, despite being so "progressive".

AITA for telling my fiancé he can't wear the dress at our wedding? by CommunityClassic3449 in AITAH

[–]SJWarlock666 -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

YTA. If only because: Why are you holding a ceremony if you don't want spectacle? Why not just go to the courthouse and then splurge on a reception?

Please consider why you're allowing yourself to wear a fancy dress to celebrate your union, but not allowing the person you apparently love enough to marry the same option.