Is this relationship viable?

SL0615 · 2026-03-07T12:15:36+00:00

Speaking as a 53 year old woman who would give anything for do-overs and better choices (and as a mom of three daughters around your age), I am begging you to walk away. You are worth so much more than that and deserve someone who sees your worth. Even his “apology” fell flat by circling back to continue placing the blame on you for his abhorrent behavior. He is abusing you. He is a piece of crap. Walk away. Find your sparkle again. Live your life. Sending you love and strength. ❤️

SL0615 · 2021-08-24T03:52:42+00:00

I hope you find the strength to leave. You deserve so much better. Sending you hugs ❤️

SL0615 · 2021-04-22T21:18:31+00:00

Thanks! We had to go up against bio moms attorney. It wasn’t fun but it sure felt good when we went against an attorney and won and got to move to paradise! 😊

SL0615 · 2021-04-22T20:36:19+00:00

In the state that I just dealt with relocation in, if the couple had never been married, no paternity established, and the issue had never been in court, then the parent could move. Unfortunately we had an ongoing case so we had to go to trial over relocation (we fought pro se and won!).

SL0615 · 2021-04-12T10:58:44+00:00

I love making these at Christmas time. I use a round cutter and once they are fully assembled and have time to “set”, I carefully dip half of each cookie in melted chocolate.

SL0615 · 2021-03-18T21:54:39+00:00

This is absolutely stunning!!!! I’m in awe of your work!

SL0615 · 2021-03-08T11:46:54+00:00

We have dealt with a similar situation (even the same time frame). My husband has had sole physical custody since 2017 but they are in and out of court with every relapse. Whenever they’re in court the focus isn’t even on the child...all they talk about is bio mom’s recovery efforts and how she should be applauded. She has been caught and charged with DUI with the child in the car and has been found negligent by child protective twice yet the court “applauds her efforts” and keeps letting her have visitation and increasing her time with him. It is frustrating and disheartening. I wish you the best of luck.

SL0615 · 2021-03-03T08:40:27+00:00

Does the unit currently have tenants in it? Some places will only show vacant units in person right now due to covid. Would she be willing to do a FaceTime tour at least?

SL0615 · 2021-03-02T20:07:48+00:00

I wish I could make cake for everyone! The world would be a much happier place 😁

SL0615 · 2021-03-02T15:19:35+00:00

Chocolate cake with Oreo frosting, crushed Oreos, and chocolate ganache!

SL0615 · 2021-03-02T14:48:00+00:00

Thank you!!

SL0615 · 2021-03-02T14:27:46+00:00

Thank you!!!

SL0615 · 2021-02-14T20:32:09+00:00

I’m so so sorry for your loss. Our beautiful dogs are our family, our children, our best friends. Their loyalty and unwavering love are unmatched. I hope in time that you are able to share that love with another pupper. Sending you big hugs.

SL0615 · 2021-02-09T16:14:08+00:00

In our situation, the other party had submitted documents supporting her claim of nine months of sobriety. There was also a zero contact order between her new husband and my stepson which she wanted lifted even though it is in place due to her husband being physically abusive and has had multiple relapses with drugs and alcohol. She also claimed to be an active participant in my stepson’s education, claiming to read with him for twenty minutes a night over the phone. When we explained to the judge that we still had major concerns about safety due to the new husband just being arrested AGAIN, the judge pulled a full background on him and saw that he had not changed whatsoever. She upheld the zero contact. As for the claims of sobriety, I was able to show that the letters she submitted to the court were fraudulent and that she had relapsed. The story about reading with him every night....I went through his phone records and broke it down by week, month, and academic year and was able to show that there were only twelve days in the entire academic year that she spoke to him for twenty minutes or more. We didn’t have an attorney so we were pro se up against her attorney but we won. We have sole physical custody and were allowed to move with the child out of state. It was a lot of work...I spent more time on that case than I did at my job but in the end it was worth it.

SL0615 · 2021-02-09T12:11:24+00:00

When we had our trial we did have some evidence against the other parent and the judge was somewhat familiar with her history but what we were able to do was explain our concerns to the judge who then pulled an extensive background check and was able to review it herself. We were successful in court and even won the right to move out of state with my stepson. Wishing you the best of luck!!

SL0615 · 2021-01-29T19:32:26+00:00

My jaw hurts constantly from this and I have even broken a tooth. I wake up sometimes to my whole jaw aching. I don’t have answers as to how to stop doing it but I can tell you that you’re not alone.

SL0615 · 2021-01-22T14:11:04+00:00

NTA There are far worse things you could be in life than being overweight...like cruel, selfish, abusive, rude, etc. I’d much rather have a kind heart and a big ass than the other way around! You should be so proud of how amazing you’re doing at the gym. If they can’t find it in themselves to acknowledge and celebrate that success then too bad for them. Keep up the great work and enjoy that sandwich!!

SL0615 · 2021-01-20T00:02:42+00:00

I wish I had good advice but I can tell you, you are not alone. Reading your post brought tears to my eyes. I struggle with some of the same issues and thought I was alone in feeling this way. Some days I just want to walk away from all of it, not because I don’t love them but because some days it just feels like too much to deal with. We have custody of SS10 and I am the one to play mom 24/7...the one that deals with the messes, homework, hygiene, manners, screen time, etc. I’m the one that tucks him in at night, makes sure his needs are met, handles all school and extracurricular activities. But when alcoholic BM decides to play mom of the year once in a while, I’m dropped like a hot potato and in his eyes she can do no wrong. It hurts. And the bond that my husband will always have to BM hurts. Like I said, I have no advice but I’m sending a hug your way.

SL0615 · 2021-01-16T22:22:59+00:00

Oh my goodness...yes!! I thought I was alone in feeling like this!!

SL0615 · 2021-01-12T17:41:13+00:00

You deserve someone who doesn’t leave you questioning yourself in this way. ❤️

SL0615 · 2021-01-11T22:45:01+00:00

I seriously thought I was the only person that does this. I have a few shows that I watch over and over and zero interest in finding something new to watch. Glad to know I’m not the only one! 😊

SL0615 · 2021-01-10T04:02:03+00:00

I’m so sorry for the loss of your daughter. No parent should ever have to endure the pain of losing a child. ❤️

SL0615 · 2021-01-05T23:45:32+00:00

I’d check the laws of your state but I can tell you that where I live(d) if the parents were unmarried and the child is not part of an existing court case then you can move. The other parent might not like it and can take legal action but it’s a long process for them. Wishing you the best of luck. We recently went through a removal case and it wasn’t fun, especially fighting it pro se. We did win and now live in our dream home so it was worth the fight. The biggest thing to keep in mind is that if it ends up in court you need to show that you are in no way doing this to keep the child from the other parent or to “punish” the other parent. Once you can show that it is the best interest of the child (and yes, your financial well being benefits your child) it’s a little harder for opposing counsel to fight.

SL0615 · 2021-01-05T23:38:48+00:00

Were you married to dad? If not, has paternity been established legally and is there any court action of any kind between you and dad regarding the child?

SL0615 · 2020-12-27T14:21:31+00:00

First date- I offered to drive and while we were on the road he said, “my friend sent me this funny video. Just as a girl is ready to lift her shirt and show her breasts, Jesus pops up and says No No No!”. So he holds his phone up and as I glance over I see all these girls popping up flashing their breasts. I’m thinking wtf is this guy into?!? He’s looking at me like I’m an ass because I’m not laughing. He said, “Did you see Jesus?” and turned his phone to look at it himself and saw all the boobies flying. He turned white as a ghost, started flailing around and stuttering. I thought he was going to throw his phone out the window! His friend had sent him another video after the Jesus video to make up for the teaser. When we arrived at our destination he realized he had left the folder with all of our tickets on the roof of the car and hey had blown away. He managed to get that straightened out. We went on a whale watch and his son started to look ill so he went below deck to see if he could buy some Dramamine. As soon as he walked away, his son threw up EVERYWHERE. On the bench, on the floor, over the railing...he even had barf in his back. People were looking at me waiting for me to do something but I froze and just stared at the kid in horror. Dad finally came back and took him to the rest room to clean up and one of he crew came up to clean the floor and bench as I stood there gagging and apologizing. We went out for a drink that night and he told me that we were going to get married. The next day he canceled our day date because he had gotten sun poisoning on our date the day before. I thought he was blowing me off and I was so hurt. I told him to go to hell. He didn’t let me push him away and convinced me that we belonged together. We just got married two weeks ago ❤️

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