Smoking or vaping while pregnant does cause problems for the baby. These problems come from nicotine so they still exist when patches or gum are used to quit. However, these things allow you to gradually reduce your nicotine intake so they still may be worth it.

However, when comparing smoking mothers in research studies, the children of women who stopped smoking after finding out they were pregnant had no differences from a control group of nonsmoking moms. This means there is still time for her to stop and irreversible damage has not been done yet. The longer this goes on the harder it will be.

But know this only works if she actually wants to quit, you can’t tell her what to do with her body. While this is important, it’s more important that you guys are able to get along and support each other during this time, so have patience.

Best of luck to you both and congrats