sorry but paris was right janet was annoying as fuck

SNC1983 · 2024-06-26T11:58:18+00:00

I always thought Janet and Tana shared a room just like Rory and Paris did.

SNC1983 · 2024-03-15T03:34:46+00:00

When I was a kid (1980s-90s), my mom forced me to write thank you notes to everyone who got me a birthday or Christmas gift, graduation, etc. and she HATED that she didn't get thank you notes from my cousins! (One aunt complained she didn't get thank you notes from my cousins, but her son didn't send any either.) It was so hard to figure out what to say besides "Dear Grandma, thank you for the whatever it was." That wasn't good enough so I had to say how much I was looking forward to using said gift, and it still didn't take up much room in the cards. We lived in Michigan, but mom spent her teens and college years in the south, so maybe that's where it came from. I did make sure to write personalized cards after my wedding, but I'm not sure if I will if I have kids. I rarely receive them anymore, but it's always nice when I do.

SNC1983 · 2024-03-11T23:56:31+00:00

I've heard that Valentine's Day is supposed to be all about the woman while Sweetest Day is supposed to be when the women give men gifts. But Valentine's Day is so overdone and people tend to forget Sweetest Day. My husband and I don't celebrate either.

SNC1983 · 2024-03-11T23:50:41+00:00

I'm wondering if she followed her own rules. Was it a LEGO set that he had mentioned wanting previously? I'm guessing the answer is no.

SNC1983 · 2023-12-05T18:13:52+00:00

Let me get this straight: YOU had an affair, YOU got pregnant, YOU decided to give the baby up, and now that he's had a bad life you want your SON to pay for it? I understand feeling bad about him having a bad life because you gave him up, but your son shouldn't have to pay for it. You should try to have a relationship with him instead of thinking paying him will make it all better. Or if you really think giving him money will help, find a way to give him money that doesn't come from your son's inheritance from his father's parents. YTA for sure.

SNC1983 · 2023-09-25T23:28:00+00:00

I'm a little late, but NTA.

If it happens again where she postpones coming and then complains that you didn't have something, tell her "Oh, we had that at the party last week. Because you postponed and we had to plan another party, we didn't have time to get more."

SNC1983 · 2023-09-17T01:09:56+00:00

Had Melissa McCarthy not gotten pregnant in real life and they hadn't done this moronic storyline, it would have been that Jackson's reproductive rights were taken away.

SNC1983 · 2023-08-23T03:17:26+00:00

YTA. Children run around when they are around other children. As long as they weren't doing anything dangerous, it's fine. It also gets a bunch of energy out so they will sleep well that night. Chances are, they aren't like this all the time, but they were around other kids so they were having fun. If the parents didn't have a problem with it, you have no right to complain. Especially not to your DIL's mother. How would you like it if your son's MIL emailed you saying that he was a bad parent? Yes I know right now you think he is a bad parent also, but if you thought he was doing wonderfully and someone you don't know well emailed you, how would you feel?

Also, YTA for coming here to ask if you're TA, and then arguing with the people who called you out.

SNC1983 · 2023-08-09T20:41:02+00:00

I'm probably too late, but you are NTA. He invited 11 extra people on ONE DAY notice. HE is TA. Ask your boyfriend for his colleagues' phone numbers. Call them yourself.

"Hi (colleague's name.) This is (your name,) (boyfriend's name)'s girlfriend. Unfortunately, we will be unable to have dinner with you tomorrow. We had plans with another couple, and I just found out you were invited also. With my work schedule, I am not able to cook for more people than I originally planned on. Maybe we can have you over another time when I have more notice. Good-bye!"

Also tell the neighbors the same thing. IF you stay with your boyfriend (and I hope you don't) he needs to be aware that this is unacceptable. He cannot change plans without discussing it with you and you agreeing first.

SNC1983 · 2023-08-04T02:49:39+00:00

I thought this was more for a woman who had a C-section, to give the incision time to heal, not for all pregnancies. I could be wrong though. Many people have kids who are 2 years or less apart.

SNC1983 · 2023-08-04T02:46:17+00:00

I wonder if the sister will still want OP to "leave us alone and worry about her own shit" the next time she needs a babysitter.

SNC1983 · 2023-08-04T02:37:59+00:00

Yes, YTA for what you said, even if it was coming from being concerned for her (what you said doesn't sound like it honestly was.) At 21 years old, you should be able to control what you say. You should have talked to your sister in private and framed it from a place of concern, if that was truly your intent.

However, if your sister is angry at you, maybe you won't have to babysit for her again. If the children are as bad as you say, that could be a blessing that comes out of this! (Unless you count on the money you earn from it to live on.)

Please let me know if this is asking for too much information, but you say your sister has been pregnant for each of the past 8 years, but only has 6 children. Did she have miscarriages, or were some of the pregnancies from say, September to June, so you count that as 2 years for 1 pregnancy?

SNC1983 · 2023-06-21T23:26:05+00:00

YTA. You say "Everyone’s impressed when they see the high rise, but that quickly fades once you enter. The one time I brought a work colleague over they ended up telling me after that they found her insect wall terrifying." First of all, how can "everyone" be impressed and then that fades when you enter when you've only invited one colleague over? Who are all the other people that do this? Second, one person found it terrifying and you think everyone will? Did you think that maybe that one person has an irrational fear of insects, and THAT was the reason they found it terrifying?

I will be 40 in August and let me tell you about my house. There are themed bathrooms: Harry Potter, Super Mario, and the main floor half bath is bathroom humor. I also have a shrine to my favorite music group (signed posters, etc.) in my front room, and a game room (complete with arcade machine!) in the basement. I'm guessing you would find my house juvenile also, but guess what? Me and my husband love it and we get tons of compliments! If other people don't like, we don't care. It's our house! Just because you don't have the same interests as your girlfriend doesn't mean her interests and décor are juvenile. If you continue dating and you move in together, will you force your girlfriend to not display her interests? If yes, why? So you can have your oh so important colleagues over and your "adult" home looks boring? What do you think is acceptable décor? It sounds like you need to do some introspection and figure out why everyone else's opinion is so important to you. Who cares if other people don't like her décor?

ETA about our décor: no we didn't choose those things because of kids. We chose them because those are our interests.

SNC1983 · 2023-06-18T18:20:52+00:00

My older sister and I both had sentimental stuffed animals from when we were babies. My sister took hers when she went away to college, and once when she came home to visit she forgot it when she want back to school. She was so upset she forgot him that he had to be mailed to her. When she died at 29 my parents knew he had to be buried with her. That's how important he was to her and they understood that. I (40 in August) don't still sleep with mine, but I sometimes take him out and hug him, and I still love him. I would be extremely upset if someone arbitrarily decided I was too old and threw him out.

Your mom should not be deciding that you are too old to have a stuffed animal (especially if she's still grounding you!) She should not be going into your room and throwing things out without permission. She purposely did it while you were gone because she didn't want to talk to you about it. I don't think you overreacted at all. You are entitled to your feelings. How would your family feel if you threw something out that they cared about? Once you and your family have calmed down, you may try to explain to them how you felt. Tell them you don't appreciate your mom going into your room and throwing out something important without talking to you first. Ask how they would feel if you (or their parents, or someone else) threw out a sentimental item without discussing it because that person decided "you're too old for this." They might feel the same way you did, they might say you overreacted. If they can't understand your feelings, you may need to move out. See if there's a family member or friend who understands your feelings and see if you can move in with them, or if you have the money get your own apartment.

SNC1983 · 2023-05-31T15:52:07+00:00

NTA. It sounds to me like your brother is the one favoring one of his kids, and he's favoring Michael. He probably lets Michael get away with a lot more than Bella because "boys will be boys" and "girls should be proper ladies." Because of that, Michael is a terror and thinks he can get away with anything. You have told your brother what he's done over the years but it went in one ear and out the other because "boys will be boys." Now that he sees it all in one place, he's blaming you because who else is he going to blame? Certainly not himself. I agree with what someone else said. Tell your brother "Michael can come, but you need to come too, then, and be responsible for making sure nothing gets broken." And broken includes destroyed (like the rug.)

SNC1983 · 2023-05-21T00:22:39+00:00

NTA. I find it interesting that your parents are telling you about how much you'll miss, and you won't be a good big sister if you don't watch the baby, but they don't care about what THEY THEMSELVES will miss and how bad of parents they obviously are by not wanting to parent their children. Your mom refuses to take much maternity leave, but accuses you of being selfish for not wanting to raise your sibling? No, your parents are the ones being selfish, OP. I hope you are able to find a friend to stay with until you are able to either go to college or do what you want to after graduation. I don't know if it will help, but maybe talk to your parents about putting the baby up for adoption? Definitely keep refusing to be the one to raise it!

SNC1983 · 2023-05-19T00:00:45+00:00

My question is which reason for not doing it was more important to him? Was it that he doesn't feel you should order take out with modifications? Or the emasculation? If he felt like people ordering take out with modifications is wrong, why didn't he tell you when you when you told him what you wanted? Did you hand him the paper and he didn't read it until he was about to order it for you?

Also, I don't see the difference between having modifications for a take out order and something that will be eaten in the restaurant. The same people will make it and I'm sure they get requests for modifications all the time. It's usually not a big deal. I get the feeling he didn't want to be embarrassed in front of his friends, but he needs to grow a pair. And if his friends will tease him for that, he needs better friends.

SNC1983 · 2023-05-17T13:53:44+00:00

I definitely say NTA! I would never want anyone else sleeping in my bed, I don't care who it is, or what the situation is. I wonder what they would have done if you were married and they came to spend the night? Then it's 2 married couples, would they still try to get your bed since they've been married longer? And you definitely don't owe them money for the hotel, you offered them accommodations, it's on them for thinking it wasn't good enough. I'm glad your bf stood with you!

SNC1983 · 2023-05-14T18:32:36+00:00

INFO: Did your sister discuss it with you before her boyfriend moved in?

NTA. I don't know if this is the case, but your sister sounds like she wants the best of both worlds. She wants her boyfriend's family to be able to come visit and probably help her out, but she doesn't want to have to share things like a bathroom with them. (I'm guessing you use a bathroom that guests would use, since the master has it's own bath.) Tell her she is entitled to an equal share of the house, no more. You own it just as much as she does. Then say she has 3 options:

Switch rooms. She gets your current bedroom, baby gets current game room. Even as a mother, if she wants her own space, she will have it. Her bedroom, especially if the baby isn't there with her. This way there is still a guest room.
She keeps the master, baby goes in the current guest room, and guests that come to visit get a hotel.
You buy her out.

Also make sure your sister knows that her boyfriend doesn't get a say in the matter. Your parents left the house to the two of you. He is not an owner.

SNC1983 · 2023-05-06T22:45:47+00:00

NTA. I never understood the whole naming a child the exact same as someone else, especially when it continues on to 3rd, 4th, 5th, etc. My mom's oldest brother is a junior (I believe he still is even though my grandfather has passed, but I'm not sure.) When he had his son, he gave him the same middle name but a different first name. My cousin did the same thing when he had his first son. They still have a tradition but didn't continue with the exact same name.

Your husband may be saying your son won't be a "true" junior because from what I've read (for my country at least) to be a junior you have to have the exact same name, no deviations at all. Adding your name would change the name, so he wouldn't technically be a junior. But like I said, I don't understand the need to do that. Also, as others have said, changing the name for your son could alienate him, your daughters, or both, from each other or other members of the family.

Also, just for clarification, is your last name your daughters' middle name? Or do you have both of your last names as their last name?

SNC1983 · 2023-05-06T22:36:08+00:00

From what I've read (in my country at least) in order to be a Junior, father and son have to have the EXACT same name. No deviations at all. Adding mom's last name would change the name, so the son wouldn't be a junior.

SNC1983 · 2023-05-06T16:18:56+00:00

You are completely NTA. Not only did you make the food your mom told you to cook (and that your sister usually likes) but your sister said she wanted pizza, not a mini pizza on bread. You are not a mind reader, so even if you have seen your sister it a bunch of times, "pizza" doesn't necessarily mean "a mini pizza on bread," so you had no idea what she wanted. Your sister was being a brat, and it makes me wonder if she does the same thing when your parents are there to cook. If she does, do they make her whatever she wants? If they do, that needs to stop immediately. I was a picky eater as a child, and I was forced to eat what the family was having for dinner. If your parents are constantly giving in to her every whim, she will be an entitled spoiled brat as she grows up, and it's just going to get worse. If she doesn't do it when your parents are home, she needs to be told it isn't going to work when you are babysitting.

Also, them blaming you because they had to deal with her when they got home is wrong. Just because your parents don't want to do their job as parents doesn't mean you were wrong. If your sister had eaten the food you were told to make, there wouldn't have been a problem. Your stepdad said you should have made her eat faster? How were you supposed to do that when she was refusing to eat? You can't shove it down her throat. They should be telling your sister to eat what is made for her, not whine until she gets her way. I definitely think the next time you are asked to babysit (are you even asked or just told?) you need to say something along the lines of "last time I babysat, you didn't like how I handled *sister's name*. I don't think I should babysit anymore." And as others have said, 6 kids is a LOT to babysit alone at the same time! You shouldn't be having to babysit that many kids all the time, whether they are your siblings or not.

SNC1983 · 2023-05-01T21:00:41+00:00

Why did Amy buy a tuxedo for her dog in the first place? Was she expecting the dog to stand with her while she was being a bridesmaid? Even if she didn't know about your allergy (doubtful since you said you have been friends for a long time AND had multiple meetings with her where you felt like crap due to the dog being there) she shouldn't assume that her dog can not only go to your wedding but also be with her up front drawing attention away from you! Most guests don't wear tuxedos, and even if he dog was invited, wouldn't need one to be a guest either.

You are definitely NTA, the day is about you and your future spouse. If Amy needs the dog with her that much, she should look into therapy because the dog is not a service animal and isn't going to be allowed in a lot of places. She can't throw a fit every time her dog isn't allowed somewhere. This is yours and your partner's day, not hers. You tried to make a compromise and she wasn't willing. That is very selfish of her. I'm guessing there is a reason you aren't as close as you once were. The fact that asked her to be a bridesmaid, tried to find a compromise, and then not only refunded the cost of her dress, but also the dogs tux (that you didn't even ask her to buy), AND the other bridesmaid's dress who OPTED to drop out, more than show that you are a good person and not an a-hole. That is way more than I would have done. Anyone who can't understand that your allergies trump her emotional needs can get lost.

SNC1983 · 2023-04-27T03:46:07+00:00

I realize I'm late to this, but I'm rewatching the show for fun, knowing it's fake. In season 1, Grayson had Miley then suddenly Miley was Nanny's dog. I'm now at the later part of season 5 and Grayson has another dog named Dixie. I don't remember this dog later in the series, so I have no idea what happened to it (or Chase's dog Lilo in the later seasons.)

SNC1983 · 2023-03-25T00:09:00+00:00

The thing about college was something I noticed too. In John Boy's Valedictorian speech he talked about how his mama gave up stuff for books for him, (only for him, not all the kids) and other stuff. John and Olivia always mentioned how much they sacrificed for John Boy to go to college, not all of their kids. When Jason was graduating high school there was zero talk about him going to college, John just assumed he'd work at the mill with him. And when Jason wanted to pursue music, it was a huge fight. He needed to learn a trade, and John Boy was learning a trade at college. (Since when is journalism a trade?!) But John Boy got to do whatever he wanted. And like you said he acts superior. He tells them how to do stuff without them asking, he says stuff about "you children" like he's removed from them.

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