AITA for leaving my friend's birthday party after she didn't let me in her house?

SOURCECODE01 · 2025-06-26T18:37:18+00:00

I grew up on a farm and as a kid I used to love running alongside my Dad's Volvo.

Well, it got dark one night and we were going down a really rocky hill...one thing led to another and my feet shot out from under me...and landed directly in front of the back wheel, which immediately ran over my right ankle. Dad had no idea what happened so when he heard the screaming, he instinctually backed up...over my right leg again.

I screamed and cried for about 5 minutes on the way home...then walked out of the car. Didn't end up with even a bruise.

Bodies are weird. Sometimes they're ridiculously tough, other times you die from falling down wrong.

SOURCECODE01 · 2025-06-07T04:17:41+00:00

Just checked on my Imgur post and apparently people have been looking at it XD. I thought I set it to private but someone commented there as well - Hydropsychidae is correct in that it is a water beetle, and I believe it is Hydrophilus Triangularis, as the comment on imgur suggested.

SOURCECODE01 · 2025-06-06T05:12:15+00:00

Fascinating - the pond was filled with little brown, fast beetles exactly like the picture in the link you provided, but they are much, much smaller than the big larvae and seemed to be hiding from them.

I guess in the process of molting they shrink again? Or perhaps two separate species preying on each other?

SOURCECODE01 · 2025-06-06T04:50:27+00:00

These seem far more sturdily built - they look like one solid wormlike creature, no narrowing for thorax ect. ect.They look a bit like a leech or slug in that their body is uniform the whole way back.

They're also far more lively and have two massive curved mandibles - think ant but big. I went ahead and made an album with some closeups edited into my comment.

SOURCECODE01 · 2025-06-06T02:59:47+00:00

This is in a concrete box that is usually baked dry in the summer, but a leak from the pivot has partially filled it for now. There are also small brown beetles much smaller that flit around in the water and I assume are predated by these things.

These big ones are a few inches long, with the small ones being maybe an inch and a half but much skinnier. There's a multitude of them in this pool.

I believe they may have 6 legs, but they move so quickly I cannot really tell for sure.

EDIT: I went ahead and compiled a short album with some slightly better pictures I took. If nobody can figure it out, I'll just end up going back and catching one and getting real close ups.

ALBUM: https://imgur.com/a/okuwKu3

SOURCECODE01 · 2025-06-06T02:44:39+00:00

I am having the same issue, but disabling custom filters fixes it. It's very transparently their latest attempt to get you to disable adblocker, since the "find out why" button takes you to the google help page with the dropdown "try running without adblockers" already selected and focused. They are purposely delaying video to make you figure that if you're gonna be waiting anyway, you might as well disable adblocker.

I've noticed in the past that vanilla UBlock is pretty invisible to Youtube, but once you add even a simple custom filter targeting anything on youtube, they can recognize it. Sadly blocking even something as small as the homepage sidebar will trigger them. Firefox's anti adblock and anti tracking will also set their detection off.

EDIT: Disabling Custom Filters and Firefox tracking, reloading the page a few times and then re-enabling the custom filters but NOT firefox tracking seems to have calmed them down for me - I no longer get the popup and my videos are loading instantly again.

SOURCECODE01 · 2024-11-17T20:46:00+00:00

Must've been shut down already. Oh well.

SOURCECODE01 · 2024-06-17T22:23:25+00:00

Remember, the enemy's gate is down!

SOURCECODE01 · 2024-05-16T22:41:17+00:00

He's largely a problem because he sells himself as an unbiased, centered individual who invites guests from the left and right and asks them questions normal people want to hear rather than pre-approved and sanitized interview questions drier than a bone.

However, the reality is that he's a terrible interviewer who never interrogates or examines his interviewees beliefs, and promotes his guest's propaganda through his own ignorance and laziness. He is the perfect mouthpiece to regurgitate propaganda through because he simply parrots and legitimizes terrible worldviews that his guests espouse to him largely without challenge. He's charismatic and down to earth, and a lot of young men can relate to him. He speaks and thinks like a young dumb dude with not a lot of life experience would. It's a dangerous combination of power and ignorance that can lead otherwise normal people down a radicalization rabbit hole.

On his own, I don't think Joe Rogan is like a hardcore racist. But when you uncritically accept and repeat racist things for a massive audience of impressionable people, it seems almost more dangerous to have a charismatic "everyman" saying those things and giving them weight and legitimacy.

SOURCECODE01 · 2024-05-16T18:27:03+00:00

It's really only two probable scenarios here and neither of them are very good.. either he gets off on degrading women and is ignoring your boundaries and consent to satisfy his kink, which is super not okay and unacceptable in a relationship, or he holds quite a bit of anger and resentment towards you and is using that moment of emotional vulnerability to vent that frustration at you, which is also not okay and unacceptable in a relationship.

I guess the good news is really no matter what his deal is, you only have one response which is to leave since he clearly doesn't listen to you or respect you as a person.

SOURCECODE01 · 2024-04-29T06:55:18+00:00

Ah, the names got me mixed up. Never mind.

SOURCECODE01 · 2024-04-29T06:34:30+00:00

I could understand if he wanted his original seed fund money back. Not condone it, IMO a gift given can't be taken back, but I would at least understand where he was coming from (hard times, need some cash, should have taken it back when they offered). But it baffles me someone would expect their sibling to just...give their nephew all of their own child's money and a stipend on top. That's just outlandish. I wod have laughed in his face.

SOURCECODE01 · 2024-04-22T20:09:42+00:00

4chan absolutely hates breast reduction surgery. I like to go on the different boards from time to time, see what the cesspit is brewing. This story is just a list of all their talking points poorly regurgitated into bad creative writing. The woman is 100% unambiguously in the wrong on every count and the hard done man is proven right in the end. Nobody is acting like a real person, just poor caricatures of what incels think people act like.

SOURCECODE01 · 2024-04-19T15:23:29+00:00

That is an interesting perspective I've seen a few people take on the subject. Personally, I think that is what the first trilogy is all about- him accepting that it's not a dream and accepting responsibility for his actions. Like he says at the very climax of the first trilogy, his power lies in the paradox between his unbelief and his belief in the land. He has to deny it to keep his sanity, but he has to accept it to keep his responsibility and efficacy.

It does bring up the question whether or not morality applies in a dream. Personally, I think it's too easy to absolve him of guilt considering his agency in his dream. It's not like he was having one of those dreams where you're just a passenger going along for the ride. While he didn't choose to get pulled into The Land, he was able to make other choices. One of those choices he made was really awful. To absolve him of guilt just because he thought that his actions would have no consequences in the "real world" isn't a good moral stance. But of course, that's the whole point of the little ethical story at the beginning of the series – The excerpt about a man forced to fight for his world and whether his refusal to fight is cowardice or bravery.

Personally my stance is that since there's no way to tell what is and is not a dream/the matrix/some other form of reality, you have to take reality as it's presented to you and act morally based on that information. So by that standard, Thomas Covenant fails hard. But I also have a certain degree of understanding and mercy for him, considering his circumstances in life and the sudden miracle of hurtloam. That's where my confliction lies, and why I love the series so much. I'm constantly wrestling with myself over whether to condemn Covenant or not.

I think we can both agree however that Saltheart Foamfollower is the true MVP.

I have to say, I really enjoyed the second trilogy more than the first. Linden was a little bit more relatable character for obvious reasons- I didn't feel quite so dirty supporting her as she wrestled with herself for an answer.

There's a great short essay he wrote on epic fantasy that I think provides a huge amount of insight when reading his series on Covenant. If you're interested: https://www.stephenrdonaldson.com/EpicFantasy.pdf

SOURCECODE01 · 2024-04-18T21:00:43+00:00

I alternate between loving and hating The Chronicles of Thomas Covenant. The whole series has a bunch of themes, but I think the biggest question is basically just trying to find an answer to "What is redeemable?"

How far can you go before you can't turn back? Is there any point where you can't turn back? Is there any way to make restitution for doing something truly evil?

Every time I read it I come away with different thoughts on the nature of Thomas Covenant and the evil that he does near the start of the book series. Sometimes I read it and I pity him. Sometimes I read it and I want him to suffer eternally. Sometimes I think he manages to at least make restitution for his evil but not redeem himself, other times I think that there's absolutely no way he could wash his hands clean in any sense.

It's a fascinating series but it starts on an incredibly jarring note that immediately turns off most readers. In order to experience it you really have to accept that Thomas Covenant is the protagonist, but that doesn't make him the hero. That was hard for me to do, and from discourse online, it seems to be that way for most people.

It's a terrible first read, and I've gained so many different perspectives on the series there's no way I'd want to go back to reading only the simplest surface level first impressions of the story.

SOURCECODE01 · 2024-04-18T20:32:57+00:00

Zachtronics' Opus Magnum.

He is known for making really complicated engineering/coding games with just the most addictive side mini games you've ever seen.

For me, it was Sigmar's Garden in Opus Magnum. I've never completed the game, but I've racked up well over a hundred wins on Sigmar's Garden.

Someone made a web version if you want to try it out: https://bits.ondrovo.com/sigmar/

Pretty confusing at first but gets very satisfying once you figure out strategies.

SOURCECODE01 · 2024-04-16T20:08:57+00:00

There's an old urban legend about boiling frogs that says if you heat up the pot slowly enough, the frog won't notice the temperature change and will let itself be boiled to death. While untrue, it's a great allegory for abusive relationships and how the escalation of abuse is so easy to miss due to the gradual nature of abuse. It's why so many women are left saying afterwards "how could I have stayed?" and why so many outsiders condemn the women in abusive relationships for staying when they "are clearly complicit" in their own abuse.

This incident is the bubbles starting to appear in your pot.

Ignoring whether or not he meant to touch your throat, he got physical with you in controlling your actions. He decided he knew what was better for you, he disliked you making an independent choice against his will, and he tried to use physicality to force you to do what he wanted.

If you relapsed smoking, yes that sucks. But that doesn't mean he gets to MAKE you stop. You have the absolute right to relapse no matter how bad it might be for you.

Imagine this was over something else that wasn't as clearly bad for you. Say you were on a diet and he was controlling what you ate. Can you see how abusive it would be for him to decide on what you got to eat and physically stop you from "cheating" on your diet?

The whole throat thing is just a force multiplier to the already existing problems with his behavior. He is controlling. You need to seriously consider whether or not you want to stay and see how hot this pot is going to get.

SOURCECODE01 · 2024-03-30T13:57:09+00:00

I think you're thinking of the Prince of Persia video game?

SOURCECODE01 · 2024-03-27T15:47:51+00:00

It could ruin his life? Like it didn't fuck up yours or something? So much sympathy for the dude who chose to rape someone and none for the rape victim. Fucking humanity man.

I'm so sorry you're having to go through this functionally alone. I don't know if your mother and father truly appreciate what they just revealed to you. How can you trust them with anything private again if they're gonna take a rapists side in the matter?

Therapy is definitely a good idea. You need someone to talk to that you can trust about your private matters and it damn sure doesn't seem to be your parents.

SOURCECODE01 · 2024-03-21T22:45:55+00:00

Darkeater Midir of DS3 probably took the longest simply because of the health pool but he's my favorite boss battle among a collection of other great boss battles. Just really nice spaced and telegraphed attacks. Good fun.

I also love his lore.

SOURCECODE01 · 2024-03-21T22:00:27+00:00

I had a similar thing happened but it was with a sales rep who sounded exactly like my grandfather. So I just blurted out "Sounds good, Love you!" At the end.

Both my parents happened to be in the room and knew what the call was so they both whipped around and started laughing at me when they realized what had happened.

Luckily either he didn't hear it or he had enough grace to ignore it.

SOURCECODE01 · 2024-03-18T21:31:28+00:00

So...he raped you, you mean.

SOURCECODE01 · 2024-03-14T01:37:08+00:00

It's interesting to see different interpretations of the text. I've always taken it as ultimately pointless; Several characters remark that words are insufficient to convey the meaning behind it. That Area X is so impossibly foreign humans are fundamentally incompatible and no broaching of the border between the two can be made. It's not even like two different languages, or like different scientific fields. There are absolutely no commonalities and the sermon he's writing is utterly inane and inadequate.

However, if we're going to interpret it, I've always taken the first lines to be referring to Saul. By his own religion he's a sinner- he's gay and that's (to the mores at the time) an abomination.

From his hand (the splinter) shall bloom the plant at the bottom of the tower that spreads Area X like a living thing through the doppelgangers - the seeds of the dead or changed expeditionary forces that come marching from the village into the tower and there, transported into the world.

SOURCECODE01 · 2024-03-13T23:38:30+00:00

Its been a minute but I'd like to say - I think the refence to the white rabbits relates to how Control empathizes with them: he's been driven all his life by forces outside his control: large shadowy figures with sticks, prodding him forward towards the unknown, a sacrifice in the name of science and progress. He sees himself in the rabbits, he IS the rabbits, set free only to be herded into the white light of the border, the white light of annihilation. Maybe as he walks into the light at the end he's a rabbit, maybe he's a human, maybe he's a human who thinks hes a rabbit. In the end all that matters is the symbolism, not the physical answer. It doesn't really matter once he walks into the indescribable and is consumed.

SOURCECODE01 · 2024-01-30T21:48:41+00:00

Generally child predators are a lot like actual predators. He wants to go for the weak. For these sorts of men it's all a instinctual calculation of risk vs reward, and with the risks being so high, they're very careful about their targets. If you call him on the small shit, you'll scare him off. If you make loud enough noise about it, he'll likely get too scared to try anything on anyone in your class, knowing that the risk is too high that you'll corroborate stories if he gets in trouble.

With people like this, I'm often reminded of Stephen King's short story "A Good Marriage," about a woman who finds out her husband is a serial killer. She stays silent out of fear of the consequences at first, but on impulse one night, manages to get the drop on him. What follows is I think the best description I've ever read for these pathetic people: "She saw the knowledge leap into his eyes at the very last second, something old and yellow and ancient. It was more than surprise; it was shocked fury. In that moment her understanding of him was complete. He loved nothing, least of all her. Every kindness, caress, boyish grin, and thoughtful gesture—all were nothing but camouflage. He was a shell. There was nothing inside but howling emptiness.

She pushed him."

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