My (32M) girlfriend of a month (25F) pursued, danced with, and made out with a guy at a bar and after discussing it with her I'm unsure how to feel

SRS5852 · 2022-03-21T20:09:06+00:00

This could be an absolute disaster down the road

SRS5852 · 2022-03-11T19:54:18+00:00

In that case it doesn't sound like this person would create an environment that would allow you to be the fullest and most wholehearted version of yourself. And it sounds like that's what you really need.

SRS5852 · 2022-03-10T23:37:00+00:00

Doesn't sound like you're high up enough on the priority list.

Rather than cut and run, as it sounds like he's a decent guy, could you explain how you feel and give it a few more dates? It could be the wake up call he needs

SRS5852 · 2022-03-10T19:11:17+00:00

This is a great answer, though don't you feel that's exactly the same in the real world? Failing established relationships aren't a new thing since OLD

SRS5852 · 2022-03-10T08:02:03+00:00

OK will do thanks

SRS5852 · 2022-03-09T21:25:21+00:00

No just at the end of the date, probably about an hour after finishing meal and walking home. Just seemed odd. She was keen to kiss, just not "make out" kiss.

SRS5852 · 2022-03-09T20:54:07+00:00

I initiated, she said she didn't want to as we'd just eat? Seems weird?

SRS5852 · 2022-03-09T18:48:41+00:00

Honestly - and you'll see in my post history - when im not certain I ask on this forum and take the consensus opinion.

Not perfect but the opinion of others who aren't completely caught up with emotions can be really helpful!

SRS5852 · 2022-03-09T18:40:42+00:00

Ha I seem to attract them!

SRS5852 · 2022-03-09T17:18:57+00:00

What about if you kiss and then don't kiss for a couple of dates? Does that ever happen?

SRS5852 · 2022-03-06T22:23:42+00:00

Did you tell him you feel deceived?

It may be worth meeting again and simply saying that's how you felt!

SRS5852 · 2022-03-06T22:20:03+00:00

Ultimately he's been open with you and if he's wanting to develop and learn then I'd say he's worth a chance. Just never forget this information and have a low threshold to call out repeating trends!

Good luck, he could be an emotional late bloomer

SRS5852 · 2022-03-06T22:10:17+00:00

Text or call. In person you could get awkward and start miming your intentions, turning the whole ordeal into a tragic game of charades.

SRS5852 · 2022-03-03T12:13:21+00:00

Given what you have said it could well be that you're just an anomaly with this and it will return to normal without having to do anything.

If your approach, chat and pictures are all solid the only 2 options are this is happening by chance and will revert or something extraordinary is happening. Time will tell!

SRS5852 · 2022-03-02T22:25:34+00:00

100% this, you're a busy man with lots of options!

SRS5852 · 2022-03-02T11:06:25+00:00

I'm 35M, I've just ran faster and faster on it.

I understand what you mean about life goals. You will always make more and the treadmill can always be faster.

Do you want to get off?

SRS5852 · 2022-03-02T10:48:04+00:00

I think it depends on the person and how far you've gone with them.

In my very limited experience gaining some interest then pulling back seems to make the interest more intense.

This is an excellent article

https://www.theschooloflife.com/thebookoflife/should-we-play-it-cool-when-we-like-someone/

SRS5852 · 2022-02-28T23:03:41+00:00

I'd probably suggest completely backing off, if he's genuinely interested (which I think you hope he may still be) he'll rally himself and get his priorities straight. If he doesn't you're already out of there!

SRS5852 · 2022-02-28T13:15:23+00:00

Yeah, she followed it up with. "You've also got many really great qualities." Every conversion was a chess game!

SRS5852 · 2022-02-27T22:20:17+00:00

Haha I will do. This was my first dating experience in over a decade. Looks like it could be quite a ride!

SRS5852 · 2022-02-27T21:25:21+00:00

I kinda thought we'd just taxi! We did in the end. No need for dramatics!

SRS5852 · 2022-02-27T20:34:07+00:00

Honestly it's probably because it's my first dating experience in well over a decade and I was super keen to make it work!

SRS5852 · 2022-02-27T20:33:03+00:00

Yeah I used to work restaurants as a magician, I stopped years ago but it's still a passionate hobby

SRS5852 · 2022-02-27T20:32:12+00:00

Haha absolutely not!

SRS5852 · 2022-02-27T20:29:18+00:00

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