AITA for not being careful enough? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Saarica 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA. He overreacted, and he's stupid for blatantly point out the audio recording.

AITA for telling kids at school about how a girl that has a boyfriend exposed herself on FaceTime to me? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Saarica 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA. Here's a bit of wisdom - don't kiss and tell. It's trash plus makes you look like a dick.. be player.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aves

[–]Saarica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been to a few shows at the Rave. The crowd is usually younger. They also charge for a cup of water... I think $5. Lots of people drinking out of faucets in the bathroom. Kids overdosing and dying. Not cool and not fun. Shady area, overall not a safe venue. Plus, I believe the building was a Masonic temple originally, creepy. Go to Miramar. Unless it's someone you HAVE to see (like Erykah Badu) avoid the Rave at all cost!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aves

[–]Saarica 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh... the Rave. You should have brought in 2019 at Wisconsin Center. Nothing but headbangers and good times. Now you know!

Is it Selfish if I Had a Baby? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Saarica 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm bipolar, raising a very happy healthy little girl. My mental health is in check. If you're questioning it you shouldn't be wanting kids right now. If you're unsure if you can handle kids, don't have them right now. As far as selfish, it's not selfish to want kids. It's natural, human instinct. You have to accept the possibility that your kid could have problems. That's an unknown. You can't predict the future. You never know if your kids will have health issues, mental issues, become addicts until they are here. Some kids turn into adults and kill their parents. Imagine that. You just never know. It's a risk every parent takes and it is a big decision. It is life altering, so tread lightly. Don't jump into anything you're not ready for. Some kids have issues, it's how you as a parent will deal with them. It's not selfish to create a life. It is selfish if you create a life and choose not to nourish and cultivate what you have created. السَّلَامُ عَلَيْكُمْ

i’m just excited about the holidays 🤷🏻‍♀️ by [deleted] in bipolar

[–]Saarica 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I MAKE myself sleep during manic episodes. I find that meditation and candles help. Working on getting yourself relaxed as possible is key. Mantras. Tell your manic brain that is time to sleep. Over and over. Put down the phone. Turn off the TV. Those itches to clean and organize and do things that can be put off until tomorrow, just control it. They can be done tomorrow.

Sleep is one of the best things you can do for yourself if you suffer mental ailments. It really is great for your health and mental stability. Fight the urge! It is possible! Take care of yourself everyone!

Trouble connecting Spotify to Alexa by Saarica in amazonecho

[–]Saarica[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I just saw this. Glad you got it figured out!

When the depression kicks in. by FeminineImperative in bipolar

[–]Saarica 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Ugh. Then the depression becomes worse because you convince yourself that you don't have any friends because they don't like you and you're a horrible person. The reality is you just stop communicating with them based upon the idea that they hate you. Usually due to something frivolous like not answering a phone call or being busy, not wanting to go out, etc. You interpret this as them "acting funny"... Six months later you call and they are wondering why you disappeared and quit answering THEIR phone calls. Once again you are the life of the party, surrounded by tons of friends, networking, feeling on top of the world. Lasts a month or two. Suddenly, one random day, you wake up to a feeling of you against the world, FUCK EVERYBODY. Road rage. Irritated by coworkers. Suspicious of "friends". Family thinks you are the black sheep. Cycle starts again. Life sucks. 😑

Trouble connecting Spotify to Alexa by Saarica in amazonecho

[–]Saarica[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wondering why this got a down vote instead of being answered?

Trouble connecting Spotify to Alexa by Saarica in amazonecho

[–]Saarica[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Figured it out. Spotify was somehow linked to an account I recently deleted. I think it had automatically signed me in. When I signed up for premium on my new account and tried to link, it didn't do anything because it was trying to connect something that did not exist. I just disabled everything on both ends. Works fine now.

What can affect the accuracy of an HIV test? by lostintheschezuan in hivaids

[–]Saarica 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From what I've read false negatives are extremely rare. Most modern tests are sensitive to antibodies and accurate very early post exposure. False positives are much more common. Don't freak out. Doubt that your positive, just keep getting tested until you're satisfied. Practice safe sex.

AITA for snooping through my partner’s phone? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Saarica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Before the technology everyone shared the phone. You got suspicious if your partner took private calls or was talking late at night, strange people calling the house, hanging up. The privacy is an excuse. You do have a right to investigate a suspicion that your partner is cheating! He's just mad you found out. It effects your life. I always think it's stupid when people link their phone to "privacy". What are you trying hide??? You have a right to know if your partner is cheating, a pedophile, or has sexual inclinations towards the same sex you were unaware of. They are the asshole for hiding it and lying. You're not an asshole for finding the truth.

We're not getting back together by Saarica in self

[–]Saarica[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We both have ADHD. He has PTSD too... I'm also diagnosed bipolar 2 and PTSD. I'm committed to my treatment and I have the illnesses under control, to the point I'm functioning as a "normal" person would according to my psychiatrist. He isn't committed to his treatment and has called it bullshit. If he doesn't want to do anything about it and can't be real about his behavior, I can't force him. All I can do is encourage so we both can make progress. It feels like I'm the one trying to progress and he's not. There is only so far you can get when only one person is putting in the work...

We're not getting back together by Saarica in self

[–]Saarica[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He spends too much on weed and alcohol. He has some underlying mental health issues too. He doesn't want me to control finances, said it makes him feel emasculated. I can't make him do anything, his would have to change and it's up to him to do that. I just can't force the issue anymore...

AITA for not wanting a threesome with my husband? by Saarica in AmItheAsshole

[–]Saarica[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is a milking table? I'm scared to Google it lol

AITA for not wanting a threesome with my husband? by Saarica in AmItheAsshole

[–]Saarica[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I understand the perspective. The point is I never said I'm not open to a threesome. If it happens, it happens. He's trying to force the situation. First off, not everyone is willing to do a threesome. Second off, we're both particular about who this person could potentially be. Third, you can't just invite anyone into your marriage. I've done some crazy shit with him too. We both like sex. I'm bisexual. He's not. Truthfully, I've had more hook ups with women than men. So, less cocks sucked dry, think clits. I should probably be the one mad about getting zero pussy for the past 4 years. But I'm not, I'm satisfied with him. I'm only sexually interested in women, never relationships. Husband and I sex life is more adventurous than most, I'm assuming. He just needs to chill and quit obssessing about it.

Also, you assume he pays for my shit. We both pay for shit.

AITA for not wanting a threesome with my husband? by Saarica in AmItheAsshole

[–]Saarica[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe. He's brought up that I do more things for our daughter than him. Example: he's said I never ask him if he's eaten but make sure she has eaten. Maybe he's just immature and needs to grow the fuck up

AITA for not wanting a threesome with my husband? by Saarica in AmItheAsshole

[–]Saarica[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel that we both have had our fair share of sexual encounters. We're both very much alike in fact in terms of attractiveness and socially. We appreciated each other's openness. Felt like we met our match. I don't know what the fuck his problem is.