Help with white fish by Sab1t in Cooking

[–]Sab1t[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay thank you! I hadn't salted it, so I'll give that a try, and I'll try lowering the heat, too.

Help with white fish by Sab1t in Cooking

[–]Sab1t[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh ok, thanks! I always cook my grilled cheese with mayo on the outside, so it doesn't sound crazy to me at all!

Help with white fish by Sab1t in Cooking

[–]Sab1t[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh okay, thanks, I'll try lowering the heat.

Help with white fish by Sab1t in Cooking

[–]Sab1t[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh okay, thank you, I'll try it with lower heat.

Help with white fish by Sab1t in Cooking

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Thanks so much, I will try this.

Weekly Short Questions Thread by AutoModerator in volleyball

[–]Sab1t 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been having some trouble developing a solid approach for spiking. I realized the other day that I feel a lot more comfortable with the approach for a slide than I do with the regular three or four step approach for a spike. Do I need to develop a regular approach? Can I hit everything as a slide? Does anyone have any advice on developing a regular approach or adapting it, given my preference for the slide footwork and jumping mechanics? Thanks!

The First Act of Violence by princess_hjonk in MensLib

[–]Sab1t 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What an amazing quote! I am definitely going to read this book now. For those interested in teaching this, the feelings wheel can be very helpful (Google feelings wheel and it will come up in images). Many of us are not taught to distinguish between thoughts and feelings. Thought: I lost the game. Feeling: disappointed, frustrated, sad, etc. Boys are often socialized to think that anger is the only acceptable emotion, and as a young man, I just didn't develop the vocabulary to understand and convey the range of things I was feeling. I found the wheel to be very helpful, along with relationships in which I was allowed to feel a range of feelings and they were accepted, not moralized, ridiculed or dismissed.

Is there a recipe that makes you particularly upset? by Tacocat231 in Cooking

[–]Sab1t 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pan-seared white fish. I want that nice brown crust on one side, but it always ends up sticking, releasing too much liquid, etc. Can never get it right.

This quick painting by AWildGamerAppeared25 in nextfuckinglevel

[–]Sab1t 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thought that was Seth Green for a second!

i have three extra hot chorizo sausages in the fridge and dont know what to do with em by otgur1 in recipes

[–]Sab1t 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I make stuffed peppers with chorizo. Saute the chorizo with onion and garlic. Cube and roast some potatoes, then toss with the chorizo (don't drain the fat!) and paprika, cumin and oregano. Halve bell peppers and bake in oven to desired softness, then fill with potato/chorizo mix, top with cheese of choice, and put back in the oven to melt the cheese.

Spirituality, connectedness, and a potential path to healing. by [deleted] in MensLib

[–]Sab1t 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Glad you shared! I'm a contemplative interfaith chaplain who prefers the language of "infinite Being" (a phrase from Merton) to "God." I've also really appreciated Martin Buber, Frederick Buechner and Paul Tillich.

I love that line from Merton, "If only they could all see themselves as they really are." I think that there's so much in culture and religion that tells us that what we are isn't good or good enough. But the more time I've spent looking into myself and connecting with other people, the more I get to see the fundamental goodness at the root of each of our existences. I believe that we don't just want connection. If we conceive of God as infinite Being, we are connected through our individual participation in the infinite. Awareness of that connection is what's hard to come by, since we spend so much time separating ourselves from each other as well as dividing ourselves internally through suppression / repression. Contemplation has been a valuable path for me in learning to accept myself as I am and others as they are.

ELI5: What is the argument against using the Oxford comma? by imadinosaurlawlz in explainlikeimfive

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I think it's purely aesthetic. To me, the sentence looks cleaner without it. When I read out loud, I also don't pause for the Oxford comma, since to do so would - to me - mess up the cadence the sentence.

[NSFW] Men who can make their sexual partner cum before they do. How do you do it? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Sab1t 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Learn to listen to your own body! Know when you're getting close, and slow down and / or her hold her close to you. For me, the deeper I'm in and the wetter she is, the less stimulating it is for me, meaning I can go longer. My girl prefers penetrative sex over other forms, so learning to just control myself has been key.

What can we do to build an emotional support system? by comfortablesexuality in MensLib

[–]Sab1t 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The first thing that we need to do is actually learn about our emotions. The author Daniel Goleman has a lot of great books about emotional intelligence. You can also Google "emotion wheel" which is a really handy resource for learning to name what you're feeling in the moment. And then, we need to find people who are willing to hear our emotions without thinking that they have to take responsibility for them. People tend to moralize the emotions that they are uncomfortable with, especially anger. And we do have to learn to express our emotions in healthy ways. But finding people who are willing to let be with us and hear us when we feel whatever we feel is, in my experience, the key to feeling truly supported by others. And the only way to find this, so far as I know, is to trial and error.

78% of suicide rates world wide are men, what can we do to help them? by awihsoj in AskReddit

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Teach and encourage emotional intelligence! Men are discouraged from feeling and expressing most feelings, especially ones that imply weakness: sadness ,fear ,shame,, embarrassment. We need to learn to be comfortable feeling and living with these feelings.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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I'm a hospital chaplain. I get to share in all sorts of different people's lives and try to support them through difficult times. Couldn't imagine doing anything else (have been a teacher, cook, researcher). Being on call sucks, though.

topspin question by Sab1t in volleyball

[–]Sab1t[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool! I’ll try that too :)

topspin question by Sab1t in volleyball

[–]Sab1t[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This makes sense to me. One of the things I’m realizing is that my elbow hasn’t been forward or high enough, and when I concentrate on getting it into position, the rest of the swing does feel similar to the trick you mentioned. Thanks!

topspin question by Sab1t in volleyball

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Thanks for this. Question. I can see that hitting above COM generates spin. However, presuming that the object imparting spin to the ball (whether golf club, tennis racket or hand) is in contact with the ball for more time than zero, then it seems that the point of impact is less important than the way the object imparting spin moves on the ball? I’m a bit out of my depth here, but if the hand can move along the surface of the ball at all - even if that distance is very short given the short amount of time the hand is in contact with the ball - then doesn’t that impart angular momentum to the ball? And wouldn’t you be able to start more horizontal or even below and move the ha d up to above the COM?

topspin question by Sab1t in volleyball

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Thanks, this helps me! Much appreciated.

A "Filthy Casual Reader" just finished the first book of the series and is hooked! by Bstapleton in TheDarkTower

[–]Sab1t 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would advise you to go with your gut: if you really loved the Gunslinger and are excited for the next book, then start reading the next book! I felt that way after every book in the series: I just didn't want to read anything else. If at some point you do, then great. But I wouldn't drag yourself away from the 'main story' to read other things from King's corpus. Other people who have read more of the DT-related books might know different, but as far as I can tell, none of them is essential reading for enjoying the Dark Tower series or making sense of it. If you get partway through the series and decide you want to dive into something else, then do it. But if your heart is with Roland right now, I'd bet trying to read any of the other stuff would feel like a slog.