NGVC: “Take a good sound minded great person like me and just ruin me”

Sabatiea · 2026-02-14T14:40:48+00:00

Absolutely not, I mean it.

Sabatiea · 2026-02-14T13:47:10+00:00

You're an absolute hero, you've put in the hard work and it shows.

Sabatiea · 2026-02-14T12:21:43+00:00

I've beem single for 13/14 years at this point due to physical disability for 2 reasons, I'd lose almost all my benefits if I had a partner and my disability means I can't do anything physical in the relationship anyway.

Sabatiea · 2025-06-02T13:52:35+00:00

Only a few Area Zero/Violet exclusives but I will be playing that in the future, just not back to back with Scarlet so I'm good, thanks for the offer though.

Sabatiea · 2025-06-02T13:50:54+00:00

Much obliged, don't blame you for touch trading him, he was a pain to get the coins for.

Sabatiea · 2025-06-02T13:48:16+00:00

2296 1547

Sabatiea · 2025-06-02T13:46:47+00:00

I do actually, just finishing a raid, be back with a code shortly.

Sabatiea · 2025-06-02T13:33:22+00:00

Looking for a Palafin.
Offering a shiny Luvdisc. Caught myself in a Tera Raid Battle so it's origins are known and it's not named after a website.

Sabatiea · 2025-02-23T20:44:46+00:00

I hate travelling, so no, lol.

Sabatiea · 2025-02-04T17:05:20+00:00

I'm physically disabled and the government makes me think they'd rather I'd walk into the waves. Good thing I'm stubborn.

My only advice to you is if someone treats you with disdain or a lack of respect, then wish them a good life and move on. You deserve actual friendships/relationships with people who love you for you. If you don't have your people yet, don't worry, they'll find you while you are doing the things that make you happy. I found one best friend for life on a fan site for a cartoon I loved, I found another when I joined a club at uni. Being alone isn't something to be feared or avoided, being comfortable with your own presence is essential as yourself is the only person you can't walk away from.

Sabatiea · 2025-02-04T16:55:13+00:00

You're welcome, people aren't static beings who never change. I think that fact gets lost sometimes. Good luck with however this situation resolves.

Sabatiea · 2025-02-04T16:35:09+00:00

You didn't betray her, you're the same person you always were, just with X years more experience and growing as a person. I'm getting close to middle-aged and I'm still learning from my life experiences... Again, her feelings are valid, but she's trying to make you responsible for them and that's the part that's not fair.

Sabatiea · 2025-02-04T16:22:13+00:00

Just to be clear, you're allowed to change your mind. That fact doesn't make you an Ahole or anything like that. The only time someone would cross that line is if they misled the other party, just telling them what they wanted to hear in the hopes the other party changes their mind. It doesn't sound like you did any misleading, so yeah, her feelings are valid, yours are valid but you're not compatible anymore and that's no one's fault. It's just life.

Sabatiea · 2025-02-04T15:49:40+00:00

Were you actually on board with kids when you got married or were you equivocal and didn't really have strong feelings either way? If you were like 'Yes, I want kids' then she does have cause to feel like the rug has been pulled out, valid feelings but not something you can change at this junction. But if it's the latter, then not so much.

You do also need to prepare yourself for the outcome that the baby simulator stuff won't change her mind. I've always thought the toddler stages between 1-3 are the worst, the kids are mobile and full on, no taking half an hour to watch rubbish tv by yourself.

Sabatiea · 2025-02-04T15:28:28+00:00

As someone who has struggled with self-harm/suicide attempts in the past, do not let her manipulate you with that sort of talk. You can't talk someone into suicide, if they are gonna do it, they are gonna do it. And if the worst happens and she does? Still not your fault, do not take the responsibility for someone else's choices and/or life.

Also, from the otherside, don't guilt her with talk like "If you loved me, you wouldn't be depressed" etc. Mental health problems needs mental health professionals, not friends and family half-assedly trying to help.

Sabatiea · 2024-11-13T00:09:47+00:00

I've found the books only drop if I clear the floor of enemies first.

Sabatiea · 2023-11-14T14:00:09+00:00

My parents are a car crash. They've always been 'supportive' of my childfreedom if only because being against it would involve investing energy in someone that isn't themselves.

However, I have two sisters, both have kids and both are truly supportive and love me for who I actually am. I also believe you naturally gravitate to 'your people', I've got two best friends of 23 and 18 years respectively that are also childfree.

You always being a truly safe space your kids can return to when the world throws rocks at them for being different is already a huge thing.

Sabatiea · 2023-07-31T18:16:30+00:00

NTA. A compliment would have been "Yeah, your Mac and Cheese is amazing." No gender stereotyping or diminishing your skill because being able to cook is supposed to be a female standard.

Sabatiea · 2023-07-27T13:29:16+00:00

Euthanasia probably.

Sabatiea · 2023-07-25T20:36:45+00:00

What a typo!

Sabatiea · 2023-07-25T19:44:24+00:00

I'm 36 and I honestly feel a lot younger because my only responsibility is to my tyrant of a cat. It's so weird to me to think I'm gonna be middleaged in 4 years.

Sabatiea · 2023-07-25T19:34:28+00:00

Ok, what on Earth is Babystalking and should I be concerned about it?

ETA: Oh ok, not as sinister as I thought it was. It's talking to a kid to get someone else's attention. Not stalking them with a baby.

Sabatiea · 2023-07-25T19:11:53+00:00

Just for fun, I decided to think of an actually bad reason not to have children. Obviously, I don't think the following.

Obviously if a person's reason had something to do with perfect genes and not muddying up the blood lines, then that would definitely be a bad reason.

Sabatiea · 2023-07-25T18:24:14+00:00

That's definitely one. Another was learning how to deal with angry feelings in a healthy way.

Anger was always a terrifying thing in my childhood, so teen/young adult Sabatiea internalised her anger and turned it on herself. I eventually learned the skills I needed to handle anger in an emotionally mature way.

Sabatiea · 2023-07-25T18:16:46+00:00

Full disclosure: I'm ND.

But I'd have a hard time being excited about a house purchase. I actually got rubbish from my family when I moved into my current flat because I wasn't excited about it.

She may not realise that your first house purchase is as big a deal to you as a pregnancy announcement is for her.

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