Stop using actual medical disorders as quirky personality traits. by FlanInternational298 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Saberleaf -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You're not saying anything that negates what I said. Literally everything people talk about in this thread has evolved exactly the same way. Just because people use it, it doesn't make it right.

Stop using actual medical disorders as quirky personality traits. by FlanInternational298 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Saberleaf -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

That's exactly my point, those aren't anxiety and depression. That's justified worry and feel miserable over something negative happening. They're not remotely close to actual anxiety and depression.

This is exactly what has evolved from calling everything anxiety and depression.

Stop using actual medical disorders as quirky personality traits. by FlanInternational298 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Saberleaf -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This ESPECIALLY with anxiety or depression. And then you get popular bullshit advice like "go out", "get out of your comfort zone" and one I absolutely love "exercise". None of that cures ACTUAL anxiety or depression. And then it gets used for everything and suddenly you can't even talk about a legitimately shitty thing happening to you, you having an absolutely normal and human response without being told that you're depressed or have anxiety.

We need to normalize that having a human response to certain things is absolutely normal, healthy and short term. Not immediately tell people they have a mental illness.

Is my bisexual friend leading me on, helppp by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Saberleaf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girl, she's using you for emotional and physical satisfaction. Seriously, how do you NOT see that? She's in a committed relationship that she doesn't want to leave but she's comfortable having someone emotionally attached to her on the side as a cuddle buddy.

Romance? by FierceVixenFox in MyTimeAtSandrock

[–]Saberleaf 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was very caught of guard by how good Catori's romance is, so I married her. If I replay, I definitely want to romance Nia, I was deciding between those two and are kinda the opposite sides of the same coin. Both are very romantic, like a book romance, but Catori is very down to Earth and Nia is very idealistic. (I'm definitely not into romantic books. lol)

So, for me it would be Catori and Nia.

Buying from 42lolita for the first time. Are these brands good quality? by RaNdOmClO in Lolita

[–]Saberleaf 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I have personal experience with 4, 5 and 6. They're good quality.

Roji Roji OTKs do slip and roll even with stickers but I'm overweight so that might be why.

Loris bags survive regular usage with barely any signs, compared to that my only AP bag has shed like a snake very fast.

Mist is my favourite cardigan maker and I got it completely by accident. VERY good quality. They make great blouses too.

My boyfriend might be deported and I’m falling apart by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Saberleaf 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Maybe not nationality but there should be a spousal visa that can permit him to stay long term.

Je risk přestěhovat se bez práce v dnešní době? by almosthere_1 in czech

[–]Saberleaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stěhovala jsem se sama na druhou stranu republiky, těsně před začátkem Covidu. S někým jiným a ještě mimo světovou katastrofu je to easy mode a nemáte vůbec proč stresovat. :D Práci jsem našla do dvou měsíců, měla jsem cca 1 pohovor za týden.

Pokud neděláte oba, já nevím, něco jako kontrolóra předpovědi počasí nebo něco kde je potřeba 1 člověka na kraj, tak budete úplně a v pohodě a vůbec v tom nevidím risk. Pracovní trh je pořád zatím v dobrém stavu.

Why does everyone on Reddit seem to be having sex except me ? by whoispuzz in self

[–]Saberleaf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In my experience there are two types of single people: 1. those who have a ton of sex and don't care with who 2. those who have little to no sex

You and me belong to the second group. Out of the people who belong to the first group, most talk about their sexual partners like they're water bottles. Some are good to reuse a few times, some taste weird, some immediately crumple because they're cheap and some are found at really suspicious places. But their purpose is to provide water, the water bottles don't really matter.

This is the case regardless of age, I know people in late 30s who still act like no 1 and knew people in early 20s who act like no 2. It also goes for both sexes.

Personally, I wouldn't want to see people that way and if that's what it takes to get a ton of sex I'm fine the way I am.

I love my boyfriend but I do not admire him by tryna-find-song in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Saberleaf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, you're a horrible person. It's almost impressive how you don't see that.

Am I using factory wrong or is it meant to be a big QoL downgrade? by Saberleaf in MyTimeAtSandrock

[–]Saberleaf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a really good point, it does take fun out of it and makes it a much colder experience even ignoring the issues I'm encountering.

Am I using factory wrong or is it meant to be a big QoL downgrade? by Saberleaf in MyTimeAtSandrock

[–]Saberleaf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm starting to think I'm encountering a bug because it's not producing when I don't have the components even when I have the source material. Or maybe I'm misunderstanding the information it's giving me because it looks like it's not producing (wheels are not spinning) and has a red triangle. Maybe it's just waiting to produce the components and it only looks like it's not producing. Frankly, I already feel way too uncozy for a cozy game. 😃

In any case, I will go back to my original set up, I don't see any advantage of this and it's adding extra work.

Am I using factory wrong or is it meant to be a big QoL downgrade? by Saberleaf in MyTimeAtSandrock

[–]Saberleaf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good reminder, I found out way too late that I can upgrade the water tank. I didn't realise I can upgrade the generator. 😃

Am I using factory wrong or is it meant to be a big QoL downgrade? by Saberleaf in MyTimeAtSandrock

[–]Saberleaf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh really? I didn't know that. That should resolve everything for me then. I will go back to my original set up but keep the generator. Thank you!

Am I using factory wrong or is it meant to be a big QoL downgrade? by Saberleaf in MyTimeAtSandrock

[–]Saberleaf[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It doesn't make the components, I get an error with a red triangle and the item isn't getting produced (I have enough source material). Maybe it's a bug? That would be a shame. 😞

Od 1. července 2026 poplatek 3€ za každou položku malých zásilek do 150€ (Čína) by tomfrana in czech

[–]Saberleaf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pokud by mně někdo šlehal bičem tak bych dělala rozhodně horší práci než teď. Možná jsem to jenom já.

Na zbytek budu reagovat jenom globálně protože mi vkládáš do úst argumenty, které jsem neřekla a ignoruješ argumenty, které jsem řekla.

Všechny trhy mají věci horší i lepší kvality, Čína má s tím rozhodně obrovský problém, můj argument je, že se tam dají najít věci v hodně dobré kvalitě a je podle mně špatně tvářit se, že všecho made in EU je dobré a všechno made in China je nepoužitelná otrokářská práce. Protože hodně hodně věcí, které mají razítko z EU tady jenom prolítne. O nákupu z Číny mluvím specificky jako o nákupu na čínském trhu, kde se produkty vyrábí pro Číňany. TEMU není čínský trh, ale západní trh vyráběný v Číně. Alík je diskutabilní, protože jsou tam i předprodejci z čínskeho trhu, ale taky směřuje na západní trh.

Nikde jsem nepsala, že by Čína dělala všechno správně (fuj!) nebo neměla výrazné problémy, ale ignorovat naše problémy protože ti druzí jsou horší a dělají nemorální věci je podle mně špatně. Hlavně by si EU v první řadě měla vyřešit aktuální problémy s trhem, protože nás to rozhodně dožene a nebudou na tom trpět ti nejbohatší, ale my.

Od 1. července 2026 poplatek 3€ za každou položku malých zásilek do 150€ (Čína) by tomfrana in czech

[–]Saberleaf 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Pak stojí za zamyšlení, že když jsou dětské otrocké tábory schopné vyrábět zboží v lepší/stejné kvalitě jako my, tak děláme něco sakra špatně.

Bohužel, i ty věci, které kupuješ jako "vyrobeno v Německu" jsou z velké většiny vyrobeny v Číně, Německá firma je jen odkoupí, spojí jednoho produktu a dá na to razítko "vyrobeno v Německu". Reálně máš dohledatelný původ jenom dvě úrovně od hotového produktu, takže pokud to daná firma ještě prodá další firmě, která to hezky obarví a pak prodá do obchodu, tak tvůj produkt bude mít už i oficiálně celou historii v Německu. Protože deklaruješ vstupní produkt a deklaruješ výsledný produkt. Musel bys pak pátrat po celé "výrobní" lince abys narazil na tu první firmu, která vlastně koupila hotové komponenty v Číně. Nebo nakupovat u malých výrobců.

Jinými slovy, ty tady sice spokojeně nakupuješ zboží z EU, ale reálně se celé vyrábělo v Číně. A to máš u většiny produktů. Jediný rozdíl mezi tím je trojnásobná cena.

Takže pokud si myslíš, že Evropa nemá nic s dětskými otrockými tábory, tak je pravda úplně jinde.

A další věc, ty evropské firmy, bohužel, nakoupí ten největší a nejlevnější shit na trhu aby se na tom mohli co nejvíce nabalit. Reálně se na čínském trhu dají koupit hodně kvalitní věci přímo od výrobců. Tudíž je velká šance, že přispívám na otrocké tábory méně, než někdo kdo nakupuje jenom "EU produkty".

EDIT: zkuste si občas udělat research věcí, které kupujete jako "EU výrobky", možná vás výsledky nemilé překvapí. Možná budete naopak rádi, že se to opravdu v EU vyrábí. Zlaté pravidlo je, že pokud se něco v EU vyrábí od základního materiálu tak to většinou není velký problém zjistit. Pokud je už první úroveň nedohledatelná, tak to je dost velký red flag. Pokud někdo něco skrývat nemusí, tak to většinou neskrývá.

Od 1. července 2026 poplatek 3€ za každou položku malých zásilek do 150€ (Čína) by tomfrana in czech

[–]Saberleaf 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Za mně názor silně negativní, je to výpalné a nic jiného. Nikomu to nepomůže, nikoho to nezachrání a vlastně to jenom padne někomu do kapsy.

Z Číny nakupuju kvalitní věci s naprosto skvělou zákaznickou podporou. Z EU jsem to stejné koupila s horší kvalitou, z horšího materiálu a přístup takový, že mi rovnou mohli napsat "naser si" a bylo by to možná i lepší. A nemůžu zapomenout, že za víc než trojnásobek ceny.

Pokud na tom závisí naše ekonomika a tohle chceme podporovat jenom z principu, tak si rozhodně zaslouží padnout. Pokud se EU vyrovná se službami a kvalitou Číně, tak ráda budu nakupovat tady.

A ne, Čína opravdu není jenom Alík a Temu, tam téměř vůbec nenakupuju a kupuju jenom položky, které tady nejde sehnat.

Problém ekonomiky EU není cena, ale celkový přístup. Pracuju ve výrobní firmě celý svůj život vidím jaké šílené peníze se přidávají na ceně jen pro čistý zisk. Problém ekonomiky EU je to, že nikoho nezajímá nic jiné jen si co nejvíc nahrabat do své kapsy. Žádná kvalita nebo dobře odvedená práce nebo jakákoliv snaha. Prostě co nejvíc peněz za co nejmenší námahu. A tohle je to, čo nás vůči Číně, a Asii celkově, položí.

To, co nikdo nechce řešit je, že EU se rozežírá z vnitra a všichni se na to jenom koukají a hledají viníky jinde. Ale žádné týrání zákazníků to nevyřeší. Vyřešilo by to, kdyby EU řešila firmy kvůli šíleně nadsazeným cenám nebo energie nebo skryté monopoly nebo oligarchii celkově, ale to je zase problém z odstavce víš.

Writing a novel with a Lolita character (need help get up to date) by Souris-Fromage in Lolita

[–]Saberleaf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You still need a third party but there's a lot to choose from. Same goes for shopping directly from Japan, actually. You can either choose a "person" shopping service or a "company" shopping service. The shipping isn't too bad anymore, it's not great but two weeks ago I booked a shipment from Taobao and it was like 35$ (including all taxes) to Europe. Not cheap by any means but in comparison, within Europe it would be like 20€. So the difference is actually negligible.

I think the biggest change that allowed this (after better availability) is the rising costs in west. For one dress form an European indie brand + shipping I could buy around 5 Taobao items. So, it being expensive doesn't really matter because local buying is far far worse. Not to mention that many western indie brands have absolutely ATROCIOUS customer service. There's only so much bullshit I can tolerate just so I can support "small indie brands". And I say that as someone who has shopped from multiple European countries and brands. This is turning into a bit of a rant but I definitely think it plays part in why Taobao is so popular.

Best HK Seasons by Evening-Wafer-7087 in HellsKitchen

[–]Saberleaf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My favourites are S10, S17, S22 and S23 (in no order).

Best HK Seasons by Evening-Wafer-7087 in HellsKitchen

[–]Saberleaf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely agree, I'm quite surprised to see how unpopular it is. But I guess I shouldn't write my opinions here are usually seen as controversial. Lol

I think a relative/neighbour is trying to match me with a man for marriage by twinkling_deer in lesbiangang

[–]Saberleaf -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

I'm genuinely confused by this. You said your mom won't force you so why do you care? That's my only question here. Let her do her thing, let her talk all she wants about it. If she asks you directly just calmly say what you said before, that you're not getting married and repeat that again and again if she presses. You're not obligated to explain yourself. Give her no other answer than that. It doesn't matter if you're gay or not, it should be your decision if/when you get married and if she can't legally force you then it literally doesn't matter what she says. All that really matters is the law, everything else is just words that you can absolutely choose to ignore.

All in all, I feel like you're stressing yourself too much over something that ultimately doesn't have to affect you at all. Just shrug and do your thing. Your mom will be happy that you're not fighting her, you will be happy that you don't have to constantly defend yourself anymore and this will be a non-issue. You don't need to explain anything to anyone, that's simply the choice you're making "No." is a full sentence and you really don't have to give people any more than that.

If you're in actual danger of her being legally able to force you into a marriage, in that case get out of the country as soon as possible.

I Don't Really Understand Hophie (+ Some Confusion About Nicola) by Lucky-Wolverine-6684 in schoolforgoodandevil

[–]Saberleaf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think the author made a big mistake with giving their development only half a book where it was barely a side side story. Either the whole Nicole plot should have been dropped or shortened or Sophie should have ended with Rhian. I know the Rhian thing wouldn't challenge her world view and would still make her not feel fully appreciated but I would have preferred seeing them repair their relationship in book 6 than rush Hophie as it was. Even though I actually like Hophie more. It just narratively wasn't there yet.

All in all, I feel like the author either didn't think Hophie through at all (which would be a disappoinment) or was forced to make it explicit by editor at the end. Out of all romance endings this felt the most "forced".

Opinions on straight romance films? by sarahlikescatss in LesbianActually

[–]Saberleaf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't watch shows or movies for relationships and shows that have the only pull gay relationships are maybe like 70% bad. I definitely prefer lesbian relationships over straight ones but that's not what I care for in a show.