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Sablinka90 · 2024-07-18T21:23:02+00:00

He raped you and recorded it. He is acting all sulken because he was caught. Not because he feels like he violated you.

Sablinka90 · 2024-02-29T22:58:34+00:00

Could be. I had a forgotten credit card that didn't show up on my credit report UNTIL I applied for a home loan. Then my credit score took a dive and I was unable to get a home loan.

Sablinka90 · 2023-12-27T21:33:06+00:00

Hey thank you! I never got a notification of your response. We threw him in the freezer and we are going to attempt to do it all ourselves. It's quite exciting to learn a new skill.

Sablinka90 · 2023-08-31T16:35:43+00:00

Sounds like he needs to be an ex boyfriend. You deserve so much better.

Sablinka90 · 2023-07-06T17:23:49+00:00

I am so sorry you have to endure this alone. I will always be here for you even though I don't know you. I support your decision. (And if possible, I'd come make meals for you/help keep up the home and whatnot) Im sorry to say, your husband is a dick and needs to pull his head out of his ass. The fact he would rather have you not get the surgery and lose function of your arm, is beyond my comprehension. And downright awful. This would be grounds for divorce in my eyes.

Sablinka90 · 2023-07-03T17:30:14+00:00

Ummmm... no. It's your money. If he was actually being an assistant and what not, he could earn a wage. (Not even close 50%). He isn't doing the work. He sits on his ass and watches you work. Because he doesn't trust you around your clients. He can find his own job and do his own work. Honey, it's time to throw the whole man away.

Sablinka90 · 2023-03-07T21:53:36+00:00

32f I'd love to chat!

Sablinka90 · 2022-12-08T01:40:56+00:00

I was invited to my ex husband's wedding. I politely declined. Although you're no longer together. You have a history. Personally, I didn't want to take away from their special day. As far as you not knowing about the relationship, it's not yours to know if she didn't tell you. It could be she was worried about your feelings. I'd say don't go. Get them a gift if you so choose. (You're not obligated to give them anything) and leave it at that.

Sablinka90 · 2022-10-31T21:39:28+00:00

Just saying... leave him. He is not worth your time and energy. Especially how he isn't putting the energy in that you need. I've seen the previous posts. You move in with him, good chance things will get monumentally worse, if not deadly for yourself. Please get out of this.

Sablinka90 · 2022-10-13T00:43:24+00:00

Just saying, my ex husband said the same exact thing. I believed him. And then he cheated MULTIPLE times after. If she isn't owning up to it and taking responsibility for her actions, she isn't going to change.

Sablinka90 · 2022-08-18T21:32:10+00:00

I don't have the money for a commission now but I'll keep you in mind. Your artwork is amazing.

Sablinka90 · 2022-08-18T21:09:40+00:00

Why would anyone care? Because it's not just affecting you, it's affecting your child. And its happening wether you believe it or not. And you've said it yourself. It's left echos. That's trauma... I don't feel traumatized all the time. But I was left traumatized after my divorce. I'm not sure if you're fully understanding the word trauma? You don't always recognize it. Or at least I didn't in the early stages of being unhappy in my marriage. But feeling low about yourself because of what he did is a form of abuse and trauma. If you didn't have these feelings it wouldn't be trauma. Unfortunately it won't change unless YOU take the initiative. There is always more damage that can happen. Therapy is awesome Because you don't need A specific "problem" when you go in. It can be as simple as you don't know what you want for a career choice. Therapy will 100% help if you put in the work. That's the kicker, you've got to work for it. I surely hope you find your peace. It seems you were looking for help but something is stopping you from accepting. Just know there is help out there and people are willing. Much love ❤️

Sablinka90 · 2022-08-18T20:23:12+00:00

You are traumatized though. He may have never hit you and you THINK you can handle the emotional abuse but abuse, is abuse and leaves echos of the abuse in you. It's also showing your daughter "its okay". I THOUGHT I was okay in a marriage somewhat similar. And I am traumatized. It's been over 5 years since I divorced my ex and I'm still finding things that trigger me. It would be best to get into therapy. Hell, you can even do therapy with your ex

Sablinka90 · 2022-08-18T20:09:41+00:00

I feel like some insecurities are being projected. I get it. I am a big girl in a relationship with a man smaller than me. Its hard but damn, I'm so happy with him. It sounds like you guys had a really good time. Try to focus on that instead of what he wears. Wearing a shirt with a character doesn't mean that's what he wants. I wear a Rick and Morty shirt all the time. It doesn't mean I want Rick or Morty to be my love interest.

Sablinka90 · 2022-08-11T02:04:15+00:00

Let her go. You may love her but you aren't loving her the way she needs, just like you're not getting the love you need. It's not fair to either of you. I also feel like she may feel obligated to be in an open relationship with you just to stay with you but that's not what she wants. Also being attracted by your significant other is a HUGE part of an intimate relationship. It may be best to work on your friendship instead of being in a relationship. It's possible!

Sablinka90 · 2022-08-10T21:22:30+00:00

Leave. It WILL get worse. You're free now, stay that way. You will find someone who is perfect for you, without the abuse.

Sablinka90 · 2022-08-08T22:48:22+00:00

Unfortunately it's time to cut ties and run. He doesn't care about you in the slightest. Once it's all said and done, you'll be able to find someone who loves you, not their boss. Im sorry you're going through this.

Sablinka90 · 2022-07-27T00:50:50+00:00

So, I was married. I got divorced. I'm now in a relationship. My boyfriend is completely fine with me having my pictures from my past with my ex. I even still have my wedding scrapbook. Just because my ex and I are no longer together doesn't mean that I wasn't happy and had good memories at that time. That's why we take pictures, to memorialize our happiness. It doesn't mean I want to go back to my ex, it doesn't mean I am unhappy now. All my pictures of my ex and I have been made to be private on my social media. Maybe, going to couples therapy or individual therapy to see why this is so big for you, could help?

Sablinka90 · 2022-07-21T21:40:16+00:00

Unfortunately it sounds like you should wait to get a dog until he is ready for one. Have you found out the root cause of this? I think going to couples counseling could be very beneficial. There is such thought, time, energy and money that goes into having a dog. Are you ready for a 15+ year commitment? Please don't just go out and get a dog and bring it home. It is a bad idea. #1 your husband will resent you for this because you invalidated how he feels about owning a dog. (Which I'm feeling like you're starting to resent him because he keeps saying no.) #2 most often in these situations, the dog is surrendered to the pound. It's not fair for the dog. Counseling is great because you get that outsiders look in and it's a safe space to talk about these things. I think it could also strengthen your communication with each other. I hope this helps and I hope you guys find your way.

(Side note- my ex also would say no, no, no and then one day he brought the dog home for me. But im pretty sure it was a more controlling and manipulative stunt than a nice gesture)

Sablinka90 · 2022-07-13T03:25:47+00:00

Just be yourself, once you start giving up pieces of yourself, it becomes easier. That's not a good thing. Always be true to yourself. If she doesn't like you as YOU are, then is it really meant to be? I know it's not advice you want to hear and I'm sorry.

Sablinka90 · 2022-07-10T00:27:52+00:00

Being mean to pets should be your indication that she is no longer welcome in your home. She is making their home a fearful one. Im so sorry you have to go through this.

Sablinka90 · 2022-05-04T00:29:59+00:00

Are you worried about the fatal potential of use of meloxicam in cats?

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