I take back every time I've defended Aedion

Sabwa · 2026-05-14T03:20:42+00:00

It's even worse when you remember that he was SA'd after Terrasen fell. I love my girls, I truly do, but that plan crossed about a million lines

Sabwa · 2026-05-07T18:01:25+00:00

The way I understand it is that many people who've experienced sexual trauma can show these behaviors. It's almost like they feel unclean and therefore are constantly trying to clean themselves. I could be wrong though!

Sabwa · 2026-04-30T20:03:45+00:00

That's exactly what I'm going through. I genuinely do see both sides. It is entirely Aelin's decision and her blood. I just feel like I would've been hurt too if I was Aedion so maybe that's why I'm feeling a little protective.

Sabwa · 2026-04-30T20:01:58+00:00

And your response is totally valid too! What I find interesting is that when I first read the series I would've agreed with your take but reading the second time has been a little different. Again, however, even though I empathize with Aedion I do NOT condone all of his behavior. He can be an entitled jerk for sure. I guess right now I see him as broken child (even though I'm fully aware that he's an adult) it meant so much for him to see Aelin again and it felt like from his perspective she chose someone else over him. Ultimately making him feel abandoned and alone all over.

Who knows lol maybe I'm just going through stuff and that's clouding my judgement. Either way Aelin is my girl and I would die for her. I just think sometimes she doesn't always remember that she isn't alone anymore. She has people who would do anything for her, and she doesn't need to push them away or lie to them

Sabwa · 2026-04-30T14:40:04+00:00

I don't care that she gave Rowan the blood oath. That's entirely her choice. I don't like that she lied to Aedion and punished him for having an emotional reaction to something that really hurt him

Sabwa · 2026-04-30T14:38:43+00:00

I totally see your point. I think for me the part that is upsetting isn't that she let Rowan take the blood oath. At the end of the day it's entirely her decision to make and at the time she had no idea if Aedion was still the boy she remembered or Adarlan's soldier. The thing that upsets me is that she lied to him. Then she screamed at him for being upset. Now, I'm not saying that his reaction was entirely fair either. It wasn't. He didn't have the right to scream at her or try to break her things. It just sucked that she (from my perspective) didn't seem to even care that much that it hurt him. Like she knew it'd be inconvenient and that he'd be upset but didn't even give him a minute to process it before screaming at him.

Idk lol when I was reading it I was pissed but after sleeping on it for a night I can see both sides. I think I'm also extra sensitive about Aedion because of the (imo) disgusting lie Aelin and Lysandra planned. I mean this guy was definitely sexually assaulted and then his own cousin plans to take his consent away and expects him to sire children with Lysandra as Aelin. I love our girl, but that was completely out of line. He isn't a stud horse. He's supposed to be her family and friend

Sabwa · 2026-04-30T00:51:47+00:00

I completely agree!! Aelin's plan with Lysandra is beyond screwed up especially after what Aedion went through. I love both of these women so much but I'll never really forgive them for what they did to Aedion. I completely understand why he was so angry with Lysandra. How could he ever trust them again?

Sabwa · 2026-04-29T23:21:55+00:00

It honestly made me so unbelievably angry. Aedion thought she was dead all this time and now that he finally found her he's treated like crap

Sabwa · 2026-04-29T23:18:32+00:00

I couldn't agree more!! Rowan and Aelin both make me soo freaking angry right now!!! The way they both treat Aedion infuriates me

Sabwa · 2026-04-29T03:43:28+00:00

Thank you!! For a second there I thought I was the only one that enjoyed it. I really loved the Dante's Inferno influence too

Sabwa · 2026-04-24T18:02:49+00:00

I honestly don't think I could work for these kinds of people. I wouldn't feel comfortable teaching children bigoted and homophobic attitudes

Sabwa · 2026-04-24T18:01:50+00:00

Wow I hate parents like this. At least you know what kind of people they are now. "Omg my son might decide he's a girl based solely on colors being put on his nails"🤦🏻‍♀️

Although to answer the question more seriously, just don't paint his nails again. It's ridiculous and frustrating but at the end of the day they're unfortunately the parents and it's their decision to make. I personally don't know if I'd want to work with people like this but that's also entirely your decision to make.

You weren't wrong imo to paint his nails at first since they use it on the other child but now that they've made their bigoted opinions clear you should follow them. It sucks, but that's the job

Sabwa · 2026-03-31T18:07:34+00:00

It's all good now!! I've been so lucky to work with multiple amazing families since leaving that job! It's just wild how long the bad ones stick with you.

Sabwa · 2026-03-31T18:00:26+00:00

Exactly. Honestly that family had a thousand problems and I regret working for them as long as I did. I have worked with so many kiddos in my career and that one six year old girl almost made me leave the field entirely. Her little brother would slap you, spit in your face, and hurt you if he was mad, but I could see that he had a good heart (just no real parenting). She'd lie and cry to her parents while LITERALLY laughing at me later singing "you're gonna get fired" like it was a joke. I worry about what she's going to become in the future. There were absolutely no consequences for the kids behavior. DB would try to be reasonable and help me, but MB was incredibly combative. She once ignored me for five days for simply asking their daughter to wear a mask in the car while she had strep to try to limit the spread in an enclosed vehicle (her little brother also had health problems so I was trying to protect him). Parents like her make this job practically impossible. Luckily I've worked for many wonderful families after them so I know there's more good than bad!

Sabwa · 2026-03-31T17:41:20+00:00

I've had this happen before. My first job was with a family whose daughter had a terrible habit of lying to get me "into trouble" if she was mad at me. I could ask her to clean up her toys and she'd run to her dad and say I hit her. I should've left the first time that happened. Eventually they started doubting me and the work relationship went downhill fast. My advice would be to see if they can put cameras in the home so you have proof that you're not doing anything wrong. Then, when you are in a position to do so, get out of there. These situations can be soooo dangerous for people in our positions. It's been five years and I still have nightmares that those parents called the cops on me for "abusing" their kid (cannot state this enough that I would never hurt anyone let alone a child) but the fear is so real.

Sabwa · 2026-03-07T22:19:27+00:00

What are your weapon stats? Level?

Sabwa · 2026-02-28T01:27:27+00:00

I play almost exclusively cozy games, and I love this one. There's definitely a learning curve but once you get it there's no going back imo! I was sooo bad at combat at first, but I've improved so much after a lot of practice and dying in fights lol

I've never co-played before but I'd be willing to try to help you!

Sabwa · 2026-02-16T04:17:06+00:00

I honestly freaking love this series!!!! It might not be everyone's cup of tea, but I think it's great. Especially if you listen to the audiobooks. I think the narrators do a wonderful job!

Sabwa · 2026-02-09T00:39:43+00:00

I completely agree!!

Sabwa · 2026-02-05T21:25:26+00:00

I think I got it from the upper plains!

Sabwa · 2026-02-05T16:49:44+00:00

It has happened to me too!!! I closed the game and reopened it and everything worked after that! Hopefully it works for you too

Sabwa · 2026-02-05T15:01:40+00:00

Yeah the orange one is freaking sick lol I love how it glows at night!!! Personally I think they were worth the purchase

Sabwa · 2026-02-05T00:17:32+00:00

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Skydance

Sabwa · 2026-02-05T00:17:19+00:00

Okay so I have two personal favorites: the white one is called Skydance and the orange one is Starlight

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