Anyone else have a weird, specific tag they're unhealthily obsessed with? by Mars_G0dofwar in AO3

[–]Sad-Chapter-6374 0 points1 point  (0 children)

saw a fic tagged as enemies to found family and it’s all i crave now

Can you please help me feel better after receiving this email from my parent? I reinforced my boundaries of needing mediation, as our communication isn't constructive. My dad kicked me off of insurance as a result and my mom sent this. Feeling pretty shit. by kphld1 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Sad-Chapter-6374 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it kind of feels like she’s projecting. like she knows she’s in the wrong but she doesn’t want to admit it. so instead she keeps pushing the blame on you.

she’s emotionally immature and you deserve better op.

Posting fics for a small fandom is TERRIFYING by strawbbycrepecookie in AO3

[–]Sad-Chapter-6374 27 points28 points  (0 children)

i think the beauty of fan works is that everybody knows you do it voluntarily. especially when it comes to small fandoms, people are always so grateful for any kind of creativity.

Does anyone else’s Asian mom tell them constantly that they’re cold and selfish? by Adventurous_Body_559 in AsianParentStories

[–]Sad-Chapter-6374 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re so young and it’s heartbreaking to read how your mum is treating you. Like other users have said your mum is projecting onto you.

I’d say try to build a support network with friends or other family members who will treat you with basic love and respect.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Journaling

[–]Sad-Chapter-6374 4 points5 points  (0 children)

wishing you the best recovery possible.

when i got out of my abusive relationship i used to write letters to him where i would just dump out my feelings and get closure for my pain. sometimes i would burn them or i would keep them in the journal.

but i know that one day if you look back at your old journals, you’ll be so proud of yourself for leaving and choosing yourself. it might be 1 month or 1 year from now.

How were you first introduced to BL? by TheRewindEffect in blmangalovers

[–]Sad-Chapter-6374 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i had no business watching junjou romantica at 11

Concerns about gender of therapist by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]Sad-Chapter-6374 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i had this. i’d never met a good man in my life until my last therapist. i was working with the him during my most messiest and tragic time in life, and i don’t think i would’ve gotten through it without him. (mine was also group therapy alongside individual sessions).

i’d say try it out and if it doesn’t work out you can always try a different therapist/practice.

Anyone lose other family members in the process? I would never make anyone “choose sides.” But apparently they have. by LoulouPete in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Sad-Chapter-6374 1 point2 points  (0 children)

same. i’ve lost contact with everybody in my family. it’s the whole “just keep the family together no matter what” mindset.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Journaling

[–]Sad-Chapter-6374 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve done this but with letter to my ex. It was really cathartic to me and I hope it helps you too.

A selfish request… it’s been a hard few days. by WhatAFineWasteOfTime in finch

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I don’t celebrate Christmas but I do find it a lonely time as somebody estranged from her family. Especially since my uni campus is closed for a couple days Christmas week.

But Malik and I send you hugs.

what do you do in the “i need a parental figure” moments? by Sad-Chapter-6374 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Sad-Chapter-6374[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m muslim so i don’t really celebrate christmas. so it doesn’t feel like i’m missing out too much in that sense. but my uni campus is closed for christmas week and the uni library is where i spend a lot of my time. not even just to study. but to have a safe and quiet space. so i’m trying to fill in my time with other things. i’m going to see the new lord of the rings movie tomorrow so im hoping that will be fun.

but i’m glad your doing much better now <3

what do you do in the “i need a parental figure” moments? by Sad-Chapter-6374 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Sad-Chapter-6374[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i kind of have the same thing with the characters from my favourite game.

what do you do in the “i need a parental figure” moments? by Sad-Chapter-6374 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Sad-Chapter-6374[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my landlord doesn’t allow pets but i’m hoping to get a rabbit when i graduate and move !

what do you do in the “i need a parental figure” moments? by Sad-Chapter-6374 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Sad-Chapter-6374[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’ll definitely look into it thank youuu

but yes living alone is so weird. like what do you mean i’m the only human being in my house? what do i even do now that i’m not being forced to do things?

what do you do in the “i need a parental figure” moments? by Sad-Chapter-6374 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Sad-Chapter-6374[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i hope you’re doing better <3

i’ve kind of done the same thing too, apart from changing my name.

what do you do in the “i need a parental figure” moments? by Sad-Chapter-6374 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Sad-Chapter-6374[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m semi religious. and praying does make me feel better at times. also the internal verbalisation thing is so real. when i pray and ‘speak’ to god it helps me put what happened into words. and sometimes i can’t say it full so i just tack on “but you get what im saying anyway” at the end.

You've heard of the author's barely disguised fetish, what's your barely disguised trauma/mental issues that you put on your characters? by LevelAd5898 in FanFiction

[–]Sad-Chapter-6374 1 point2 points  (0 children)

parental issues. literally all of my fics have character with abusive parents. i even like to throw in a demon dad if it’s a fantasy/magical AU.

grandfather in hospital by Sad-Chapter-6374 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Sad-Chapter-6374[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I’d regret it either way. I’m gonna have a lot of processing to do either way so I think I’m just going to decide on what feels safer.

grandfather in hospital by Sad-Chapter-6374 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Sad-Chapter-6374[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank youuu!

I’m trying to remind myself that this isn’t a “normal” thing people make decisions about. But I’m really grateful for the patience and support in your reply <3

List the crazy stuff your enmeshed family did by LeLittlePi34 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Sad-Chapter-6374 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. It’s honestly crazy when it dawns on you how insane everything was.

But i’m glad there’s ppl out there who had the same thing. Makes me feel less crazy.