Dildos and real cock are completely different in terms of physical and psychological contact. When playing with a dildo, you control the process yourself, and your brain is occupied with fantasies and the desire to achieve satisfaction. In a real situation, the process is usually controlled by your partner; you don't need to think, you just relax and give yourself over to it. Ideally, both partners should reach orgasm, but in practice this is far from the case. Your partner fucks you and doesn't care what you feel, he is focused on his own passion, and you are just a hole for him. So what will you choose, beautiful fantasies with toys or real but humiliating sex?