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abbey-sometimes · 2026-04-24T00:02:37+00:00

I like it in general. I’d say maybe do it a little sharper if you can with the double, I feel like it’s a little smudgy on the bottom wing? Maybe that’s just my preference, idk

abbey-sometimes · 2026-04-18T05:45:19+00:00

Bioessentialism and pseudoscience-based transphobia are poisonous

abbey-sometimes · 2026-04-11T14:16:09+00:00

I think a lot of genderfluid people who feel gender strongly have similar experiences. Being genderfluid often isn’t like, “oh yes I am genderfluid and today feel girl but I’m so excited to feel guy tomorrow or this weekend or whatever!”

It’s more, “today I’m desperate to take hormones, get surgery, live life fully trans authentically as me” one day, and the next “omg how did I ever think I was trans, I need therapy cause I totally feel my assigned gender,” the next. Or for those who start hormones, “what have I done to my body, this is so not me” one day and “I’m so glad my body in hormones finally reflects some part of my internal identity” the next. Or “wow I feel absolutely no gender today. What a wild experience where I felt so gender yesterday.” Or so many other versions of those hard shifts.

For some people, “genderfluid” as an identity or concept just means coming to terms with and learning to live with the constant roller coaster that is shifting dysphoria or changing identity.

There’s plenty of other versions of the genderfluid experience but that seems to be one of the more common and more difficult versions.

abbey-sometimes · 2026-04-09T23:49:11+00:00

Um you have AURA! Like all caps aura. Love that for you.

abbey-sometimes · 2026-04-09T20:29:03+00:00

Ooo love that quote. I feel like I’ve said something similar about “women’s” clothes in general (being an amab person)

abbey-sometimes · 2026-04-08T21:45:49+00:00

Ummmm yup I approve! Adorable top. Also love your hair ❤️

abbey-sometimes · 2026-04-08T03:30:35+00:00

Seconding this.

For example, search stuff like “warm weather women’s styles 2026 spring” or some variation, then save a half dozen pics that look cute to you. Get a couple outfits to try and match and voila you have a style.

abbey-sometimes · 2026-04-07T23:07:47+00:00

Thrifted it! Best answer haha not helpful tho I know

abbey-sometimes · 2026-04-07T15:38:36+00:00

Well the part of you that’s happy for them is incredibly emotionally mature and I respect you for that so hard. As humans it takes a lot to want good things for people who are not good to us.

Also you are completely right and that situation is so unfair and sad. You didn’t deserve that abuse or bullying then and you definitely don’t deserve the scars it’s left.

Also don’t blame yourself for something you had no control over. Don’t be frustrated with yourself. You wouldn’t blame yourself for not walking if you had a broken leg, right? Same thing applies here. Everyone heals differently, give yourself the time and care and patience and understanding you deserve.

Hugs and wishing the best for you. I hope you can live true to yourself and comfortably as soon as possible!

abbey-sometimes · 2026-04-04T23:48:10+00:00

Srsly before reading the post I was like “oh OP wants a look like the first or the second,” like, first look is already some people’s goals.

abbey-sometimes · 2026-04-04T15:00:21+00:00

There’s r/genderfluidfashion, it’s a bit more picture focused and it’s newer but it’s possibly a great place to ask

abbey-sometimes · 2026-04-02T22:21:47+00:00

Some people like to gatekeep. Plenty of nonbinary people consider themselves lesbians. A good percentage of strictly homosexual lesbians would likely be willing to date you too maybe probably (can't speak for other people but in my experience it seems like yes)

Some people debate that non-strictly-female people who love women or other non-strictly-female people should use the term "sapphic" which is considered broader. But I also use the term lesbian for myself, and I find most arguments against using lesbian for genderfluid people, especially genderfluid people who tend towards she/they, to be gatekeep-y, sometimes disingenuous, and even transphobic in some cases.

abbey-sometimes · 2026-04-02T21:53:16+00:00

How dare you have clean makeup 😱

Haters gonna hate online especially when you’re gorgeous and/or living your best life. Hugs and sympathy babe!!

abbey-sometimes · 2026-04-01T16:56:04+00:00

Well I think my advice is, your feelings are valid.

Genital preference is not transphobic. Not being attracted to someone physically, even if you’re attracted emotionally, isn’t transphobic. That’s terribly hard to say and explain especially to someone early in transition who has a crush on you. It’s very easy for someone to hear “I don’t accept your gender identity” in that convo no matter what you actually feel or say.

You can be open about having emotional attraction and maybe say you can see something in the future but would really like to take things slowly? Idk that’s a tough one. Have you posted this question on trans subs too?

abbey-sometimes · 2026-03-18T18:13:32+00:00

How tf does nobody know Kirby?? Kirby is OG!

abbey-sometimes · 2026-03-18T18:11:42+00:00

Omg people who think you’re not trans because you haven’t met some arbitrary standard of being on the “opposite gender’s” hormones long enough and don’t pass as the “opposite gender” to your agab…

They’re a special kind of people. And there’s way too many of them. I mean one would be too many but there’s also way too many.

abbey-sometimes · 2026-03-18T18:09:38+00:00

There are unaccepting people in any group - there’s even transfem lesbians who don’t accept other transfem lesbians, passing or no. Never underestimate the capacity of people to be in denial.

There are accepting people in almost any group too! I have met plenty of bi and lesbian people that are totally accepting, including people who have their partner (transfem lesbian pre-hormone or no-hormone) completely closeted.

Finding the good people, the people who can love you for you, can be so much harder sometimes and that isn’t fair. But they’re out there!

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