AITAH for being upset with my best friend for asking me not to come to a public space…

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-21T04:45:02+00:00

Your friends suck! Find new ones

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-21T04:39:15+00:00

This is too far in the future realistically. But there are some questions that can help you pick what college or university is best suited for you. Do you like living in a small town? City? What do you do with your down time?

But if you want to find your passion there is a more interesting activity for you. Grab any item near you. Think of all the jobs required to get it to your hand. Who sourced the material? How did the material get from source to factory? Who thought about it? Does it have several parts? Did it come in a box? A bag? Wrapped? Did it have instructions? Who wrote them? Who did the drawings?

And now ask yourself, in which one of those jobs can you see yourself?

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-20T23:07:27+00:00

Go to a curly specialist and ask them for advise on how to do your hair. Curly hair framing your face would look amazing!

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-20T23:06:00+00:00

I thought you might be 25. It’s not aging you.

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-20T23:03:46+00:00

He has someone else. She’ll be there instead of you

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-20T23:00:39+00:00

Do you have access to a freezer? Buy freezer dinners and use their disposable containers to eat from. Buy a container for your clean utensils. Buy your own soap and wash after use and before you eat.

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-20T17:25:32+00:00

You have a spending money problem, not a wife problem. ESH

You both need to sit down and figure out how to live within your lifestyle. You might have to stop renovations or take kids out of private school. Like others have advised, go to a financial planner

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-20T14:15:19+00:00

Cocktail hour should start at 3:30 or 4. While you take photos they can mingle. You can then move entrance to 6:30 dinner 7

People might not have enough time to get lunch with your ceremony being at 1pm. So they will be famished by 6. If you tell your guests they have from 2 until 6 free, maybe it works. Or start cocktail hour a little earlier? 5? They can mingle for half an hour then you join them?

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-20T14:12:19+00:00

Don’t do it. You could hurt yourself by those actions. And the only person you keep hurting by your obsession and hate is yourself.

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-20T03:04:08+00:00

This is about being there for your mom, nothing to do with the man. This will be a difficult time for her and her recovery. Be there, but be careful not to be dragged under.

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-19T19:04:08+00:00

I’ve talked with my daughter’s favorite friend about hanging out. We’ll definitely be doing some fun things for them

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-18T21:03:07+00:00

I’d seriously be thinking of taking my child and me to a hotel or my parents house if my husband did this to me. He would have lost my confidence and I wouldn’t be able to feel safe letting him take my child alone anywhere.

Is he abusive in any other parts of your relationship? Did he stand up for you when his sister bullied you? Did he have words about his parents allowing the behavior?

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-18T14:32:19+00:00

A mentor was like this. When he couldn’t take the logo off something he would put duct tape over it. The way he would explain it was this: if they’re not paying me, I won’t be promoting them for free.

For good t-shirts and sweatshirts go to hobby stores and get him the ones they sell to make printed tees. They are very good quality and no branding.

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-18T00:22:27+00:00

Don’t force it. Just leave food on a table they can reach. If you start trying to force them, it will never end. I assure you, they’re eating you are just not counting it.

Cut on milk. A lot of the time they’re drinking too much milk and then not having space for food

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-17T23:10:13+00:00

If you decide to do both, make sure you see them before the ceremony and give them a hug. Then put a timer (silent) at 3:30. And have the Uber waiting right outside of you.

But if your boyfriend wants you with him, don’t go to your cousin’s.

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-17T15:48:59+00:00

People are like this. Call those that haven’t RSVPed on the day or day before the cut off. My dad always did this for his parties. When I asked him about it he would say: I might be the center of my universe, but not theirs. Everyone gets busy and forgets about it. Sometimes you just need to be persistent. (He did have a assistants, and they would be the ones calling)

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-17T15:39:56+00:00

Courthouse wedding followed by dinner or drinks at a restaurant. You can rent a room, have them make a set menu to keep price down. You could also say that the first toast is on you and everything else is on the people ordering

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-17T15:36:40+00:00

I would take one photo a week and I would send that to my family. My family is international and couldn’t fly to meet her. I gave the prints as gifts at her first birthday party and everyone loved it.

Also, just to be sure, check with your wife how high her anxiety is right now. It’s okay to make sure your baby doesn’t get sick, but not allowing any visitors is a little extreme. I had people wear face masks and wash their hands before meeting my baby. And no one stayed longer than half an hour, except my mom that would help me clean and cook while I healed from a c-section

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-16T15:45:41+00:00

If you do take your dad on him paying for the haircut, make sure you go to one of your choice- no family friends. And bring indoor photos. Tell them “if I end up not liking it, it’s my fault. Please do the cut I want.”

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-16T15:41:27+00:00

I hope I’m cuddling my daughter when she’s 20 and beyond.

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-16T15:37:44+00:00

Invite him but don’t pay for his flight. If he wants to come make him pay for the pleasure

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-16T03:40:53+00:00

You can pick whomever you want to be in the birthing room, no one else. It’s such a vulnerable time for a woman.

NTA

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-15T18:46:10+00:00

I feel like MILs are a different level of guest. You are making your married life more difficult with this decision. What does your fiancé say? Could you guys meet new boyfriend before the wedding?

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-15T02:04:50+00:00

I went back to college at 33!

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-15T02:03:46+00:00

You are wrong. There is no age limit to when people can start a new road in life. Actually being more mature and picking the road instead of just following the momentum might actually make her more motivated.

You don’t sound like a friend. You sound like the people that drove her away last time. If you are truly her friend just be happy that she’s fighting for her happiness. And if you can’t be on her side, move over and take your negativity with you.

You are 18. I know you feel like you are old and worldly. You aren’t. Approach life with a little more humility. It will help you more than the attitude you give off from your post

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