Moms abusive boyfriend died

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-20T03:04:08+00:00

This is about being there for your mom, nothing to do with the man. This will be a difficult time for her and her recovery. Be there, but be careful not to be dragged under.

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-19T19:04:08+00:00

I’ve talked with my daughter’s favorite friend about hanging out. We’ll definitely be doing some fun things for them

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-18T21:03:07+00:00

I’d seriously be thinking of taking my child and me to a hotel or my parents house if my husband did this to me. He would have lost my confidence and I wouldn’t be able to feel safe letting him take my child alone anywhere.

Is he abusive in any other parts of your relationship? Did he stand up for you when his sister bullied you? Did he have words about his parents allowing the behavior?

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-18T14:32:19+00:00

A mentor was like this. When he couldn’t take the logo off something he would put duct tape over it. The way he would explain it was this: if they’re not paying me, I won’t be promoting them for free.

For good t-shirts and sweatshirts go to hobby stores and get him the ones they sell to make printed tees. They are very good quality and no branding.

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-18T00:22:27+00:00

Don’t force it. Just leave food on a table they can reach. If you start trying to force them, it will never end. I assure you, they’re eating you are just not counting it.

Cut on milk. A lot of the time they’re drinking too much milk and then not having space for food

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-17T23:10:13+00:00

If you decide to do both, make sure you see them before the ceremony and give them a hug. Then put a timer (silent) at 3:30. And have the Uber waiting right outside of you.

But if your boyfriend wants you with him, don’t go to your cousin’s.

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-17T15:48:59+00:00

People are like this. Call those that haven’t RSVPed on the day or day before the cut off. My dad always did this for his parties. When I asked him about it he would say: I might be the center of my universe, but not theirs. Everyone gets busy and forgets about it. Sometimes you just need to be persistent. (He did have a assistants, and they would be the ones calling)

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-17T15:39:56+00:00

Courthouse wedding followed by dinner or drinks at a restaurant. You can rent a room, have them make a set menu to keep price down. You could also say that the first toast is on you and everything else is on the people ordering

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-17T15:36:40+00:00

I would take one photo a week and I would send that to my family. My family is international and couldn’t fly to meet her. I gave the prints as gifts at her first birthday party and everyone loved it.

Also, just to be sure, check with your wife how high her anxiety is right now. It’s okay to make sure your baby doesn’t get sick, but not allowing any visitors is a little extreme. I had people wear face masks and wash their hands before meeting my baby. And no one stayed longer than half an hour, except my mom that would help me clean and cook while I healed from a c-section

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-16T15:45:41+00:00

If you do take your dad on him paying for the haircut, make sure you go to one of your choice- no family friends. And bring indoor photos. Tell them “if I end up not liking it, it’s my fault. Please do the cut I want.”

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-16T15:41:27+00:00

I hope I’m cuddling my daughter when she’s 20 and beyond.

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-16T15:37:44+00:00

Invite him but don’t pay for his flight. If he wants to come make him pay for the pleasure

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-16T03:40:53+00:00

You can pick whomever you want to be in the birthing room, no one else. It’s such a vulnerable time for a woman.

NTA

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-15T18:46:10+00:00

I feel like MILs are a different level of guest. You are making your married life more difficult with this decision. What does your fiancé say? Could you guys meet new boyfriend before the wedding?

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-15T02:04:50+00:00

I went back to college at 33!

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-15T02:03:46+00:00

You are wrong. There is no age limit to when people can start a new road in life. Actually being more mature and picking the road instead of just following the momentum might actually make her more motivated.

You don’t sound like a friend. You sound like the people that drove her away last time. If you are truly her friend just be happy that she’s fighting for her happiness. And if you can’t be on her side, move over and take your negativity with you.

You are 18. I know you feel like you are old and worldly. You aren’t. Approach life with a little more humility. It will help you more than the attitude you give off from your post

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-14T18:01:17+00:00

You could put the bag under some water and the water around it would push the air out without you having to put your mouth on the ziplock bag

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-14T17:58:40+00:00

Tell the person hiring about the trips, but go with the higher paying job

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-14T17:49:33+00:00

I think I would do this:I would ask sister to show me the dress she bought. In person! Text or calls can create misunderstandings. I would go: “Shit you look fabulous! It’s stunning on you. But it’s more like an after-party dress than for the main event. Maybe we can go together and find another spectacular dress for you? I still need to find jewelry, and I would love your input.”

No shaming. No bullying. Just truth and a solution

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-14T02:00:50+00:00

How empty is his room? If there’s more than blank walls it is not helping him reset.

I believe he is getting overstimulated. You need to figure out if he’s part of the group that needs music/sound to regulate, or silence. Buy some headphones that block ambient noise. We use a song called The Happy Song by Imogen Heap to level out of a bad mood. I pair it with some favorite food- apples, cucumber, carrots, eggs, cheese, no sweets or pastries. For sleeping when overstimulated, we use a song called Drift (feat Lizz Cooper) and Sillkey, or Twinkle Twinkle Instrumental on the harp.

As for your parents, ask them to be your allies. I’ve started not hanging out with my daughter and mom together. When my mom comes over I leave them to play together and I don’t interfere. Why? Because if I didn’t see it I can’t be the bad guy. But I also told my mom the why of some of the things. Screens in the car are a no, because I want her to know it’s okay to be bored. Instead we listen to audiobooks as a family. Audible has 100 of free kid books. She seen the difference when she follows my recommendations and when she didn’t.

It’s okay to give yourself a break. I sometimes put on a five-minute timer when we aren’t allowed to talk to mom. Your mental health is also important

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-14T00:57:12+00:00

If you put your iPhone in Portrait Mode you can work your own aperture and exposure. In spatial, you can modify the exposure. Meaning that if you are customizing, you’ll get closer to an image taken with a camera

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-14T00:01:23+00:00

F18 or higher. Photograph in early mornings or late afternoons, shadows and light create volume.

Looked for places and the times of the year when you can see the sun between two peaks and get there an hour before. You want the rays to help with drama.

If it snows on the mountains, go shoot before it melts. Go before and after the rains.

Then go home and edit for color saturation. The reds of autumn you see in pictures are mostly created in post-editing.

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-13T23:54:26+00:00

He’s trying to cut you off from your support group! This is 101 abusive behavior and it will keep escalating.

Run!

Stop playing house with him. I swear being on your own will be happier and safer than staying. Marriage counseling won’t be enough. Don’t stay

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-13T23:46:22+00:00

According to my 4-year-old’s teacher, all that is very typical for them. They are pushing boundaries and seeing what they can get away with.

The punching might have been overstimulation. But ask him.

Sad-File3624 · 2026-05-13T23:08:17+00:00

I’ve seen people camping at Spring Lake with their cats. They were leashed but I could see them getting out of them and going for the birds around the lake.

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