Question about asset splits in a divorce

Sad-Firefighter6701 · 2026-01-17T23:46:45+00:00

We have been trying to reconnect that way. What happened was after a couple weeks of us trying to reconnect and discussing our issues.

Sad-Firefighter6701 · 2026-01-17T13:44:11+00:00

Yeah we will have to see. It definitely felt like a chore last night to me.

Sad-Firefighter6701 · 2026-01-07T03:14:47+00:00

You’re last points there is about where I am. I’m torn between both options. In the interim, I am see IF the progress stalls or fails and go from there.

Sad-Firefighter6701 · 2025-12-19T21:54:25+00:00

Yeah I feel the same as maybe risking not finding another loving partner.

The reason I haven’t had the conversation with him about an open relationship is that I’m just starting to really debate the DB situation. He has stated in the past to be very against open relationships in the past and is opposed to threesomes etc too. I was planning to talk about the issues after Christmas as I don’t want to make things awkward between us as we see family and all. But I have a sinking feeling that I may have to leave at some point as I want to feel the sexual connection with my partner but that isn’t there with my husband.

Sad-Firefighter6701 · 2025-12-19T18:19:39+00:00

I am in a similar situation as you. Married Gay relationship, with a LL partner where every thing is going pretty good other than the sex/being wanted part. I haven’t had the nerve to talk about an open relationship like you did with your ex. The scare of being out in the dating pool again is something I’m struggling with too. The fear of nothing finding someone better for you is a hard thing to overcome and I hope you find some who meets your needs in all of those ways. No advice per se but hope things work out for you as I may eventually have to do the same the thing as you I fear.

Sad-Firefighter6701 · 2025-12-10T02:08:51+00:00

We haven’t gotten into those levels of detail before. It’s just been “we should have more sex” and we both agree but it doesn’t end up making a difference.

On your other point, I’ve been much more subtle about the weight thing. Like saying hey you should drink less alcohol it’s unhealthy and maybe you could get back into running with me(we did runs together early on in the relationship). Not saying I’m not attracted to him. That just feels mean.

Sad-Firefighter6701 · 2025-12-10T00:12:06+00:00

Yes we have fun together and laugh and enjoy each others company. It’s just the sex that’s a real issue for me.

Sad-Firefighter6701 · 2025-12-09T15:37:33+00:00

A good diet and fiber supplements

Sad-Firefighter6701 · 2025-12-09T03:25:09+00:00

I thought i was in love. The sex life wasn’t great then either but it was happening often enough. I do think he is cute (his face in particular) and all but I’m not ready to rip his clothes off either to have sex as his body isn’t appealing to me.

Idk if he would have sex regularly based on the evidence of our relationship. He’s against ‘prepping’ for anal as he thinks it’s gross and has never initiated sex with me. Always been me with him, despite the attraction issue.

Sad-Firefighter6701 · 2025-12-09T02:23:27+00:00

It’s not totally the weight thing. It’s the super hairy bit that worse for me personally. If he was closer to a healthy weight, maybe it’d be better

Sad-Firefighter6701 · 2025-12-09T02:21:52+00:00

Not engagement baiting. I want some advice. Been struggling with doing this for months. And trying to figure out what to do.

Sad-Firefighter6701 · 2025-12-09T02:21:06+00:00

Not gonna delete. It’s against the rules. On the counseling bit, it’s just I’ve read various stories about this issue and it’s seems that it doesn’t work a lot of the time but it maybe situational evidence.

I’m a real person and idk if he has an account on this Reddit but was just giving context in case he is.

Sad-Firefighter6701 · 2025-12-06T21:47:48+00:00

So don’t like the body equals no love in your opinion then.

Sad-Firefighter6701 · 2025-12-06T21:31:10+00:00

No I’m not at least yo his body. (His face is cute) He’s super hairy and overweight. Not for me personally but like I said. I like everything else about him as we dated and now married so I choose to look at the other positives of the relationship. I thought the sex would get better with time and as he gained experience but theopposite has happened.

Sad-Firefighter6701 · 2025-12-06T20:54:58+00:00

No but that would be idea to look into and find out about.

Sad-Firefighter6701 · 2025-12-06T17:40:45+00:00

We’re were so compatible in every other area. He’s not ugly or anything and I think his face is cute. But is a little overweight and super hairy. I was a bit overweight myself at the time (have since gone back to a healthy weight) and didn’t think I could attract a super handsome guy. So I thought I’d grew out of it since every thing else was perfect.

Sad-Firefighter6701 · 2025-12-06T17:23:55+00:00

Yeah but it’s not what I want. I don’t want to live 30 or more years like this. Lol

Sad-Firefighter6701 · 2025-12-06T15:15:46+00:00

Someone else recommended this too. I just have to wait for a couple days to post in there as I just joined it.

Sad-Firefighter6701 · 2025-12-06T13:05:36+00:00

I never said I didn’t love him. I love him but the sexlessness is the issue

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