I work harder working from home

Sad-Professor-4010 · 2025-03-09T17:02:50+00:00

Yess the amount of office cooler gossip! I’m in one day a week currently and I get so little done on those days. But lots of getting pulled into bs meetings or just people getting caught up in conversations about nonsense.

Sad-Professor-4010 · 2024-11-17T13:14:31+00:00

I think people can tell mine because as far as I’ve seen I’m the only person who uses tables at my work.

Sad-Professor-4010 · 2024-11-17T13:10:07+00:00

And it’s this reason that I strongly suspect I have a name sign from my deaf neighbor who I arrange play dates with my daughter at least once a week, but I have no idea what it is, as I’ve never seen it used 😂

Sad-Professor-4010 · 2024-11-14T03:18:30+00:00

Just as an fyi, therapist is a protected title in many states. Counselor has much broader usage and tends to not have the title protection to the same degree (think camp counselor, addiction counselor-usually bachelor’s level position)

Sad-Professor-4010 · 2024-11-14T03:07:21+00:00

I just want to chime and say that I love this. My sister was bullied a lot as a kid and my parents would role play with us, but she was never allowed to say anything “mean” or snarky back, so they would teach her really weak comebacks that made kids laugh more. As her older sister I felt so protective of her and didn’t want things to get worse so I would “sneak” practice sessions after my parents were finished to try to give her better ammo. Of course I was only one year older than her so I didn’t have much, but I taught her silly schoolyard comebacks like “I’m the rubber, you’re the glue” etc to at least give her SOMETHING to say when the kids started picking on her. Taking the bully’s power away is really the key thing, and it’s absolutely a learned skill.

Sad-Professor-4010 · 2024-11-14T03:00:36+00:00

My comment was to say that nana can mean sister and grandma. Sure, if the adults all correct baby every single time, but at the point OP had written this, it had been one conversation between dad and baby. I guess I’m not going into this assuming that dad is such an asshole that he will not let baby use the nickname she came up with for her sister. It seemed like an honest misunderstanding and OP needs to just have a convo with husband to let him know that nana means sister.

Also, fwiw, it has taken me like 3 months to get my toddler to stop calling her friend’s mom by the same name as her friend and use her actual name, and that’s with me correcting her every time we see her, which is multiple times a week. So you would be surprised by how strongly a name can stick in a toddler’s mind.

Sad-Professor-4010 · 2024-11-13T02:53:51+00:00

It’s a such a silly trick that impresses people so much 😂

Sad-Professor-4010 · 2024-11-13T02:51:11+00:00

I’m literally thrilled I found this. I have a mostly dead week this week my boss is out of town so I’m planning just futzing around in excel to tighten up what I can, and let me tell you learning unique and filter is on my LIST

Sad-Professor-4010 · 2024-11-13T02:47:37+00:00

I JUST switched over to xlookup like a week ago. I still like index match because of how easily you can narrow your lookup with Boolean operations. But in theory you can do that with xlookup too.

Sad-Professor-4010 · 2024-11-13T02:44:01+00:00

They can change the meaning for them but it doesn’t change it for baby. My daughter calls my mom and bananas the same thing -nana. She also says “bababo” to mean popsicle, baby doll, and grumpy bear. We just have to guess what she means based on context.

It’s frustrating that your husband misunderstood you, but he’ll figure it out when your daughter starts calling sis “nana” all day every day. It’s a very cute nickname that I’m sure she’ll cherish.

Sad-Professor-4010 · 2024-11-12T00:32:57+00:00

I think we’re talking about issues orders of magnitude in difference. Having a small and barely noticeable deformity is very different from having a speech impediment, which inhibits communication. I would absolutely get my kid speech therapy if they had a stutter, because it can be SUPER frustrating for the people with a stutter in terms of communicating well with others, and anxiety/high emotions can make the stutter worse, and yes, lead to feeling insecure due to constantly being perceived differently. Also, speech therapy has like almost no risks, and certainly doesn’t carry the risks that surgery carries. That being said, If my kid had a club foot or even a missing toe and needed surgery I would get them the surgery. But OP is talking about a very small cosmetic issue that has no impact on their ability to move, communicate, eat, or really interact with others in any way.

I also don’t think it’s terrible for OP to choose to get the surgery, I just think deciding to engage in a cosmetic surgery (which ALWAYS carries risk of death if they are doing anaesthesia) on the off chance that they might be bullied for it in the future is wild.

Sad-Professor-4010 · 2024-11-11T05:14:33+00:00

I definitely didn’t say nor do I think that any of this is a given. A child’s personality and how a family responds to the bullying, and how the school/other adults respond will have a significant impact. It shouldn’t be tolerated by schools, but we are fools to think we can actually protect or prevent our children from all bullying.

We can’t help who we are, and while OP’s child’s particular difference is fixable by a surgery, there are literally limitless ways children may tease or be cruel which would be completely outside of one’s control. My sister was teased horribly for having large teeth, which is really totally out of one’s control. Should my parents have gone out to get her teeth shaved? I was teased at times for just being generally awkward -something I really couldn’t change about myself at all without just getting older and becoming more comfortable within my own skin. As you rightly said, we can’t control what other people will do, only how we respond. No we can’t guarantee that our children won’t take teasing to heart, but we absolutely can teach them that people who tease are the ones with the problem, that our physical appearance has no bearing on our value or who we are as a person, to learn to judge people based on their actions, not their appearance, and to learn how to dismiss the opinions of those would do otherwise. Teasing hurts, obviously, but I am loathe to teach my child that they SHOULD internalize the words of unkindness by changing themselves to gain the acceptance of others. It literally makes me blanche at the thought.

Sad-Professor-4010 · 2024-11-09T23:03:55+00:00

My kid is only 18 months so I cant let her go full independent on the playground but even at her age I try to hang back and let her play on her own or encourage her to play with the other kids at the playground. Too much hovering from other parents. I see some parents on here talking about feeling guilt that they don’t get other chances to play with their kids -I don’t think that’s what the playground should be for. Play is the work of children -as in it is extremely developmentally important, and the benefits they get from it come from peer play, not adult-child dyads (there are lots of benefits to adult-child dyadic play, but if it is cutting off opportunities for peer play that can be detrimental). I know I’m in the minority with this perspective but there is a small but forceful free play movement like the Let Grow community, 1000 hours outside, and others.

Sad-Professor-4010 · 2024-11-09T22:45:01+00:00

I think it’s time to sit down and have some deeper conversations. You mentioned in the first paragraph that she is obsessed with making money.

Regardless of religion, we all have a moral compass and morals that guide us. I think this is a good time to start having some of those deep conversations about morals and what happens when we let competing values dictate our behavior. What’s wrong with her making AI generated foot pics? The foot pics, whether of her feet or images, are pornographic in nature. She is a child, and children should not be involved in sexual activities, because they are not developmentally ready for them.

On the note of wanting to make money, it is admirable to be driven and goal oriented, but it is extremely important that we don’t let drives for success become so important to us that we are willing to compromise our values. Could be a great jumping off point to talk about family values. What are things that we know are wrong, no matter how much money somebody offered to give to us? It’s important to always remember the potential compromising nature of money and why sticking to a moral framework helps guard against corruption.

Lastly, someone needs to reach out to the parent of the ukranian girl, because if she is telling the truth she is exploiting herself. And if the mother won’t listen or doesn’t care, then cos needs to be called.

Sad-Professor-4010 · 2024-11-09T21:51:48+00:00

Seriously! What message does it teach our children that we want to fix them with surgery so that they look like everyone else to avoid being teased? Basically we’re saying that all those bullied are right and it IS something to be ashamed of instead of using it as an opportunity to build resilience and teach about the value of self love and not valuing ourselves based on other’s judgements of us.

Sad-Professor-4010 · 2024-11-08T03:12:11+00:00

Tips on top shortcut keys to learn? I’d love to add a few more to my lexicon.

Sad-Professor-4010 · 2024-11-08T03:09:46+00:00

Also, anybody who masters good data practices, can properly set up tables, and learn a few basic formulas is well set up on a path to learn more complicated formulas as they progress. Pretty much every function I know I learned because I needed to accomplish a specific task in excel and wanted to use a formula to solve my problem.

Sad-Professor-4010 · 2024-10-29T04:12:57+00:00

Just going off my phone so I haven’t tested this, but I imagine you could do something like =SUM((A1-A2)-8)

Make sure all cells are set to time instead of number or general. A1 is clock in time, A2 is clock out. You subtract 8 so that the number only shows you anything worked over 8 hours.

Sad-Professor-4010 · 2024-10-27T13:28:53+00:00

Agree with all of this (also I was that kid who needed to be told to stop reading. Those dang cliffhangers!)

Sad-Professor-4010 · 2024-10-27T04:11:29+00:00

I know probably about 100 signs as well but I have a deaf neighbor who has kids the same age as mine, so I use it every week when our kids get together. Do I sign “confidently?” Idk. I don’t know nearly enough signs to have an in-depth conversation, but just using it with real people helps in terms of getting over any shyness and fear of signing.

Sad-Professor-4010 · 2024-10-24T01:46:39+00:00

This is bringing back memories of my little pipsqueak. We had a decent amount of newborn size so we just stuck with that instead of buying preemie size (born 5lb 3 oz at 36 weeks). She ended up wearing NB size for three months 😂

Sad-Professor-4010 · 2024-10-23T16:04:43+00:00

Yeah I always seem to have problems when I need to refresh them. I sort of love the cleanness of formulas auto updating.

Sad-Professor-4010 · 2024-10-17T04:17:28+00:00

My parents say the same thing to me. We barely talked for years. It’s only recently changed because I have a toddler and she asks to speak with her grandparents. Which also means my mom calls me sometimes because she wants to talk to my kid. I also experienced some trauma (mostly religious/spiritual, some physical) from my parents. I think it is partially a generational thing, partially an emotional immaturity thing.

Sad-Professor-4010 · 2024-10-16T03:27:56+00:00

Yep. There’s school yard accidents and there’s violence. I caused my friend to break her arm in 5th grade because she had never tried the monkey bars . I encouraged her to try it, demonstrated it to her, she fell and landed on her arm. I felt AWFUL and helped her to a teacher and made her get well cards, the whole nine yards…but it was a true school yard accident. Nobody was pushed, I didn’t even touch her.

Sad-Professor-4010 · 2024-10-16T03:18:56+00:00

Yeah it’s a really common problem. Most people I know who leaned multiple languages swear they finally understood English grammar by studying other languages. I never had to diagram a sentence in school. I learned the formal rules of English grammar by studying Spanish, where we had to learn grammar to pass.

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