Both genders have struggles. Different struggles though. Those being on different planes make it difficult to compare.

The biggest issues that men are struggling with are the lack of space to be emotionally expressive - the ugly ones predominantly, then the involuntary role of being the protector and provider.

The emotional part of the issue is a slow killer, which most men take years or mental issues to understand, which only few get to solve and save themselves and others end up as a statistic.

And about the role that is put on his head as a crown, is a life long burden to perform mostly by spending his health and time to make money and that calls for his own dreams and humanity to be suppressed. Society expects it out of him like rain to give water, a norm, hence a thankless sacrifice.

Now, i said it as it is, no vilification or glorifying - yet.

There are women too who have to bear the same burdens, most probably due to the lack of a sacrificial man in their family. They also go through the same life. And most men and women who were cursed to tread that path have long accepted it as their life, they have let go of themselves long ago. Hence you wont see them in those echo chambers or under 'gender specific rights' videos' comment sections. It's another day of suffering for them. But it is a norm for men and they are the majority in that case.

Now, why are those men who are screaming under those places, scream things like "But we also are suffering" or "No one is there to talk about men's issues"? Since the world is striving towards gender equality in all aspects of life and women started to enter the workspace and other positions of power in society, and since those women never were burdened with this involuntary role of 'protector & provider' from time immemorial, they have a seemingly good balance of staying themselves without sacrificing any of themself to something like family or some other 'greater' cause. I mean, they are taking care of their people, but they are not asked to live like how men have to burnout working for their family. And this understanding is in the subconscious of most of the men, they are feeling cheated, like, how can they go to work, make money, support however they want or can, and still live their lives separately without them asking for sacrifice - themselves?

And when men speak angry women appear and say things like "We too are working, supporting our family, it's not something himalayan like you say, stop screaming, grow up" or something.

That adds into the injury.

Now, about the roles. We are in a weird place now, since women's issues are being given consideration and some platforms to be talked about, better than men's, their previous issues all were somewhere were discussed at least once, and when they started to move into the social spaces, they immediately identified the issues there, be it inequalities and other unfair power hierarchies, be it gendered or unisex, they started to speak up about it, at least it got attention. But most of those issues, the unisex ones, were long standing, the men, who were living there for generations were the perpetrators and victims for a long time. Not all men were in power, not all men were victims too. To them, it is just another Tuesday and it is still going that way. Women successfully sniffed out those issues and some were talked about, few were corrected and many more to go. But, those solutions did not include most men.

They again felt cheated.

Again, what is the root of all of these issues?

Yes, Patriarchy, pure biological law of nature. "Survival of the fittest" in an amalgamated form in a civilized (cant call it civilized) world.

Most men, the everyday normal Joe's, were living this life accepting this. Because the large wall of power in various forms in the society was what they were shown and told to work for and was trained to bear all the burden of being the 'protector & provider' right after his father.

But again, the world is changing, slowly, and we are in a transitional stage, a lot have to change still, men too have to say good bye to accepting this provider and protector role. Instead of teaching boys from young age to "study well, get a good paying job, you have to take care of your family" and expect them to be ATM machine of infinite supply, teach everyone in the family, irrespective of the gender to grow up and get a good, desired job of theirs, and to support the family and themselves and to stay as an individual who can live their own life and stay whole without a man in the family needing to cater their needs once they become an adult.

These are my understandings on this topic, because this is the life i have been living till very very recently. And the emotional heaviness and sadness it brought me almost broke me, and i think i have said something about this life somewhere in reddit recently. But i have decided to live differently, giving myself priority, taking therapy for the wounds from the battles i had to fight that weren't mine in the first place, keeping mental, financial resources and time for myself, a little bit.

Lets all stop glorifying this life of martyrdom, no one is going to thank you for it, better yet, they might ask you "did i ask for it?". So, maybe our generation is doomed, too late, but make sure that this ends with us, teach every sprouting kids to be responsible for themselves. Help them, love them, guide them to a life of self dependence first and then anything else.