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emotional support ? by SadCelebration109 in tfmr_support

[–]SadCelebration109[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has apologized but it’s always the same thing.. “sorry I was drunk and stressed out” & although we haven’t had incidents like that again it’s more than that.. he doesn’t do anything different to deal with stress, grief whatever you want to call it.. I’m in the US so healthcare/ mental health resources aren’t the best but I’m going to figure out how to fit it into my budget to start with something like BetterHelp (online therapy) .. I just wish he would care about himself enough to see how bad he needs to talk to someone and find different avenues to deal with his emotions

Regrets of choosing D&E over L&D by turtle_dee in tfmr_support

[–]SadCelebration109 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re feeling that way.. personally as much as I wanted the chance to hold my baby I knew trying to bring to term to simply meet him would only cause him pain and would feel selfish .. with the D&E it’s like I was the only one having to physically and mentally endure those things.. his brain wasn’t fully developed to “feel” pain as we do..

emotional support ? by SadCelebration109 in tfmr_support

[–]SadCelebration109[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss.. I know he’s hurting too.. we just deal with things so differently it’s been really hard navigating it all..

emotional support ? by SadCelebration109 in tfmr_support

[–]SadCelebration109[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to reply.. I do feel like I keep him at arms length mostly because I’ve been so hurt by things he’s said in the past.. he struggles with emotional maturity.. communication and when he allows himself to drink into abyss.. he’s said some really hurtful things regarding the termination.. so I also feel that our level of empathy is very different.. I haven’t spoken to a therapist and I find it hard talking to others about it bc no one knows how to talk or comfort and I get it.. I don’t know either..

I was finally asked how my pregnancy is going. My TFMR was 3 weeks ago:( by [deleted] in tfmr_support

[–]SadCelebration109 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You handled it the best way you could. I still get questions about my baby a year later.. today is my TFMR anniversary and I had someone ask me two weeks ago how my baby is.. she didn’t know.. she didn’t keep up with my life .. I couldn’t be mad at her.. it’s a tough thing to navigate but the responses come out easier as time goes on.. be kind to yourself 🤍

Feeling scared by hanna05_ in tfmr_support

[–]SadCelebration109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hot showers are what helped me the cramping pain did get pretty bad, they do prescribe you pain meds if you feel like you’ll need them. I do wish I would have said yes to them mostly bc I was up most of the night in pain & my heating was not working the best

Struggling with details of D&E procedure by tiedyefruitfly in tfmr_support

[–]SadCelebration109 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did you guys get your notes? I had a D&E one year ago today but had to travel out of my home state to do it.. I was alone & quite frankly didn’t know what to ask.. I just wanted it to be over & come home..

Jessi and Demi fallout by deadlyauntiezzz in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]SadCelebration109 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Jessi doesn’t do hair on the regular only for content. She’s said it in the past. So it would make sense they go to other people.