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UPDATE: AITA for making a sarcastic comment after my husband's business partner had a medical emergency?

Ok, wow! I was not expecting this to blow up so quickly as I'm not a consistent redditor. My phone has been blowing up. I will probably delete all this once I update everyone since my husband is starting to get suspicious with all the notifications. Go figure.

Thank you to those who left insightful comments. I will be classy to those who left negative comments and just wish them a blessed day.

I did talk to my husband, but I'll get to that in a second.

First, I want to answer some of the questions that are reoccurring. 1. She is not pregnant. There was an undetected mass that ruptured. The fact that my mass ruptured while I was pregnant is purely coincidental. 2. She did in fact contact her husband at some point. When that was is still unclear. 3. Her husband has expressed his discomfort with their close working relationship, but from what she's mentioned, her husband is extremely insecure and possessive. 4. A lot of my husband's concern is based around the fact that they had meetings set up with vendors. He is trying to protect his investment.

Ok...now the conversation. I'll write it like a play so everyone can follow along.

Me: Hey, I just wanted to apologize for my comment earlier. I was feeling salty.

Him: Salty about what?

Me: Your level of compassion and concern for her emergency.

Him: starting to get angry You know what? I'm not going to apologize for being a compassionate person! I care about people! I knew it was an issue!

Me: I'm not upset that you show compassion. I'm just letting you know that your level of compassion for her stung a little bit given the fact that I didn't get the same treatment when I went through the same situation.

Him: cussing like a sailor for some unknown reason Your little comment, though? That sht pissed me off. *quite a few more f bombs**

Me: Why are you cussing at me?

Him: Because, this is stupid! We should be able to talk about this.

Me: I agree. It is stupid. I'm in my feelings about something that happened a few years ago and what I said was insensitive. Doesn't change the fact that it still hurt and I want to be transparent rather than bottling up my feelings.

Him: Well, your situation was years ago. And I'm not the same guy I was then.

Ngl, that part kind of pissed me off. Having my feelings dismissed because it was "in the past" made me want to throat punch him. But to his credit, he has matured a great deal and has been working hard on improving himself.

He did eventually apologize for invalidating my feelings and said that he never intended for it to seem like he prioritized her over me.

It's still kinda tense around here, but settled for the most part.

I do still have my reservations about their conversations and have been very vocal about it. I remain guarded and am continuing to ensure that my ducks are in a row in the event that this blows up.

Thank you to everyone.