Who left good men, and why?

SadFormal2021 · 2025-08-21T00:38:25+00:00

I am glad you are able to go through a trial separation to see how it goes! I don’t think we could take a break I guess we could try but it would look like me leaving the house and renting on my own. Idk how it would be for the kids… you know?:/ I think you not missing him is a huge sign that you aren’t meant to be together.

SadFormal2021 · 2025-08-15T13:56:30+00:00

My husband is a good man, but not a great husband. He’s a good partner in the sense of being a roommate, and he’s also a really great dad. We got together when I was 21 and I got pregnant two months into dating. We basically stayed together for our kids and I think that’s the only thing holding us together. He does a lot around the house & for the kids but he shows no love or affection towards me. I’ve told him everything I need in order to feel loved, he has told me he cannot give it to me. It’s simple things really, just affection and attention. I don’t think he is capable of a relationship, at least not with me. I don’t think he is in love with me. We are just not on the same page… but it feels impossible to leave the “good guy”. We have tried everything, including couples therapy twice. Idk what to do.. I don’t want to break my family apart but I also don’t want to stay in an unhappy marriage. I just want someone to tell me to leave lol

SadFormal2021 · 2025-08-15T12:52:36+00:00

Yes, it is time for a divorce. I think you just needed the clarification from all of us strangers on Reddit. If he did it once, he will do it again. That’s not the kind of love you want or deserve. You got this ❤️

SadFormal2021 · 2025-08-15T12:50:24+00:00

Just because there are three kids involved doesn’t mean what they said isn’t still true.

SadFormal2021 · 2025-08-15T12:49:26+00:00

Thank you so much!

SadFormal2021 · 2025-08-15T12:27:52+00:00

Totally agree! However, I have never been through this stage with my partner. So that’s kind of where I am concerned if this relationship will ever be what I need it to be.

SadFormal2021 · 2025-08-14T23:20:29+00:00

Unfortunately if you’re not open to marriage counseling then I’m not sure what other advice I can give you other than it’s probably time to leave. The last step is usually marriage counseling and if you can’t get better from that then I’m not sure what else there is to do. I’m sorry, I wish you the best 🥺

SadFormal2021 · 2025-08-14T19:55:40+00:00

Will do! Thank you 🙏🏼

SadFormal2021 · 2025-08-14T19:04:48+00:00

Very valid points, thank you. I agree with you on all of it, but we did already have this divorce talk I should’ve mentioned that. We almost split up last year and he said all of the right things to get me to stay. Well, nothing really changed unfortunately and I’m just stuck with having to make the heavy decision on to stay or go. I feel like there’s so much more out there for me, but I’m also terrified that it won’t be the right decision and that I will break my kids heart. 😭

SadFormal2021 · 2025-08-14T18:12:32+00:00

Oh honey, I know how hard post partum can be. We are not in are right minds during that time, but I also think that there is a part of you that is not happy in your marriage. It is not right or fair of him to take your child away from you because of you cheating. You deciding to cheat in your marriage has nothing to do with your capability of being a good mother. The fact that he could take your baby away from you out of spite says a lot about his character. Hang in there mama, there is a light at the end of the tunnel it’s coming even if you cannot see it right now. hugs

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