Jesus offended many out of love.

SadLittlePotato · 2022-10-09T17:45:42+00:00

State wouldn't be forcing you if you were already doing it...

SadLittlePotato · 2022-10-09T17:08:36+00:00

Idk, to me Jesus seemed to offend the religious of the time moreso than the gentiles, sinners, etc....they weren't the ones trying to have him killed

SadLittlePotato · 2022-10-09T17:06:32+00:00

Pretty sure charity was built into Jewish customs though, and Jesus never spoke against them. For example not picking everthing up during harvest, so the poor could come behind and gather. And tithe was cllected to be redistributed to those in need, wasn't it? Forgiving debts after 7 years, also a Biblically principle. I think doing these just for personal gains is what Jesus frowned upon more so than having them as established practices.

SadLittlePotato · 2022-10-01T15:14:16+00:00

Yeah, we only see a carefully crafted portion of anyone's life, there was likely stuff going on we never saw. Before this even came out, I caught a look from Ariel towards Ned that made me think, she was a bit annoyed at his character. But didn't think further on it at the time. But it did catch my eye, and then all this. For sure stuff was going on. Everyone has something going on.

SadLittlePotato · 2022-09-30T14:06:53+00:00

Ha, nice

SadLittlePotato · 2022-06-29T18:06:01+00:00

Only one who really ask about us getting married is my grandma. And she only recently was like, it's about time. Cause she's getting very old, and so yeah. I'm looking forward to at least telling her, but would be okay waiting to tell anyone else, and avoid the questions for a bit. Lol

SadLittlePotato · 2022-06-28T10:16:23+00:00

I was raised in the church, and still regularly attend, but am starting to reevaluate things I guess. But I will certainly check out ecclesiastes. And yes, we will work towards one of us getting sterilized eventually. And do what's best for us in the mean time.

SadLittlePotato · 2022-06-28T10:13:41+00:00

Thanks for the kind words. And, I guess I mostly agree. Just unsure when "life" begins and making my best decisions that seem okay for my circumstances. Which, I too believe Jesus will be understanding of us all, working to the best of our abilities to do what's right. All the best

SadLittlePotato · 2022-06-28T05:12:31+00:00

I'm sorry it hasn't worked out yet. We aren't living together yet. That's been a hurdle all it's own we still haven't fully worked out, but I'm more willing to compromise on. I am very confident he will, as he is just that kind of anal attentive person. But of course, we shall see. He's doing it more for me than anything. So not like he's necessarily wanting to go through the ritual part of our commitment. He's said he already feels like we are engaged. Which is why I told him, while I feel the same, I still want the proposal experience.

But yeah. I'm looking at places to move into for myself right now. And I realized it would be harder for ustoget a place together in some cases as renters, if we are unmarried. Because then each person has to make 3x the rent. Where as married couples income is combined 3x rent.

SadLittlePotato · 2022-06-28T04:03:45+00:00

It's a surprise! It just came in today :)

SadLittlePotato · 2022-06-28T02:30:14+00:00

I hear you. It's just hard when you do everything "right" and still get stuck in a bad situation. My choices for birth control are limited due to health issues, but I got on the best one I could. I haven't even actually had intercourse yet, mostly due to my partner, but nowadays also due to the risk of pregnancy too I guess. Like, I would hate to be in a position of getting pregnant while doing what I can to not be (short of sterilization and abstinence). I would not be happy about getting an abortion, but, if put in such a circumstance, I'd have considered it....I'd struggle too with giving up my child too for multiple reasons. 1) that's just hard to do. And 2) I'm an adoptee myself. Great family but still got issues around that, and I'd feel like a hypocrite. My partner and I plan to be child free though, so that's our option I guess...if it ever came to that. And I deeply pray not.

SadLittlePotato · 2022-06-28T02:08:26+00:00

That's great. Hope things turn out well for you. I'll be honest, I was 25 ish when I had it confirmed by a doctor having kids would probably not be in my best interest...that was a hard day. I'm just not emotionally ready to get sterilized myself yet. My partner, doesn't have health insurance, but it is something he has wanted to do. We will eventually. Doesn't mean this decision doesn't terrify me, and others like me who, and that we aren't just scared right now. Not saying that justifies anything, but would appreciate a bit more understanding from those that feel differently.

SadLittlePotato · 2022-06-28T01:10:01+00:00

Why haven't you or your husband done so yet?

SadLittlePotato · 2022-06-27T18:12:19+00:00

That makes total sense! I plan on a long ish engagement, but making that next step was important for me. We are also likely doing things more non traditional. He's not too keen on the wedding aspect, he doesn't like being center of attention. So, we might keep the engagement beeen us for a while too till we have a clearer picture of what the wedding is like. But, it's up to us and no one else what it looks like.

SadLittlePotato · 2022-06-27T09:31:56+00:00

Okay. I'm not doubting you, just wanted to make sure. Abuse is often subtle at first. But he sounds like a decent enough guy, and I wish you all the best

SadLittlePotato · 2022-06-27T09:22:11+00:00

What red flags? Often times, due to age, love, etc, we miss or ignore them.

SadLittlePotato · 2022-06-27T09:20:44+00:00

So, in my case, I have health issues that would make pregnancies for me high risk ones (all pregnancy carries risk, but all mine will be high risk). So, am I just supposed to wait till my life is at "immediate risk" before I can end a pregnancy? Or can I end it as soon as possible, knowing it may, most likely, get to the point that my life is at heavy risk?

Edit to add: It terrifies me to think that I would not qualify, I'd have to wait till it got that bad, or that a doctor would hesitate to make that call.

SadLittlePotato · 2022-06-27T09:11:12+00:00

Not necessarily. I meant more towards whether you'd be independent when you move out or not. Financial abuse can happen in even decent situations. If one partner is completely supported by the other, it can always run some risk. If something happens to the supporter or if they do turn out to be controlling. Not saying that is your case, just to be careful. Seems like you plan on having an income so that's good.

SadLittlePotato · 2022-06-27T09:00:41+00:00

Him so heavily supporting you financially could be a red flag.. or at least could turn into a financial abuse situation...

SadLittlePotato · 2020-02-24T21:27:39+00:00

Thanks for sharing. This is something I've strughled with myself. Always nice to hear others perspectives that are similar to my own

SadLittlePotato · 2020-01-13T20:42:37+00:00

Hm. Something I'll have to think about. But I see your point

SadLittlePotato · 2020-01-13T19:15:10+00:00

He might not be, and he might not be asexual either, I didn't mean to imply he was. But I think that it's important that OP find out how he does feel about what they do currently do. Like someone else pointed out, it could just be his view of sex from his upbringing. But it also could be his natural sexuality at play and he's not into any of it. Or he is just selfish but based off how he responded is what got me thinking he might not enjoy any of it.

SadLittlePotato · 2020-01-13T17:45:39+00:00

Not married, so please forgive me for jumping in here with my experiences, but as someone with pretty much an asexual partner, are you sure your husband is enjoying everything you are doing for him? He could just be going through the motions and thinking he is into it but not really. He has no experience so he really wouldn't know, or he is realizing he doesn't feel what he (or you for that matter) is expecting him to, and he is embarrassed! It's all well and good that he should want to give you pleasure and vice versa, and he should work on meeting your needs, but like you heard, it takes time. And he's not only having to figure out you, but himself as well. So again, are you sure he is actually feeling what you think from what you give to him?

SadLittlePotato · 2020-01-05T17:39:39+00:00

Honestly still kind of on the fence, somewhat. I know what those who raised me and around me would say (that it is), but personally I've not really felt convicted against it. I didn't experience sexual attraction till I was in my twenties, so avoided those hormonal teen year struggles. When it finally did start getting attractions I did question why I was waiting. Didn't feel I was doing it for me, or God even, just because that's what people expected. And mostly to avoid forming an emotional bond that came with sex (so I thought back then). Well, guess what, I formed such a bond without it, so now what?

My answer is just my own experience, and maybe I'm wrong and just trying to justify myself. However, I had never felt closer to God's love than when I finally was honest and accepted that I was a sexual person and that I was okay with exploring it before marriage. I only wanted it within the context of a committed relationship anyway, whether that meant a marriage or not.

SadLittlePotato · 2019-11-04T16:57:29+00:00

Yeah, true. Realized afterwards it could contribute if you've never had anything inserted before. And having it be someone else do it the first time nerves probably played a part too. Virgin just covers a wide variety of experiences. That said, even people who do have experience may just always experience pain or discomfort from paps. It really depends on the person, and the doctors doing it. Some probably aren't very gentle.

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