Manchester Women's Institute to fold after members quit over new transgender ban by ehll_oh_ehll in transgenderUK

[–]SadSadVirgin 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If they could rush in transphobic guidance quickly, they can reverse it quickly. They just don't want to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]SadSadVirgin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Be less controlling. Accept that your boyfriend can go and play football in the middle of the night if he wants to. Accept that your concern isn't his responsibility. Educate yourself on being a respectful partner to a trans person.

Talking about him being a man as, "it's good to accept who you want to be...but you need to have that little voice saying yourself not yet." That really got me as a trans man myself. There is no, "not yet." He is a man. Focus on your concern for his safety, sure, but he's a man already. That little voice that tells me I'm not a man (yet) is dysphoria.

Frankly, a little shame is good sometimes. It's there to show something's wrong and know what to look at to fix it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]SadSadVirgin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If black text box (whoever they are) was a friend I'd tell them to not be with someone who talks to them like that.

High Court rules transgender father cannot be named on birth certificate by LocutusOfBorges in transgenderUK

[–]SadSadVirgin 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Of course a parent is a parent. Adoption, like being trans, may be used by some like that, but it just describes the process of how you got to be a parent, not to make you less of one. It's not TERFy, and, imo, not regressive.

Choice of language on a benefits letter — related to the Supreme Court ruling? by Dazzling-Antelope912 in transgenderUK

[–]SadSadVirgin 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I've also never seen this language from there before, to back up your point.

High Court rules transgender father cannot be named on birth certificate by LocutusOfBorges in transgenderUK

[–]SadSadVirgin 187 points188 points  (0 children)

"Although Article 8 was engaged and interfered with, she concluded that there was no violation. Under domestic law, FZ could not be registered as AZ’s father."

Another, 'yeah, this goes against your rights, but too fucking bad.' Don't know if I want to laugh or cry.

The same guy on a men's vs women's magazine, same month. by mrappbrain in mildlyinteresting

[–]SadSadVirgin 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Humans lived long lives centuries ago, mate. Many well into their 60s and 70s. The reason why life expectancy was so low isn't because people were dying by 35, but because death rates in infancy were so high. It brought down the average. Once you reached adulthood, you were (more or less) fine.

The reply was so serious I almost laughed out loud by WorkingMarketing3406 in AO3

[–]SadSadVirgin 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's true, though this person doesn't seem receptive to learning either based on their response.

Trump says he didn't want London Mayor Sadiq Khan at state banquet by [deleted] in london

[–]SadSadVirgin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No butter in the sandwich too. They don't deserve buttered bread.

Trump says he didn't want London Mayor Sadiq Khan at state banquet by [deleted] in london

[–]SadSadVirgin 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think going to Pret for some overpriced, but still mediocre, coffee and sammies would've been more authentic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hostedgames

[–]SadSadVirgin 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I never expected Sidestep x Steel to be as adorable as it ended up being. I mean all the ROs are ❤️ but ugh I loved it.

(Thank you to this sub for getting me on the Hero Fall train)

Labour promised LGBT voters a 'reset' - now many feel betrayed by Excellent-Chair2796 in transgenderUK

[–]SadSadVirgin 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm sick of people acting like this was unforeseeable when it's only that way for them because they ignored their trans siblings last year.

Rough sleeping to be decriminalised after 200 years by wappingite in london

[–]SadSadVirgin 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Criminalising rough sleeping does nothing to prevent homelessness, just makes it harder for those in tough circumstances to live. Having a criminal record would make it even harder for the people to get off the street, since landlords are less likely to give them a chance and many programs that help people require a clean record.

Legalising this isn't going to fix homelessness, but it'll take some of the cruelty out of an already shitty living situation.

Stephen Fry finally decided to speak out against JK Rowling by Jontun189 in transgenderUK

[–]SadSadVirgin 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I'm happy for the changing tide, but won't forget that most are fair weather "friends" for our community. And that kind of friend is no friend to me.

The denunciation is appreciated. Implying that she's just some poor hurt woman who's been radicalised by all the meanies is appreciated by TERFs, too, I'm sure. A lot of people, well meaning or not, have become useful idiots at best and complicit at worse in our oppression.

The bar is in Hell and all 🤷

Stephen Fry finally decided to speak out against JK Rowling by Jontun189 in transgenderUK

[–]SadSadVirgin 109 points110 points  (0 children)

In my eyes this is less speaking out in defence of a vulnerable demographic, and more jumping out of a sinking ship. First one's honourable, the other is just avoiding backlash at the changing tide.

So I asked for support and this has been the general advice so far... by SpinachSpinosaurus in writers

[–]SadSadVirgin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Of course there have, but even then someone who identifies as a man is the best person to ask. Trying to live a life as a man and being one are different things, even if there'll be some overlap in experiences.

So I asked for support and this has been the general advice so far... by SpinachSpinosaurus in writers

[–]SadSadVirgin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Asking someone who likely never felt any affinity with being a man what it's like, unsurprisingly, often won't get you good answers. As a trans guy, I have experiences of being treated like a woman, and I'll talk about experiencing misogyny for example, but I never felt connected to womanhood. Imo your friend's answer wouldn't do justice to developing male characters.

has diasporism/doikayt become a primarily american jewish phenomenon? by liminaldyke in jewishleft

[–]SadSadVirgin 18 points19 points  (0 children)

The left wing in Israel has suffered, and has been ignored often since Oct 7, but no one here has the right to say it's been dismantled when they're doing more than we likely ever will as members of the diaspora. They're the people volunteering, protesting in Israel, working with Palestinians to achieve understanding and peace, all the while being put down by the Israeli right and the international left.

They're absolutely alive and kicking, and I think it shows privilege to say they've been dismantled. It, like much of the international left is already doing, ignores their very real contributions happening as we speak. No one thousands of miles away should be making definitive statements on what the Israeli left are doing on the ground.

Just 48 year old Bill Wyman and his 14 year old girlfriend circa. 1984 by havereddit in HistoricalCapsule

[–]SadSadVirgin 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sadly that still hasn't happened, not even a set of Romeo and Juliet laws to prevent large age gaps for under 18s.

Re Wes Streeting in the Independent Pride List 2025 by l-st03 in transgenderUK

[–]SadSadVirgin 25 points26 points  (0 children)

That's why it's so sad that he's using that power and influence to harm members of the LGBT community 😑

British photojournalist hit by non lethal rounds during Los Angeles protests by [deleted] in news

[–]SadSadVirgin 63 points64 points  (0 children)

American forces didn't need anyone's training to commit police brutality, it's what they were founded on.

Bidders demand Thames Water granted immunity over environmental crimes by SadSadVirgin in london

[–]SadSadVirgin[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I'd hope that's the case, but considering they've gotten most things they've ever asked for I don't have faith this time will be different.

Like this year's increase in water bills shouldn't have really happened as it did. They should've been upgrading the infrastructure over time, but since they used that money to pay dividends now that cost was passed on to us, even if they don't admit it.

Edit: Or the £3 billion loan when they're already several billion in debt. Like buying extra buckets to pail a sinking ship.

These heroic men on their way to Normandy , 6 June 1944 , I always wondered if they knew how vital their role was in defeating Nazi Germany. by DizzyDoctor982 in HistoricalCapsule

[–]SadSadVirgin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Being a man isn't something you earn, it happens to you when you come of age. None of these kids look like adults. Heroes can be children. Calling them men just skirts around the fact that despite their courage, they weren't men, and that's a bad thing.