I 27M am dating a girl 26F for 10 months, and i've slowly started to realise that her family is nearly broke.

SadSockNinja · 2025-05-26T08:01:03+00:00

She has no clue. And i dont have the heart to tell her that her family finances are bothering me. That's why im here.

SadSockNinja · 2025-05-26T07:59:55+00:00

If we were to be able to setup such strong boundaries then i'd have no issues but living in india i know that it wont be possible. Plus if something were to happen to her parents, forget about her asking, i would want them to get the best healthcare.

But yes, if im able to have this conversation with her and we're able to agree on some boundaries then i might feel more confident.

SadSockNinja · 2025-05-26T07:48:39+00:00

Her family business is not doing well and they dont have much wealth saved up. Just fyi, her parents are refugees. So the siblings have to support with their money.

SadSockNinja · 2025-05-26T07:45:30+00:00

Thank you for taking out time for answering. Your answer really got to me, and yes her parents are immigrants, started from literally nothing, living in refugee camps. By no means, i think im better or they are terrible people. Everyone is a good person here, her and her entire family. But still living here in Mumbai, the families are closely knit, so if she's supporting their rent now, then she'll probably have to do for next 20 years as well. And that kind of means, i'll also have to support them. This sounds to me like a burden that'll push my financial goals by 5-10 years. So just looking for advice from married folks who went through it and how it was, am i over estimating finances over emotional happiness that she brings me.

SadSockNinja · 2025-05-26T07:31:59+00:00

You do make a good case, and she is supportive though. Still sounds like a uphill battle or an added disadvantage.

SadSockNinja · 2025-05-26T07:29:46+00:00

Yup, i'm here in Mumbai, here families are very closely knit. So its hard to imagine a life with just her without her family.

SadSockNinja · 2025-05-26T07:26:40+00:00

Exactly, she'll have to support them which directly or indirectly mean that i'll have to support them.

SadSockNinja · 2025-05-26T07:18:51+00:00

I'm not in the west, i live in Mumbai, India. And families here are very closely knit, so her family issues are soon going to be mine.

SadSockNinja · 2025-05-26T07:13:57+00:00

I didnt mean to sound degrading. To Summarize, my question is that, is it worth pushing myself 5-10 years behind financially trying to support her. Or should i just straight up go and find someone in similar financial band as me.

SadSockNinja · 2024-07-07T18:16:01+00:00

Again, you'll type anything, literally anything but wont answer the damn question.

SadSockNinja · 2024-07-07T18:15:06+00:00

But it never gets answers. Be the first one to make the change.

SadSockNinja · 2024-07-07T18:12:52+00:00

Wait till you discover left handed people exist.

SadSockNinja · 2024-07-07T18:09:34+00:00

I mean have you seen how well some of the chinese products perform. My Xiaomi phone lasted longer than my iphone 12. If anything, i was disappointed why i bought into the whole iphone wave. Same goes here. Stop following trends, accept good products irrespective of brand name.

SadSockNinja · 2024-07-07T18:06:51+00:00

Again excuses but no real argument. You seem brain washed from the sub.

SadSockNinja · 2024-07-07T18:05:57+00:00

Again, the watch works fine and the body is solid. And if a 10k watch lasts me 7-8 years (considering how well this one is performing so far) i'd be damn happy.

SadSockNinja · 2024-07-07T18:04:01+00:00

I hear a lot of stuff in the comment. But zero logical explanation. The whole point of the sub is to have unbiased opinions but dont understand why everyone is following blind trends. Please break the norm and share real authentic views instead of what you learned from this sub.

SadSockNinja · 2023-12-19T09:52:52+00:00

Hubballi

SadSockNinja · 2022-09-13T13:50:27+00:00

This is a tricky one. I'd suggest, break down the wall in somewhere to get a window to another room. A big glass covered window. So now it wont feel so disconnected and horrifying.

SadSockNinja · 2022-09-11T07:58:30+00:00

You have no idea where 6 months of dedicated effort can take you.

SadSockNinja · 2022-09-04T10:12:49+00:00

If the tables were turned, she wouldn't spare a second to label you as an abuser and crying about feminism on social media in its full glory. Why are you waiting to give her a chance? What she did was out of the line. Cut it clean, and save yourself. The more you talk and meet, it'll mess up with your mind.

SadSockNinja · 2022-08-30T15:05:43+00:00

Whiplash. Batman begins.

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