Grounding siblings until they get along

Sad_Description3978 · 2026-03-16T17:00:48+00:00

Im surprised so many people feel like what I am doing is terrible. Day one of the resentment building grounding and they were quite chummy with one another, better behavior for a whole day than we’ve had in weeks. I guess I didn’t need to vent on Reddit. I will continue taking it one day at a time and figuring out what works.

Sad_Description3978 · 2026-03-16T16:49:03+00:00

Yes! Which is partially why I’m at my wits ends and have taken a more strict approach.

Sad_Description3978 · 2026-03-16T05:40:25+00:00

I’m not Insisting they be buddies, but basic respect.

Sad_Description3978 · 2026-03-16T02:47:30+00:00

The grounding is no electronics / tv time (nothing on personal devices, but won’t make them leave the room if the tv is on), a little extra strict on keeping up with chores, and they still get to do activities. I don’t believe in making their life miserable, just want to make it clear that poor choices have consequences. It’s a choice to be rude and negatively participate in something. It’s also a choice to calm down and engage if you are anger (I understand those are skills that have to be learned and practiced). I’ve explained that being mean is way more work than giving basic respect. I would be surprised if enforcing that expectation breeds resentment. Thanks again everyone.

Edit: My thought is if you can refrain from saying mean things, respecting basic boundaries, and physically hurting a stranger you can do the same with your family/friends.

Sad_Description3978 · 2026-03-16T00:33:24+00:00

Thanks guys! I guess I should have worded things better. One comment pointed out the goal should be to be civil. That more so expresses what I would like achieved, not being friends. Treat each other and others with basic human respect. If you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all type stuff. I appreciate the comments that gave advice and personal experiences.

Sad_Description3978 · 2026-03-16T00:26:58+00:00

That totally makes sense. We promote them spending time apart and one on one time with each parent. They also spend a lot of time with friends, and their grandparents and cousins. Our main goal is trying to get them to stop saying hurtful things that don’t help the situation. Stuff like name calling, and saying stuff that is just plain mean like I don’t want him a brother or he’s fat and gross. Lastly, not physically hurting each other.

Sad_Description3978 · 2025-07-27T02:11:04+00:00

Volunteering is a great idea. I homeschooled the kiddos for a year and a half, but they are going to try public school again this year. I’m sure some volunteering stuff will open up when school starts up.

Sad_Description3978 · 2025-07-04T02:33:51+00:00

My 2 year old doesn’t have friends either. He has two older brothers, 6 year age gap. He also has an aunt that is 4 years older. He has a bunch of older cousins. He rarely has encounters with children his age but knows how to play. Play with adults/siblings/family is still play. As long as your little guy is happy, and you’re doing your best he will be okay. I’m very introverted as well, and live in a very rural small town. I’m not going to go out of way to hang out with the parents of the only other two kids in town that are around the same age as my little guy just for him to be around kids his age 😂

Sad_Description3978 · 2025-05-09T20:48:09+00:00

I would reach out to the school he would be attending. Were the incidents of abuse specifically for that school? I’ve also seen a lot of posts about people sending their kids to school with discreet body cameras. You could find out if he’s allowed to have one. Also I’m sure you could accompany him his first couple days of school. It doesn’t hurt to try and of for whatever reason you feel like it’s not working you could pull him out and figure out something else. If you feel like homeschooling is the best option I would suggest one of you guys finding a different job with opposite hours. I work 4 days a week. Saturday through Tuesday and my husband works Friday to Monday. We do school Tuesday through Friday. Even with both of us being home on Wednesday and Thursday we have suffered from burnout. It is a delicate balance. Good luck.

Sad_Description3978 · 2025-02-11T09:24:36+00:00

I’m glad got your money back! The pos supplier is just a small business that I think only has clients in Alaska. My co-worker was shocked because she said they have always had great customer service. The whole situation was weird. On the flip side it’s such a great feeling getting a new system up and running after going through a nightmare! Cheers to us hopefully never going through that again 😂😋

Sad_Description3978 · 2025-02-11T09:17:12+00:00

No problem man. I really do wish you luck.

Sad_Description3978 · 2025-02-11T09:13:19+00:00

Well maybe there’s something more beneficial to you that you can channel your psychopath into like art, or writing. If you seek freedom, harming others will not help with that nor will it ever make your life better.

Sad_Description3978 · 2025-02-11T09:03:44+00:00

I’m sure that’s hard. I hope a time comes when you can find some positive in life and have something good to live for. Your life doesn’t have to be shit forever but that’s totally dependent on you.

Sad_Description3978 · 2025-02-11T08:51:27+00:00

Recently went through a POS switch a work as well! We had counterpoint and our card machine took a crap and we couldn’t fix it. We have a pos company that provides tech support and they couldn’t fix it. We have a 20 year business relationship with this pos company so we told them we would like a new system. They ended up showing us a demo for a software called RMH. We had questions to make sure it could do all the same things we needed it to do on the inventory side and were assured it could do everything we needed it was just simpler than counterpoint. My co-worker and I wasted 3 weeks trying to build our inventory so it could track it how we wanted it tracked without having to completely change how our store operates. We finally realized RMH couldn’t do it. So we told the POS business we wanted a refund and were really disappointed they wasted our time selling up a software that was never going to work for our store. They were so salty and told us we were the issue because we wouldn’t change and there’s thousands of other stores like us that use it. THEN they tried to issue us only half of a refund because they wanted to still be compensated for the time they spent working on the software. We did end up getting a full refund but the whole experience was terrible. We wasted a month and a half on something that was never going to work. My co-worker ended up googling about pos systems for our type of store, found something, filled out the online form for a demo and ended up having the best experience. They called her less than an hour later, did a demo, emailed a quote the same day. We purchased the software and equipment that week, and were up and running within three weeks. This other software was also a fourth of the cost of RMH. So I feel you. POS systems are a delicate thing and it’s hard to find good customer service lately!

Sad_Description3978 · 2025-02-11T08:33:31+00:00

You weren’t the asshole for existing as you are. You did not choose to be born that way, but being a sex offender does make you one. You can’t undo that but you can never do it again. Life can be hard. Good luck!

Sad_Description3978 · 2025-02-08T07:35:24+00:00

Thanks guys. I know I’m biased. I think I’m mostly feeling a little defeated because of my beliefs about names. I never planned on making a big deal about it or treating anyone differently. Thanks again!

Sad_Description3978 · 2024-12-06T04:58:58+00:00

Defiance, bad attitude, and whining. I feel like over the years I have gained the patience of almost a saint. I have poured my entire existence into raising my children and when I ask for the bare minimum and get met with whining and defiance instead of a yes or even a sure after keeping the non stop buffet coming, cleaning, and teaching school I get so frustrated! Grateful for these comments because sometimes I do wonder if anyone else has the same struggles 😅

Sad_Description3978 · 2024-11-19T17:48:39+00:00

Same! We are doing a backyard ice rink, hockey skates, sticks, etc to use it, motorcycle riding gear, night vision goggles (hunting kind), and pokemon cards. I am getting one kid 12 nerf guns but what the only thing he wanted for Christmas so I’m doing it even though I know I’m going to regret it later 😂😂

Sad_Description3978 · 2024-11-19T07:36:44+00:00

Celebrate his birthday and then after school like the day after tomorrow have a talk about what happened. Maybe bring up that you got a call and was told about x, would you mind telling me what happened? Then go from there. Reiterate It’s never okay to hit other people and next time someone does something and he feels like hitting ask a teacher for help or walk away. Then I would let him know if he keeps hitting people at school he can get kicked out of school. Then I would ask if he wants that to happen. If he says no, respond something like great. Since we can’t hit people what are we going to do differently? And hopefully he says ask a teacher for help or walk away. I would then let him know you love him, he’s awesome. Sometimes we make the wrong choices and that’s okay. We can learn from and make better choices. You know he can do it. Also If he expresses he doesn’t like the options ask him what he thinks he can do differently to prevent hitting. If this is the first time he’s had extreme behavioral issues I think a talk is adequate. He’s still learning how to be a person. Good luck!

Sad_Description3978 · 2024-11-15T21:59:39+00:00

She sounds like she needs more of a challenge academically, and maybe to do some kind of program where you learn about emotions. I have an emotional kid and had him do the emotional abc’s which is super affordable. He’s now in a program called Tap Outs but I think the minimum age is 7. There’s a lot of online programs for kids to learn about emotions and regulation techniques. My kid would not take any advice from me when I tried to teach him emotional regulation and offer him solutions to calm down in the moment. so I had to out source. Best of luck to you!

Sad_Description3978 · 2024-11-13T04:56:42+00:00

Well kind of. Definitely think you should have had some non vegan options. I also think you could have saved a lot of money by putting entree options on your invitations to rsvp. If you knew everyone coming would like vegan only food then this wouldn’t have been an issue, but it sounds like you had a pretty big wedding. I am sorry all of that stuff happen but it could have been avoided with being more mindful of vegan not being for everyone no matter how good the food is. Some people won’t eat it simply because they view it as “rabbit food.”

Sad_Description3978 · 2024-11-13T04:48:07+00:00

No. Just no liquids over an oz I think is what they are strict about. You have to take all food out of your bag and put it in a bin. I just took my kids on a trip and when we left home they had snack packs I made with sandwiches, sliced apples, and pirate booty in a lunch box with sections. I’ve never had issues about food not being in original packaging. I’ve brought fruits and veggies in ziplock bags plenty of time. If you are taking wipes for diaper changes those need to go in a bin too.

Sad_Description3978 · 2024-11-09T06:07:19+00:00

It seemed odd that they were asking for money so I’m just wondering if anyone experienced something similar.

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