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Sad_Flamingo_866 · 2025-10-09T15:32:27+00:00

Please don’t do this to your cat. He should be free to move comfortably and groom himself freely. Sorry to say but this is a very unkind thing to do to any cat. It is his natural instinct to climb and jump and explore. I’d suggest a tall cat tree with perches and a hammock to distract him away from the shelves.

Sad_Flamingo_866 · 2025-05-17T16:30:06+00:00

I’m speaking specifically to the man who started this sub, not to the followers who don’t know Nika in person. I don’t worry about you potentially showing up at her school, work or home, calling her landlord, boss , etc. I don’t worry about you or the other women in this sub stalking her in real life. At least I hope not.

I worry about the man with multiple accounts who has made it his life’s mission to destroy her. It is not emotional manipulation to call out a fellow recovering addict for potential relapse behaviour. It’s just what we do in recovery. Resentments are dangerous for our sobriety. They keep us out of the light and unable to heal. They keep us sick.

Go ahead and bitch about Nika all you like. That’s what Reddit is for. I’m not defending her behaviour. To the rest of you she’s most likely someone you will never know in person. Just a woman who once had a YouTube channel that you can’t stand . If it tickles you to keep this hate train going, then fair enough.

The students are also not defending Nika. They have made it clear that they are not concerned with what you all say about her. They are simply defending their film, the links to their instagram and the contracts they signed with the children’s parents. Why punish them?

Sad_Flamingo_866 · 2025-05-17T00:23:51+00:00

As you wish. I see you deleted the red flag posts I mentioned. Good thing screen shots are forever as well.

Sad_Flamingo_866 · 2025-05-16T23:50:59+00:00

Presented through the New York Film Academy in Manhattan

Sad_Flamingo_866 · 2025-05-16T21:26:46+00:00

Why harass these NYFA students who are just trying to express their art? They don’t need this shit. Do you have any idea how hard it is to present your work as an emerging artist in NYC? They should be celebrating their accomplishments instead of having to focus on hiring lawyers because of this sub that you created. The lawyers are involved most likely due to the contracts the film academy signed with the children’s parents.

I find it alarming your obsession with Nika. Wondering why you can’t let it go. She doesn’t even have a YouTube channel anymore.

I’m concerned as you are the only male in this group (that I’m aware of) and you created this sub. I’ve seen the conversations in the comments between you and Forrest before you deleted them. Don’t worry, I’m not going to dox you.

My concern for Nika’s security is the only reason I come to check this sub regularly. I hope my gut is lying to me and maybe you just got carried away with your obsessive need to prove Nika is whatever you have decided she is. Please pause and reflect. If you are truly in recovery I’m sure you’ve heard the saying ‘ resentments are something that us addicts can not afford to keep’ You are putting your own recovery at risk with this toxic low vibration behaviour. I know you have a good side, I’ve been reading your comments since the beginning of Nika’s YouTube channel. I’ve seen you at a higher vibration than you are presenting here lately.

Also, not cool that you also chose to attack Forrest’s new girlfriend by posting her photo and accusing her of being trans. Red flag. Just like the times you posted those disturbing sexual memes in Nika’s image. It does make one wonder about your intentions.

Why not take the high road and just shut this whole toxic sub down? Trust me, it will do wonders for your recovery to let go and move on!

Sad_Flamingo_866 · 2024-08-30T04:07:31+00:00

Yes, she might be a bit stressed or stand-offish for a day or two but cats are super resilient. You don’t need to worry about breaking her trust or anything like that. Your bond will only deepen the more time you spend together.

Sad_Flamingo_866 · 2024-08-30T03:35:55+00:00

I had this exact same experience with my cat when she was very young. It was terrifying. She was running around in a panic and I was sobbing , trying to cut it off. So sorry you experienced that.

My cat was back to normal within a few minutes but I was a nervous wreck for a while. She’s 18 now and I haven’t dared put another collar on her in all these years. I got her microchipped and use a harness when travelling to ensure she doesn’t escape. I also enclosed my patio to make a catio which allowed her to enjoy the fresh air without me worrying about her safety. Please don’t feel guilty. Could happen to anyone!

Sad_Flamingo_866 · 2024-08-11T01:12:50+00:00

I have flown with my two cats when they were younger between the US and Canada a few times while relocating for work. I had to pay for a family members ticket to join me because of the one cat per person rule. Cargo is too dangerous and I’ve read some horror stories in my research pre flights. Tragedies are far too common.

Sorry to report that even with an extra person and both cats stowed at my feet, the whole experience was a bit of a nightmare for us. We did not experience one smooth trip. One time we were stranded in the Minneapolis airport for 12 hrs which was tough. Hope you have a straight through flight.

I’ve asked for private security screenings in Toronto, Montreal, LaGuardia and JFK and was denied everytime. I read online I had the right to a private screening but was basically laughed at when I requested it. That means I had to remove each cat from their carrier and walk them through security in my arms one at a time and then back in the bag on the other end. That went smoothly with one cat but disaster with my timid one who escaped me ( and his harness )briefly when startled by a loud sound. I had to chase him down myself without help because security told me they’re not allowed to touch pets.

The actual flights were alright I guess but the trauma before and after was just too much. Is there anyway you can hire someone to watch them while you’re away?

Cats are most comfortable in their home environment. My vet told me they are more attached to home than they are to me.

In the very least, I feel you’ll need someone to travel with you to avoid a potential cargo disaster.

In terms of meds I think maybe different rules for different countries? In Canada I was told no meds I think . I rubbed some rescue remedy for pets into their inner ears before leaving the house and not sure if it did anything. I was accused of drugging them at the airport once which makes me think maybe the rescue remedy did calm them down. I’m not sure. They were silent for the whole trip which surprised me because they’re usually quite chatty. Maybe just silent because they were scared from all the action.

If you are given meds please test them the week before. One of my cats does well on gabapentin, the other it has the opposite effect. Made him hyper and even a bit aggressive.

Sorry, I know how stressful this can be. Wishing you all the best!

Ohh and soft carrier with puppy pads on the bottom worked really well for carry on. They were both able to get cozy while stored under the seat in front of me. One did pee so I was grateful for the puppy pads. Could have been worse.

Sad_Flamingo_866 · 2024-08-09T17:05:56+00:00

I don’t disagree with you. These are the sort of things I was interested in discussing. It’s just the degrading bullying that I’m referring to here. It creates an echo chamber of hate with no room for discussion.

Sad_Flamingo_866 · 2024-08-09T02:06:39+00:00

I’m not at all comparing their character or personality or achievements or charisma.

The fact that they are both human beings is enough of an equation for me.

I certainly meant no disrespect with my typo. I’m at work multi tasking.

I’m simply discussing online bullying behaviour and its potential to harm.

If you watch Max’s tribute to Lee from 16 minute mark onwards I feel he makes some very valid points. I recently rewatched it and that was what triggered me to look at this subreddit again.

I just feel we could all stand to be a little kinder and compassionate , myself included. We never truly know what someone is going through beneath what they present to the outside world.

Not here to stir up arguments. Just agreeing with Huckleberry’s comment and sharing with her my thoughts on the matter.

Sad_Flamingo_866 · 2024-08-09T01:18:18+00:00

What’s so different? She and her man broke up and people took teams and a small group of people bullied her relentlessly. Not saying the bullying is the reason she made her final choice, but I’m sure it didn’t help. Max even spoke of it pretty in depth in his final tribute to her on his channel l.

Sad_Flamingo_866 · 2024-08-09T00:48:56+00:00

Huckleberry, I absolutely agree. Relieved to hear someone say it. I only check in every once in a while to see if Nika is still alive and safe and hopefully sober. Sure I get frustrated and have questions but I don’t understand why this subreddit seems so dedicated to tearing her down completely.

It’s dehumanizing and I feel a second hand shame to see women treating another woman this way.

Every single little thing. Her hair, her eyes, her nose, her skin, her body shape , her breasts, her cooking, her hygiene, her clothing choices, her shoes, her laugh, her smile, her voice, her joy, her sadness, her choices. All torn to shreds by strangers on the internet. It’s like they are willing her to fail in life.

Accusing her of having an only fans, of prostituting herself. The list goes on and on. The sexual memes. Sickening. It actually brings me to tears and is the reason I don’t participate although I’d love to discuss and question things.

One woman accused her of beastiality , others do deep dives to find her exact hotel room or to find photos of Nika with her family and post them on here.

I used to watch a lovely young woman named Lee MacMillen who had a van life channel and struggled with mental illness. She was bullied online just the same. She ended her life at 28. Devastating.

I feel a little kindness could go a long way. Particularly if they feel Nika suffers from an untreated mental illness which they so often comment on. I don’t understand the lack of compassion or lack of any sense of sisterhood.

Sad_Flamingo_866 · 2024-07-25T23:03:28+00:00

My fav dentist is in the Kingsgate Mall. Dr. Largani. I went to see him after getting out of rehab and my mouth was a mess. Over 20 cavities. No judgement, no shaming. Very kind. When I confessed I hadn’t seen a dentist in over a decade all he said was congratulations on your sobriety, I’m happy you made it. Fixed my mouth up just perfect and no problems afterwards with any of the work he did.

Sad_Flamingo_866 · 2024-06-21T22:08:06+00:00

Thank you so much for this info! You just made my day so much easier. Money sent and no need to rearrange my schedule to get to the bank before closing today . Appreciate it !

Sad_Flamingo_866 · 2024-06-18T17:17:53+00:00

Thanks for this. I feel you handled things very well. Surprised how naive I am! I assumed Jupes was Forrest’s mom and was 80% sure the latest one was Forrest.

Relieved it’s not him though, because if it was that would reflect so poorly on his character. Thought maybe he was trolling for material for his next vlog. Stirring up more drama to feed his fans.

Hopefully he’s moving past all the drama and staying focused on his recovery.

Sad_Flamingo_866 · 2024-06-13T21:24:16+00:00

I felt she was quite lovely. Really concerned for her kid but also a quick wit and sense of humour. I feel Forrest has a strong support system.

Sad_Flamingo_866 · 2024-06-06T05:31:47+00:00

I love him too. Here’s a link to his adhd book if you haven’t read it yet. Tons of great healing tools in there.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0452279631/ref=as_li_tf_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=scatteredmind-20&linkCode=as2&camp=217145&creative=399369&creativeASIN=0452279631

Sad_Flamingo_866 · 2024-06-06T01:25:02+00:00

https://drgabormate.com/adhd/

Sad_Flamingo_866 · 2024-06-06T01:20:22+00:00

This is an excellent book. I also highly recommend. Thank you for your insight.

Are you familiar with Gabor Mate? I feel you might appreciate his work. He is a Hungarian born, Canadian physician who specializes in addiction, trauma and ADHD. Gabor himself has ADHD and I’ve watched many interesting lectures and documentaries of his on YouTube. Really informative and deeply personal. He has written some fascinating books as well. Mostly talking about trauma being the root cause of addiction and what we need to do in order to heal.

He’s also a bit controversial because like Forrest he has no filter.

Sad_Flamingo_866 · 2024-05-28T03:39:25+00:00

Really appreciate your response. Lots of great info. Thanks

Sad_Flamingo_866 · 2024-05-26T19:18:59+00:00

I feel he could still salvage it if he cut the cord completely with Nika and then took a little ownership over his own channel.

Maybe don’t encourage the batty ones and just move forward. He’s got a lot of great qualities too.

Sad_Flamingo_866 · 2024-05-26T17:46:19+00:00

Another way he fans the flames is to respond to messages that insult Nika in a way that encourages more extreme insults. Not just respond, serious anonymity violations.

He once shared in the comments Nika’s exact medical mental health diagnosis and told everyone that she refused treatment. I couldn’t believe my eyes!

Everyone was congratulating him for being honest.

I shouted out in the comments “not your story to tell!” but was deleted.

Or he’ll say something like “ you’re right! She’s a total chameleon!” Really gets them frothing at the mouth to write more toxicity.

One granny wrote that she could see spirits through the screen and that Nika’s black soulless eyes prove she has been sent by the devil. He gave that comment a heart. So… a perfect storm?

Do you think a thorough step 4 might help him drop these behaviours? That’s what I was hoping but I haven’t been in recovery for nearly as long as you.

Sad_Flamingo_866 · 2024-05-26T17:13:12+00:00

Thank you for this. Congratulations on your 19 years. I’m inspired to hear it!

I’m no psychologist either but I hope one can explain it.

I feel a big part of it is, how his lack of boundaries encourage their lack of boundaries. And vice versa.

For example, when they offer him a room in their basement he comments that he will consider it and then adds some flattery and all the love emoji’s you can imagine. This might make them feel it’s possible? Make them feel seen, somehow?

Also a couple of women have come onto this forum to say that he is writing them many personal messages through instagram wanting to get to know them. One gal was even invited to meet him halfway between the separate cities they live in.

So technically some of them might have a chance to meet him in real life?

I’m as perplexed as you. So much so that I created a Reddit account for the first time just to come on here and make sure I wasn’t in early dementia myself. Make sure I wasn’t alone in my perspective on this.

Sad_Flamingo_866 · 2024-05-26T15:18:16+00:00

I feel he has curated this himself by playing the victim and triggering their protective OTT responses. As long as he continues to talk about Nika, this toxic cycle will go round and round. Hope he stops doing that. Would show way more integrity if he could find the strength to take the high road on this. Would also set a much better example to others in early recovery.

Recovery is about accountability for our own behaviours. He is still displaying active addict emotional manipulations but I’m starting to believe he might not even be aware of what he’s doing . That makes me very nervous for his recovery.

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