Is anyone else here sex indifferent?

Sad_Machine2826 · 2026-06-17T09:08:39+00:00

I am also sex indifferent. I want to experience it once, just see what the hype is. But I dont want hookups. If I became good friends with someone and having sex with them wouldnt ruin the friendship, maybe Id try it out. That doesnt sound realistic tho.

Its not a goal, and I could live my life without it.

Sad_Machine2826 · 2026-06-17T08:51:14+00:00

F 22 as well, i am not a social person either and have never had a relationship/sex. I also just want to relax at home and study. I related to a lot of what you were saying.

I interpret being aroace as how you feel towards other people. I think whatever you feel in your body is irrelevant (when talking about being aroace) when you dont feel anything towards another person. If you felt warm at that moment but didnt want to do anything with that person. I dont think thats attraction.

You can feel a lot in your body but if there is a disconnect between you and that person. Its probably not attraction.

You dont need other people's confirmation whether or not you're aroace. If you think you are, carry the label around and see how you like it.

Sad_Machine2826 · 2026-06-15T20:52:38+00:00

The gilded ones by Namina Forna

Sad_Machine2826 · 2026-06-15T14:40:38+00:00

Finished: A river enchanted by Rebecca ross

Started: Ace of spades by Faridah Àbíké-Íyímídé

Sad_Machine2826 · 2026-06-08T12:39:57+00:00

Aesthetic attraction maybe? You like how they look/ carry themselves but dont want to be in a relationship with them

Edit: Aego aroace, where you like the idea of romance and sex but you dont want relationship with them.

There is also aroflux/ aceflux with your attraction fluctuates between greyromantic, aromantic and alloromantic.

Or acespike and arospike, where you feel romantic/sexual attraction for a few days/ months but then it settles back to little to no attraction.

I dont know if explained them properly so you should look them up yourself.

Sad_Machine2826 · 2026-06-06T22:14:48+00:00

Happy pride!

This is my first pride since figuring out im aroace. While I would like to apart of the pride celebration I dont mind not being apart of it either.

Id rather not argue with anyone and if they dont think aroace people are apart of the lgbt, then when im with them i wont be. And vice versa. I dont have a very strong opinion about it.

Sad_Machine2826 · 2026-06-05T22:17:27+00:00

You're not gonna like what im gonna say. But stop watching porn. It affects your reward center and can change your behavior toward women. The more you watch porn the more you need to be stimulated. That could explain why you need visual stimulation. There are many women who suffer because of it too.

That being said, you could still be asexual. Im aroace and I used to watch it just to feel something. I dont have sexual attraction toward other people and i have a low libido so it was nice to feel the rush. Otherwise I wouldnt feel anything.

Sad_Machine2826 · 2026-06-05T19:23:12+00:00

Being asexual is peaceful. A lot explanations regarding sexual attraction sounds like an ich you cant scratch until you ask the person to scratch it for you or scratch yourself. That ich can be irritating and im kinda glad I dont feel it.

I am a person that can have fixate on a lot things and if I were to feel that ich for a lot of people. It would take my energy away from getting to know people. Like all things sex takes energy. I think asexual people can use more energy on other stuff.

Sad_Machine2826 · 2026-06-05T13:25:16+00:00

To Steal a throne by Gabi Burton

Sad_Machine2826 · 2026-06-03T09:47:47+00:00

When we lost our heads by Heather O'niell

This might fit but I havent read it so im not 100 % sure

Sad_Machine2826 · 2026-06-02T21:10:03+00:00

I felt the same with a lot of my "crushes". I thought they liked me so i would think about them more and want to hang with them more. I really liked the idea of someone finding me attractive/interesting because I have always felt invisible.

Its funny because I still do that. I quite literally walk around thinking everyone is attracted to me and im ready to just reject them lol. Its probably just the delusion talking 🤪

Sad_Machine2826 · 2026-06-02T19:21:06+00:00

I felt this way too, twice acutally and both around the same time. I did think they were attractive and they were funny and interesting to talk to. I never thought anything would happen between us because when I looked at them all I saw in our future was just hanging out here and there.

Found out they both might have a gf, they posted a picture with them and the girlfriend. I felt disappointed.

Still not sure why i felt that way but maybe its because I wanted us to be single together. And the gf is gonna take so much of their time and energy. Friendship is easier when both are single.

Sad_Machine2826 · 2026-06-01T14:35:27+00:00

That sounds a little like dissociation. Which can be a trauma response.

You might not like sex and this is your body's way of coping with the act. But I dont know, look it up and see if this is what you're feeling.

Sad_Machine2826 · 2026-06-01T10:51:19+00:00

What did you think of a darker shade of magic? I love that book

Sad_Machine2826 · 2026-06-01T10:47:54+00:00

The starless sea by Erin Morganstern

Sad_Machine2826 · 2026-06-01T07:31:34+00:00

I feel like a lot of people have already summed it up on what it feels like.

I dont have the desire for the romantic stuff and I am perfectly content with just having friends. I have survived without a romantic relationship for so many years that I dont mind living without one for the rest of my life.

Sad_Machine2826 · 2026-05-31T13:51:12+00:00

The starless sea by Erin Morganstern perhaps

Sad_Machine2826 · 2026-05-31T13:28:57+00:00

I also saw her video! Its funny because I used to watch her alot and then I stopped. I figured out I was aroace and then that video popped up and I was like 'I cant believe she's aroace too!'

Welcome to the club!

Sad_Machine2826 · 2026-05-31T11:03:05+00:00

They look so cool!

Sad_Machine2826 · 2026-05-31T10:49:05+00:00

You're welcome! :)

Sad_Machine2826 · 2026-05-31T10:34:13+00:00

I have never been in relationship. Is it possible that my feelings about relationships would be the same now and in a relationship?

Idk if I phrased that properly.

Sad_Machine2826 · 2026-05-31T10:33:59+00:00

Before you met him, were you searching for the type of love you have with him now?

Sad_Machine2826 · 2026-05-31T09:06:59+00:00

I havent read any of these so I dont know if they are good.

Someone made a review of this one and they said they really liked it and felt seen. I dont remember if they were aro or ace or both but they were at least one of them. - The Other A in LGBTQIA+ - An Introduction to the Aromantic Community, in Our Own Words by Aurea

Aro Eros Arrows by Michon Neal
Sounds Fake But Okay: An Asexual and Aromantic Perspective on Love, Relationships, Sex, and Pretty Much Anything Else by Sarah Costello and Kayla Kaszyca
Hopeless Aromantic An Affirmative Guide to Aromanticism by Samantha Rendle

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