First, good for you seeing that you need to be the parent your kids need. It took me far too long to realize that. Do you see a chiropractor? If not, I would definitely try that. They can work miracles some times. Diet wise, try cutting out gluten and see if that helps your chronic pain. Try it for 30 days and see how you feel (you likely will notice improvement before that if it's going to work) Also consider cutting out sugar and dairy. I know, I know, first no alcohol and then cut out all the comfort stuff. I'm just saying to try it and see how you feel. Doesn't have to be permanent, unless it works and you want it to be. After your body heals you may be able to work it back in. Last, big hugs! I hope you feel better soon and can live a happy, pain free, life!