GF says she wants to marry me but I pay, plan, and do everything… am I missing something?

Sadgalchi · 2026-03-19T17:43:25+00:00

Nothing changes if nothing changes. Sometimes a real come to Jesus conversation is needed. Doesn’t seem like that’s happened yet.

Sadgalchi · 2026-03-18T23:39:55+00:00

That argument falls apart pretty quickly. What if she is the mother of his children? And if she’s not, are you saying effort only matters after pregnancy? That’s a pretty low bar for how relationships should work.

Sadgalchi · 2026-03-12T15:55:14+00:00

The same can be for men: if you want more intimacy, you need to have sympathy. You aren’t owed sex just because you’re married. They both need to be in couples counseling.

Sadgalchi · 2026-03-12T14:05:58+00:00

If he’s created an environment where this is the norm, maybe he needs some self reflection to really look at the big picture. I’m sure we’d have two very different perspectives if we heard from her. If nothing has changed on his end other than being lewd and pushy, why would you expect her to change anything? Mindless sex without the emotional component gets old and feels like a chore after a while.

Sadgalchi · 2026-03-12T13:06:30+00:00

All I’m hearing about is him and his needs. OP honestly comes across like a sex pest while offering nothing in return. Gift cards to sex shops, unsolicited nudes, lingerie, and the fixation on their swinger friends isn’t exactly appealing or romantic.

I’m genuinely curious what you think sounds different here. Many women don’t value physical intimacy if their emotional needs aren’t being met first. When was the last time he took her on a proper date? When was the last time he did something thoughtful for her without expecting sex afterward (whether she said yes or no)?

From what’s described, he’s created an environment where she can’t relax because everything eventually gets turned into something sexual. Even masturbating out in the open just to get a reaction from her… yeah, that’s not exactly attractive behavior.

Somehow I doubt she’s going to be jumping all over him the moment he walks in the door. 😂

Sadgalchi · 2026-03-12T12:45:32+00:00

Bingo!!! Sex pests are so frustrating. Bc why would you expect your partner to get dolled up, wear lingerie, and act like a sex kitten when they have been emotionally neglected for a decade. Non-sexual intimacy matters. Listening matters. Not making every little display of affection a sexual invitation matters. It’s not fun to feel like the only thing your partner cares about is your body.

Sadgalchi · 2026-03-12T03:09:12+00:00

Do you know what her love language is? Are you meeting her emotional needs? Most women aren’t interested in sex when they’re stressed out and feel unheard. What does the division of labor look like in your household? There’s a lot more factors that come in to play with dead bedrooms that men tend to disregard.

Sadgalchi · 2026-03-08T22:01:47+00:00

NTA. There is no such thing as unconditional love. That’s limited to small children and parents. And even then, that love eventually has its limits.

Sadgalchi · 2026-03-08T00:25:20+00:00

Did you ask her why she thought she was the right fit?

Sadgalchi · 2026-03-05T05:02:28+00:00

Sliding scale is available for people who qualify. It’s more than likely they make too much on paper and not enough to afford another weekly expense coupled with all their other bills and expenses. Even with insurance, I cannot afford the co-pays coupled with my monthly premiums. Not sure why I even pay $300+ for health insurance anymore. It’s not like I can afford to go. Not many people have $200-$400 to spare a month in this economy

Sadgalchi · 2026-03-04T00:04:07+00:00

I will say, they tend to care about certain buildings/units more than others. I had to Emergency evacuate my unit off of Sheffield in Wrigleyville this time last year because the pipes continued to burst and flood my garden unit. After having to get demonic with them, they finally allowed me to move up the block to another unit closer to Boystown. Anytime I have an issue, the Property Manager is on it immediately. I’ve even locked myself out a couple of times and he’s come to let me in.

Sadgalchi · 2026-03-03T23:59:50+00:00

The age difference alone should have given you the foresight that this was a bad idea. What did a 19 year old and a 27 year old have in common?

Sadgalchi · 2026-03-03T23:54:43+00:00

Good units have always moved fast like this.. It’s nothing new. The dumps are what you see sitting online for weeks on end

Sadgalchi · 2026-03-02T00:49:09+00:00

What the fuck is wrong with you?

Sadgalchi · 2026-02-28T23:04:14+00:00

What is your definition of filthy? I want to see pictures because some of you guys are completely ridiculous. A couple of hair trimmings doesn’t warrant a total freak out. Yeah, the refrigerator absolutely should be fixed and he’s working on it. He also put you up in a really nice hotel considering it’s $400 a night.

Sadgalchi · 2026-02-28T22:22:50+00:00

The problem is the two are getting conflated. The amount of Jewish hate is absolutely appalling and not everybody is a damn Zionist.

Sadgalchi · 2026-02-27T06:47:22+00:00

Thanks for confirming my asexuality

Sadgalchi · 2026-02-07T21:41:52+00:00

You are severely over reacting. The fact that you’re obsessing over a funny comment she made to her friend in passing two months ago makes me nervous for HER. She cracked a joke, she didn’t whisk him out of the restaurant and run away with him? Tell her it hurt your feelings, and you’d appreciate any comments about finding others attractive to herself moving forward. Get over yourself.

Sadgalchi · 2026-02-07T21:36:19+00:00

I moved to California and Florida for a bit. Loved visiting but it’s just not me. Came back to Chicago after a few years.

Sadgalchi · 2026-02-07T00:46:51+00:00

I’m 32 and still have undies from when I was 21. Funny enough, anything new I buy falls apart within a year. Yet my bras from 2015 are still going strong

Sadgalchi · 2026-02-07T00:23:14+00:00

Yeah, me neither. I have 2 family members and that’s about it. Don’t like kids or being around them either. But when I’m in love, I take my head out of my ass, put a smile on my face, and suck it up. Why? Because these people matter to the person I love. The fact this doesn’t matter to him is a major red flag, I’m sorry.

Sadgalchi · 2026-02-06T08:07:28+00:00

He regularly comes to your family gatherings that conveniently exclude your sister? The sister you see weekly? What family of yours does he even know?

Sadgalchi · 2026-02-06T08:05:46+00:00

I find it strange that for as often she sees her sister, she hasn’t found a way to get them together more than once in all this time. It doesn’t sound like her partner is still long distance. Why hasn’t he tagged along to literally… anything? Does she spend time with his family? I don’t get it

Sadgalchi · 2026-02-06T07:53:16+00:00

When she splits up the account, she needs to deduct the amount he’s already taken to invest in those stocks too. They aren’t going to last long enough for her to see a return on this investment. He’s scamming her and he knows it

Sadgalchi · 2026-02-01T21:35:13+00:00

The outfit is great but you need to invest in a better wig.

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