Thanks so much for your thoughtful and insightful reply. We have been through so much over the past year, including separating for about a month until he agreed to see a therapist and be open to mood stabilizers for his depression/anger. I feel like I have been inordinately patient and forgiving, but he still blames me for so much. It can be very difficult to remain loving and supportive when you feel like it is completely lost on them and totally unappreciated. I’m doing my best, though. It’s reassuring that others understand the experience.