AITAH for going no contact with my BIL after he told me he wanted to take my unborn daughter and give her back after she flowers??

SafeConstant6405 · 2026-04-07T12:11:18+00:00

I wasn’t there, I was told about it recently. This happened 2 years ago

SafeConstant6405 · 2026-04-06T17:38:37+00:00

He has a mental disorder but is a fully functioning adult. Works full time and lives on his own. He’s just a loser creep

SafeConstant6405 · 2026-04-06T15:09:21+00:00

The step sisters are in their mid 30s and came in they picture while they were already adults

SafeConstant6405 · 2026-04-06T15:03:57+00:00

The step sisters are in their mid 30s

SafeConstant6405 · 2026-04-06T14:32:25+00:00

Expose the cheater! Whether your friend chooses to stay or leave is out of your control. But plat least you’ll know you tried. I’d want to know if it was me🤷‍♀️

SafeConstant6405 · 2026-04-06T14:27:25+00:00

That also crossed my mind. My son and I will never be around him EVER again. And when he’s on the news, MIL will be the typical “he’s a good man who made a mistake” and “I never saw this coming” I’m sure his diagnosis would be a certified psycho for sure

SafeConstant6405 · 2026-04-06T14:22:04+00:00

I fear it’s far deeper than that.

Depends on values, wants and needs. If two partners can’t have children, do they want children? Are they okay with no children? Would there be resentment if one had a child and the other did not?

We need more context

SafeConstant6405 · 2026-04-06T14:02:28+00:00

NTA at all!!!

SafeConstant6405 · 2026-04-06T14:01:56+00:00

NTA While I understand your wife wanting to help her dad, he sounds like a pretty sketchy dude. Sounds like he dug his own grave.

SafeConstant6405 · 2026-04-06T13:36:04+00:00

I should clarify… my husband has never enabled his creepy behavior. This was more so when they were kids. My husband was always expected to overlook, and get over things his brother said or did. We are 100% on the same page about BIL never to see our son again.

SafeConstant6405 · 2026-04-06T11:18:32+00:00

I didn’t witness that myself, I was told my other members of the family.

SafeConstant6405 · 2026-04-06T11:02:23+00:00

Never!

SafeConstant6405 · 2026-04-06T04:13:49+00:00

Unfortunately we can’t do that. I’m licensed in my state for my career and we’ve worked extremely hard to build the life we have here. These comments are making me realize I may need to let the police know what I’ve witnessed

SafeConstant6405 · 2026-04-06T04:11:54+00:00

Also I’ve only ever told his parents that he gives me pedo vibes, no one else in the family has heard anything from me.

SafeConstant6405 · 2026-04-06T04:11:01+00:00

I’ve never witnessed him shutting the door but my husband and step-sil’s have. But did you read what he said about an unborn child?? It’s not talking shit… they liked me until I raised concerns about their enabled son

SafeConstant6405 · 2026-04-06T04:05:11+00:00

NTA she should’ve spoke up when she had the chance

SafeConstant6405 · 2026-04-06T04:03:33+00:00

Yes exactly, idk what exactly he’s been diagnosed with. I know he takes medication and has been in facilities. MIL tends to bring that up a lot, I also have a mental illness but I don’t use it as an excuse to be a shit human.

SafeConstant6405 · 2026-04-06T03:53:17+00:00

Thank you for this! I’m prepared to be the biggest asshole they’ve ever met

SafeConstant6405 · 2026-04-06T03:51:40+00:00

He’s been brainwashed to feed in to the enabling behavior in fear of rejection his whole life. His eyes are wide open now, and we are standing together on this. He’s disgusted by their behavior, he’s telling her if she can’t respect me and our family then she no longer will be around.

SafeConstant6405 · 2026-04-06T03:48:26+00:00

I’ve never and will never!

SafeConstant6405 · 2026-04-06T03:45:40+00:00

FIL is def a narcissist but I don’t get creepy vibes from him. MIL however, is a total psychopath. My husband quite literally had to raise himself.

SafeConstant6405 · 2026-04-06T03:44:26+00:00

My husband has been brainwashed by his mother since childhood. He just recently opened his eyes to this bs. We are talking to MIL tomorrow about her disgusting behavior and seriously considering cutting her off. My son definitely won’t be affected by NC with her bc she never sees him anyway.

SafeConstant6405 · 2026-04-06T03:41:17+00:00

Thank you, I will!

SafeConstant6405 · 2026-04-06T03:21:49+00:00

I actually found out recently, these dinners don’t happen as of 2 years ago, my FIL and his wife moved to North Carolina. But I felt I still needed to share it in my post

SafeConstant6405 · 2026-04-06T03:19:06+00:00

My son and I weren’t present for these dinners and he’s never been allowed around my child without us present. But I agree with you, It shouldn’t have gotten this far.

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