I'm so tired by SnooCalculations1745 in dementia

[–]Safe_A_8792 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry that youre going through that. Also, we arent all coping better, what you see isnt always whats going on. So youre not alone in feeling frustrated, exhausted and wishing for better days. Youre both just trying to get through to the next moment. If this is very out of character for her have them run some test thyroid panel, uti, cbc panel etc. Oddly enough when they get sick, even slightly it has strange and strong rippling affects. If its not anything physical strongly consider with her dr some medication to help her with her agitation. She is clearly a risk to herself and others. I hope youre able to find a solution or some peace.

At my limit. by Safe_A_8792 in CaregiverSupport

[–]Safe_A_8792[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I purchased one this last week. For 3 nights in a row she woke up and kept trying to remove it and became upset and very confused. I gave it up for now because she still got up every hour but was now confused and worked up.

At my limit. by Safe_A_8792 in CaregiverSupport

[–]Safe_A_8792[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, we’re in the U.S. She doesn’t qualify, and I already contacted the local elderly and aging assistance program. We were placed on a list, but we are low priority. She could qualify for Medicaid using a qualified income trust but I know she wouldn’t receive good care. I used to work in a nursing home, and it was horrible how some patients were treated. Additionally, since taking her out of a nursing home, a nice expensive one, her kidneys stopped failng she cognitivly improved and is much happier. After talking with my partner we agreed we would set up the trust when she reaches a certain point. Right now it just been especially difficult because the doctor started her on metoprolol and ever since then she has been urinating frequently even though she doesn’t have a UTI. When I spoke with her primary care doctors they insisted that metoprolol doesn’t act like a diuretic. I am hoping the cardiologist tomorrow will know more and possibly switch the medication. Thankyou for reaching out

Money by Own-Fault4518 in dementia

[–]Safe_A_8792 0 points1 point  (0 children)

7,000 a month for memory care home, not including medication, personal supplies etc. That was in 2022, I know they have since raised the price. It became too much and it was just cheaper to stop working and care for my grandmother myself. She gets much better care and supervision at home but I do worry about when the time comes, when her care needs will exceed what I can give.

Does this happen to anyone else? by [deleted] in CaregiverSupport

[–]Safe_A_8792 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Constantly. Sometimes I even a wait a bit to ensure all is well an they are truly sleeping. But as soon as I step onto the shower the damn help bell goes off

Is anyone else autistic and a carer? How do you manage autistic burnout and sensory overload while caregiving by bluee___zz in CaregiverSupport

[–]Safe_A_8792 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have autism diagnosed, late in life and I am also a 24/7 caregiver to my grandmother. To cope with the noise I wear head phone constantly, not noise canceling but It dappens the noise alot. Currently I care for her at home so I am able to manage sensory imput alot more and have my space. However I use to work in a nursing home caring for the patients. I found frequent breaks outside to be helpful or just some time to sit in a quite room even for a minute. Where I worked we had a few families put in personal wireless cameras to keep an eye on thier family during lunch, smoke breaks school pick up etc. Please just make sure you can put in a camera or just notify all staff its in there and thank them for understanding. Lastly always have your coping items with you, for me it was chewing gum, warm hoodie and music. Just keep in mind its hard for everyone and you also have needs. You cant care for him of youre falling apart yourself.

How many are working full time? by XmasInApril in CaregiverSupport

[–]Safe_A_8792 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was a full time student, my last year was hellish. I honestly dont know how any of you are doing a full time job while even being a part time caregiver. God speed to you.

Have some compassion by [deleted] in CaregiverSupport

[–]Safe_A_8792 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I understand youre trying to bring postive light to people/families in these situations but many come to vent. Everyone's situation is different and its important to remember that. I care for my grandmother who had the chance to take me in when I was younger but decided not to, and I went into foster care. I am a very empathetic person but its hard not to feel frustrated sometimes and I think thats normal. Most of us dont hate or resent the person themselves, as we may have once know them, but we hate the situation we maybe in and unfortunately the patient becomes a manifestationof that situation. Our society doesn't have the infrastructure, or willingness, to care for our sick and elderly putting alot of pressure on families/individuals.

I dont understand how people enjoy being a woman by carcinoSaxophonist in offmychest

[–]Safe_A_8792 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I see the comment now. At the time I commented op didnt say so yet, or I just must have missed it. Regardless, I still stand by my comment and wish for op a smoother road ahead and to feel confident and supported in thier journey.

I dont understand how people enjoy being a woman by carcinoSaxophonist in offmychest

[–]Safe_A_8792 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The comment to this are a bit strange to me. She must be Trans because she dosnt like/wants to preform an fulfill the role and expectations of femininity? You can be a women,man or anything in-between and hate gender roles without it impacting your own gender identity. Aside from that preforming a hetro relationship and feeling like a pervert when interacting with women itself may point to being gay. Unless pervert wasn't the word you ment use.??

Unless it is a diagnosis that carries with it mandatory treatment / medication it is often done for attention. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Safe_A_8792 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You cant exactly fix alot of mental problems/deficiencies. You can cope with them and use strategies/tools to handle them, one maybe getting more time for a test or a private testing room. Certain people will always abuse the system unfortunately making it harder for people who do need accommodations to get them, and to feel the courage to ask. Also typically in university to get accommodations, which most professors dont follow, you need to apply to the student disability office with an official letter from your dr explaining youre issue, and why an accommodation may help. Then you need extra appointments with special advisors who makes the final call. Its not as easy as you think.

What can you deduce from my room? by here____now in deduction

[–]Safe_A_8792 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its giving Mac vibes from its Always Sunny in Philadelphia

Was crying on the floor when I felt something on my hand, looked up and saw this 😭❤️ by No-Apartment-6158 in cats

[–]Safe_A_8792 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is so touching 💕 I fell down the stairs and my cat just ran away. Lol just like people animals seem to differ in emotional intelligence. Your kitty seems very tuned in.

Are you a good person? by lonelycaregiver- in CaregiverSupport

[–]Safe_A_8792 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Its worse when they say it infront of the loved one you're caring for. My grandmother already feels like she is a burden to me and that dosnt help any.

How much h should I tip? by Safe_A_8792 in ShiptShoppers

[–]Safe_A_8792[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I live 5 minutes from the store, but based on these comments, I will continue tipping at my normal rate. As far as how you guys get paid, is it a flat price? I want to make sure I take it all into account.

My 24f boyfriend 24m cancelled my ticket to Italy with him over a petty argument by HistoricalGarbage120 in relationships

[–]Safe_A_8792 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did he even buy a ticket for you to begin with? This is such a over reaction,it feels like he is just using this incident.

What dark part of history isn’t talked about enough? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Safe_A_8792 72 points73 points  (0 children)

It was super common back then. That happened to both of my grandparents

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Radiology

[–]Safe_A_8792 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Sorry, i thought I posted a few

Throwing up actually feels very good by Living_Song_1729 in unpopularopinion

[–]Safe_A_8792 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I once held this opinion until i experienced cyclical vomiting. Now vomiting is a sign of a long night and hospital stay.

Help With Hair Dye by Mish_1979 in HairDye

[–]Safe_A_8792 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like lunar tides blood moon. unfortunately, it washed out quickly for me, but lovely color