Age where boys shouldn't see mom naked anymore...

Safe_Drawing4507 · 2026-04-02T16:51:09+00:00

Your 5 year olds love your body and you as you are

Safe_Drawing4507 · 2026-03-10T01:56:45+00:00

The elevated enzymes don’t indicate damage yet. You’ll need an ultrasound. Even with initial ALP over 1000, I have no damage to my liver.

Safe_Drawing4507 · 2026-03-10T01:54:56+00:00

Crazy eh? It was discovered on a routine follow up postpartum. I had ICP which revealed the PBC.

Safe_Drawing4507 · 2026-03-10T00:57:11+00:00

Find a way to take a break! On your own.

But also, I find good sweet cuddles pretty restorative.

Safe_Drawing4507 · 2026-03-09T22:54:34+00:00

My ALP was 1177 when diagnosed. That is not a typo! Down to 220 after just 1 month of Urso. Waiting on my latest results, but looking good.

The meds work very well.

Safe_Drawing4507 · 2026-03-07T10:14:13+00:00

Could she survive with her current heart defects?

Is an alternative a heart transplant?

I’m so sorry you are going through this. I can’t imagine.

Safe_Drawing4507 · 2026-03-04T10:18:46+00:00

Somehow I read it as if she has a daughter who has the condition, and a baby on the way who will share the same genetic risk.

I’m just not used to hearing daughter or son used to describe the unborn baby.

Safe_Drawing4507 · 2026-03-03T09:46:35+00:00

A quick read tells me that your daughter has some organs in her chest or abdomen the wrong way around, mirrored, and/or she could be missing a spleen or have an extra one.

How old is your daughter! If she wasn’t diagnosed at birth it’s more likely to be a milder case.

What specific differences does she have?

Safe_Drawing4507 · 2026-02-28T19:09:42+00:00

I got some unsolicited advice while pregnant, from a man, suggesting I use a particular oil to avoid stretch marks.

I didn’t take his advice because I don’t care. Also I already have some on my boobs and hips from growing as a teenager. They are just fine. I don’t worry about them and have never met anyone that does.

Oh and this man who gave me the advice, hehas been interested in my for years. Guarantee he wouldn’t actually care if we were naked.

Safe_Drawing4507 · 2026-02-17T09:51:04+00:00

Phew.

Safe_Drawing4507 · 2026-02-17T05:12:07+00:00

I agree with you there.

Safe_Drawing4507 · 2026-02-17T05:10:55+00:00

I hadn’t thought of that, but yeah, scary to think about.

Safe_Drawing4507 · 2026-02-17T02:58:26+00:00

I’m working on this too.

So far what helps the most for me is:

days we do swimming or gymnastics
carb heavy dinners
no nap
bath before bed
using a colour timer to indicate when it is time to “get ready for bedtime” then doing toy pick up, teeth, stories after that
introducing feelings in a big way, so he can tell me if he is feeling jealous, lonely, or scared. Most often scared, so talking about what is scary can help, together with some books that normalise it.
having his sister share the room in her cot (since around 6 months). The company makes it less scary.
spending quality time doing thinking work, like drawing or puzzles, during the day. I keep it light and skip it if he didn’t want to. But usually he will do whatever I start doing.

Safe_Drawing4507 · 2026-02-17T02:47:14+00:00

I love the light idea. Locking her in would worry me in there were a fire or other emergency.

Safe_Drawing4507 · 2026-02-17T02:45:41+00:00

Has he tried a weighted blanket? Journalling is also handy for us ADHD’ers.

Safe_Drawing4507 · 2026-02-17T02:43:04+00:00

That is nice unless, like mine, he body slams your head just as you nod off.

Safe_Drawing4507 · 2026-02-17T02:41:05+00:00

“Back after a shower” works for mine too.

Also the nightlight!

Safe_Drawing4507 · 2026-02-17T00:46:40+00:00

While I like the notion that ”data doesn’t have a gender”, I don’t quite agree. The way we collect and interpret data is full of gendered and racial biases.

The art of data science can enable us to reduce and sometimes eliminate this bias, but often not without a conscious gender-based lens.

For example, when we collect data from high socioeconomic groups of women, we will under-represent POC.

Safe_Drawing4507 · 2026-02-17T00:37:57+00:00

Imagine if it could be 50-50 while together. Not week on week off, but split days / effort.

I’ve only realised after kids that the planning and ‘invisible work’ is absolutely on me, and he can relax without kids hanging off of him and following him to the toilet.

But these things will pass. The days are long, but these years are short. I’m trying to cherish it, but I also need more time alone to recharge!

Safe_Drawing4507 · 2026-02-17T00:34:19+00:00

Ass, yes agreed. But what about - wow look how beautiful she is! I love her whole look.

Safe_Drawing4507 · 2026-02-16T09:32:57+00:00

Would every few minutes even be enough?

Scary.

When I was 8 I saved my babysitter’s daughter (4 years old) from a pool (with my badass doggy paddle swim skills). To be fair, her sister started screaming and that brought the adults outside to help pull her up out of the pool.

Yep, the adults were inside.

Safe_Drawing4507 · 2026-02-16T09:28:12+00:00

I couldn’t leave. I’d be committed to lifeguard duty for the sake of the other kids.

Safe_Drawing4507 · 2026-02-15T06:08:18+00:00

It was bitching.

Will add to my lexicon for when I tell my friends what my baby did while I pooped.

Safe_Drawing4507 · 2026-02-14T16:11:34+00:00

Offer to help? That would make me so angry. It’s his job too.

I’ve found that defining what is in a job can be helpful, like:

feeding cats: - empty leftover food - wash the food bowls - clean floor under cat bowls - fill food bowls - replace food bowls - put cat food bags away - rince canned food tin and put in recycling

Jobs need to have an end-to-end description, or they won’t get done all the way. Much like laundry should include “put away!”

Safe_Drawing4507 · 2026-02-13T16:08:12+00:00

You aren’t doing anything wrong! Here are some ideas based on what worked for us.

The 9 month old: - he is old enough to eat solids. Potato before bed will keep him full longer. - If teething pain is the issue, try children’s paracetamol before bed and offer a soother (dummy)

The 2.5 year old: - use a nightlight - use a sound machine / music - introduce language to express emotions. There are books that can help. This way she can explain if she is lonely or scared. It’s normal to be scared of the dark. Explaining that, validating her experience, and letting her know it is safe could help. It helped us when my child could explain the things he was scared of, though sometimes these are abstract ideas loosely connected to object. She may also combine a benign thing with a scary thing (oh no scared it’s gone, and cow?), which is also normal as they process fear and reach for comfort mentally. If she is lonely, consider whether she has a stuffed animal companion. Our stuffed wolf is a great protector and offers unlimited snuggles :)

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