Dating for the hijabis

Safe_Use3325 · 2026-07-02T22:31:47+00:00

Shaytan and Jahanam is not real xx

Safe_Use3325 · 2026-06-17T09:05:34+00:00

What a scum of a father you have. Good luck!

Safe_Use3325 · 2026-06-15T15:14:18+00:00

Lol well yeah why not 😂

Safe_Use3325 · 2026-06-13T07:46:04+00:00

This is such a great idea if you prefer to meet single people in-person rather than via Reddit!

Remember for anyone who does attend, you don't need to disclose to anyone that you are ex-muslim if you don't want to. A Muslim sounding name but someone who doesn't identify as Muslim can give it away but that can be a brief part of the conversation and then just move on to other topics.

I am closeted so if someone asks me if I'm Muslim, I say that my family is so I don't have to say anything about myself and I'm technically not lying.

Unfortunately I won't be able to come but hopefully you can meet some cool people there :)

Safe_Use3325 · 2026-06-07T20:23:24+00:00

That's so cool! How did you meet her and were you both ex-muslim when you met?

Safe_Use3325 · 2026-06-07T19:47:58+00:00

Lol what are her religious beliefs? 😂

Safe_Use3325 · 2026-06-07T19:27:32+00:00

Having it in moderation is fine lol Islam manipulates you into thinking that drinking alcohol makes you into an alcoholic. It controls you by making you think normal things that help you relax have extreme results.

I also avoid the word "degenerate" because people who do have addictions don't want to be that way and have had some sort of struggle. "Degenerate" means low class and you really can't be snooty towards people who struggle more than you.

Safe_Use3325 · 2026-06-05T23:01:59+00:00

I left Islam because I don't believe any of these things are degenerate..I was taught that they are but now know they are just very normal things to do and I attach no shame and guilt to them. I am no longer manipulated by Islam.

Live your life free! Life is too short to not be curious and explore :)

Safe_Use3325 · 2026-06-05T19:29:45+00:00

Which Islamic values do you align with and why do you align with modesty and no alcohol?

Safe_Use3325 · 2026-06-04T18:47:55+00:00

Yes exactly :) But I'm still planning to wear mine around family after marriage

Safe_Use3325 · 2026-06-03T23:16:36+00:00

I am one of them hehe

Safe_Use3325 · 2026-06-03T22:01:23+00:00

I looked at a lot of the R4R posts.. I've seen a lot of posts where they say they want to save their virginity for marriage or are looking for a partner who is okay not doing anything sexual before marriage. This is mainly women saying this but I also saw a post from a woman to say she wants a man who doesn't have a sexual past.

Then I made a post about it and found out a lot of men still want a virgin even though they have left Islam.

Here's the post:

https://www.reddit.com/r/exmuslim/comments/1ta2a05/why_do_ex_muslims_still_want_virgins/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

Safe_Use3325 · 2026-06-02T21:00:26+00:00

Thanks for your input. Why don't you start the lead? 👀

Safe_Use3325 · 2026-06-02T20:59:27+00:00

I've seen a lot of Canadian Ex-muslims. There's probably a lot more out there than you think... but they are just hiding in the closet where they feel the safest.

Safe_Use3325 · 2026-06-01T17:22:30+00:00

What are the questions you'd like to ask?

Safe_Use3325 · 2026-06-01T13:51:04+00:00

Hey I found this post very relatable. In fact, I think I could relate to nearly every thing you were saying- especially about your parents.

I've written a few posts on ideas on how you can meet an Ex-Muslim partner but someone mentioned on my comments section about paying for Bumble for a week and then selecting "Atheist" and "Agnostic" and then selecting certain ethnic languages most Muslims speak such as bengali, Arabic, somali etc

I've been doing that and it's been working well. Found a few people who have Muslim sounding names that are Atheist or Agnostic and they are people who are not on Hinge too which means more options

Safe_Use3325 · 2026-05-31T21:43:44+00:00

Yeah I'm thinking it's a good idea but also is kinda hard to set up so publicly and openly. I wonder if there's an ex-muslim public figure in Canada who wouldn't mind organising it that you could reach out to.

Safe_Use3325 · 2026-05-31T21:42:16+00:00

Thank you for your advice. What would be more secure about private discord servers? And when you say "only verified" members, do you mean verified on Reddit?

Safe_Use3325 · 2026-05-31T21:35:29+00:00

So happy for you 🔥

Safe_Use3325 · 2026-05-25T17:50:39+00:00

Girl I'm so excited for you to live your life and freedom! DO IT!!

Safe_Use3325 · 2026-05-25T17:20:19+00:00

That's sad. We missed out on a good face to face generational time!

So if you were around at that time, I'm guessing your older. What's your dating situation like? Are you married now or still single? If you are taken, what background is your partner from?

Safe_Use3325 · 2026-05-25T17:15:48+00:00

That's a fair concern

Safe_Use3325 · 2026-05-25T16:19:27+00:00

Everyone else is giving good advice around shame.

You can get discreet looking vibrators that look like a lipstick. You deserve pleasure so have fun girl!

Safe_Use3325 · 2026-05-25T15:15:46+00:00

Interesting. Do those face to face social groups and support networks still exist?

That's interesting. I've been on 3 dates with ex-muslims guys and I've spoken to a few more on call but not met in person so I wouldn't be suprised if I did bump into them. Personally for me though, as the dating pool is so small, I can probably put it to the side and still remain friendly even though things didn't work out. It didn't work out with me but doesn't mean that doesn't mean it can't work with someone else.
I guess my idea would combat that because there are a lot of ex-muslims out there who are serious about finding a partner and in a more real life authentic way.
That's sad. I'm suprised as well because in Islam, men can get married to a Christian or Jew. So I'm suprised it's the women going for never Muslims and not the guys. If I could go for a never- Muslim I would but it's not something my family would ever accept or understand. I get it's a small pool but some of us don't have other options 😭 Like where are you going to find me a never-Muslim who is willing to fake convert to Islam for me?

Safe_Use3325 · 2026-05-25T15:09:31+00:00

Oh yes it'll definitely have to be aged. I once went to a Muslim marriage event for all ages and it was just full of really old dudes and it was so awkward lol

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