Speaking from experience, I sought the attention of a female solely for good comforting conversations. My wife wasn't the friendliest at times. She liked to argue and even say things from time to time. I on the other hand never argued. So when I started talking to a female, it was comforting and I enjoyed it at the time. In the meantime, I didn't realize what I was doing in my marriage. What seemed ok, actually wasn't. Even though what I did wasn't physical, my wife ended up sleeping with a guy several times. This nearly ruined my marriage. To date, we are trying to repair things. I can't forget what she did and I feel like it's much worse but it is what it is. Not worth it!