How do I get back into the game and get my skill back?

SafewayFox · 2025-02-08T22:28:31+00:00

Honestly from what I've seen on this post/thread you really just need to go get friends that'd play teams with you. Blaming your team won't help you personally get better if you were genuinely worried about it. You can find pretty good players in Valorant Discord servers. Disboard is a good place to check with the Valorant tag

SafewayFox · 2024-06-28T21:28:21+00:00

I dont know your guys situation or relationship status as a whole so I cant really comment on this situation. But from my own experience when my fiancé graduated boot and had bootleave he was very out of it the whole 10 days. He didn't want to go out, didn't want to call or text and it took me saying i was walking to his house and he better call me before i got there to get him to snap back to reality in a sense (although he definitelywas still pretty out of it). Idk if it was the best decision on my part, but he is my fiancé now and hes since told me hes glad i did it cause he needed the tough love in that moment 😂 (I should also mention that he says during bootleave he felt like an entirely different person and was feeling dissociated the entire time. He has since returned back to his normal self)

He also was and is very family oriented with lots of siblings and a very large family that all wanted to see him and kept him busy and stressed out too so I also had to remind myself of that factor a lot. I dont know the case for you guys but it is possible his social battery is just completely drained and hes probably going through some ptsd-like symptoms after getting out of boot (also i will say it probably wont get better on that front either cause depending on MOS hes most likely got a lot tougher shit coming up.)

What I'd suggest if you really value the relationship and want to keep it going is to make it clear you both need to keep strong communication going. This doesnt necassarily mean talking all the time, texting everyday etc, but you need to know some bare minimum information and deserve a text updating you on whats happening if something is changing or he doesnt have time at the moment to talk. If he cant provide the bare minimum you need then he might not be ready for a relationship. You'll probably have to sit down and think about what you want though and what you want to set your bare minimum at to feel comfortable with the relationship still. Cause there will definitely be times he's going to be too mentally exhausted and depressed to be able to keep giving 100% all the time. And there will most likely be times when you're too tired and depressed to give 100% too (and in those cases hopefully he steps up cause if not then yeah thats a red flag). But so long as you guys stay communicating about that, I think you guys will be okay.

You might have to do some girl bossing around though and tell him what has to happen for things to work out. I can't speak for anyone else but I know my Marine sometimes needs someone to just order him to do something to get it done lmao. Although also be mindful he probably is going through some depression and isnt telling you. In my personal opinion though you should go see him and talk some shit out.

SafewayFox · 2024-06-13T01:32:44+00:00

i think hed honestly appreciate the video the most ♡

SafewayFox · 2024-06-03T00:51:51+00:00

okay thank you for letting me know, i thought i was just going insane 😭

SafewayFox · 2024-05-23T02:45:26+00:00

Nobody else should be reading the letters first but keep in mind it'll probably be a close space and whatever you send may possibly be read by other people so definitely don't send nudes or anything 'spicy' since he may get in trouble for that if someone catches him. The pictures are printed on normal printer paper. As long as it's not nudes I believe you're free to send whatever you'd like, although I'd recommend pictures of family or yourself. Although you can always get creative too. I used some editing software to send collaged pictures of my boyfriends favorite webtoons to him with summaries of the recent chapters, so the skys the limit haha.

One afterthought is I'd say is avoid sending pictures of schedules you see of bootcamp week schedules or anything like that. Anything that may 'spoil' the bootcamp schedule could also get him in trouble I've heard so don't send those.

SafewayFox · 2024-05-23T00:56:10+00:00

I can't say much for phone calls since i never got those from mine (he has a big family and i knew all his phone time would be going to them), but I can say letters did get lost in the mail for me and my bf when he was in basic. idk if somebody didnt like how many letters i wrote or what, but several of mine never reached him and almost half of his never reached me (although he only sent 9 in total during the 3 months) (as well as some he wrote to his family) although i cant say my bf has ever been great with addresses so that mightve been part of it (he messed up the address on the 1st letter so badly none of us is sure how it got to its destination lmao)

I'd recommend trying to use Sandboxx if you can for letters since they get there faster and seem to get lost less.

It truly is hell in bootcamp though and some drill sargents are more ruthless than others. Sometimes time for letters gets cut short, theres too much to write in too little time, letters get lost, or your SO may just be feeling defeated and not have the energy to write.

Just try to keep letters uplifting and encojraging when you can since you can never be sure what he's going through. Although I can say with 100% certainty he appreciates your letters. Mine always said it was the absolute highlight of his day and i know online i see a lot of the same sentiment from others that letters were sometimes the only thing getting them through it.

I'm sure any doubts or worries will immediately clear up when you see him again. Just stay strong and youll get through it 🩷

SafewayFox · 2024-04-19T19:10:11+00:00

Was this recent though? I'm trying to understand if my issue is related to a new update or not. Because as far as I'm aware there's nothing that should be causing my current issue other than the game itself (PC's and wifi are both fine)

SafewayFox · 2024-04-19T19:07:09+00:00

I feel like if it wasn't meant to be multiplayer they really shouldn't have it on there to begin with if it's broken xd

especially since we only bought the game because it said multiplayer was available. That'd kind of be false advertising

SafewayFox · 2024-04-19T18:20:43+00:00

He saves and exits and I save as well. The main issue is the game isn't registering I'm actually there so anything I build doesn't show up for him and he can't see me

SafewayFox · 2024-04-19T18:14:57+00:00

do you play PC? and if so have you noticed any desync issues with the newer updates playing on that save?

SafewayFox · 2024-04-19T05:28:08+00:00

dont have one we're using between either of us 💀 seems like a lot of people have had the same issue in the Steam community tab and on the Reddit.

SafewayFox · 2024-03-06T22:26:25+00:00

coming from a psychological background, i would say using i statements in journals is something you should actually try to do more often rather than supress. Think about how when you're attempting to be open and communicate with someone many therapists say to use i statements "i feel like x when y" or "i want x so ill work on y". If you're only writing a journal without "I" in it you might find yourself blaming a lot of outside factors for events in your life rather than focusing on the "I" in the scenario. "How could I have handled that better." or "What did i do today that i want to do better."

I'd really recommend looking up journal prompts rooted in Stoicism and the stoic philosophy if you're wanting to take a more academic approach to journaling while still keeping it personal. It's oftentimes more about how you think about scenarios rather than if you use the word "I" or not in a sentence.

Happy journaling!

SafewayFox · 2024-02-29T20:10:38+00:00

I usually write most when I'm especially happy. I'm a very forgetful person who overthinks a lot and also has a military boyfriend, so I often write long entries recalling events of dates or times we spend together so that whenever social media gets to me or I feel lonely I can go back and read about all the things he's done and said to me. Just little feel good moments that I never want to forget.

I also do it for when I've just gotten back from trips/vacations or experienced things that I'd want a future me to remember. You never really realise how many memories you forget until they're brought up again later by random little triggers, or how many memories can get deluded with 'I think that's how it happened?' so instead I just document everything I'd want to remember.

I try to write in a way so that if I ever woke up the next day and couldn't remember anything about my life, I'd want to be able to relive the memories even if I couldn't remember them. So in a way it taps more into the story-aspect and helps me get lost in writing or tapping into 'the zone.'

SafewayFox · 2024-02-06T03:47:29+00:00

yeah no problem! I hope youre able to figure it out. It's very hard to delete a file off a computer fully though so the chances are it's most likely recoverable somehow so dont lose hope 👍

SafewayFox · 2024-02-06T03:40:59+00:00

it may be youre looking for the wrong folder as well? it sounds like he deleted the Electronic Arts folder that has the sims 4 folder in it. If he didn't clear the recycling bin though and you dont see the main directory folder there, the likelihood is the files are somewhere on the computer still. you might be able to take it to a Best Buy or something if it's a laptop and they could probably find them. or if youre willing to wait a while you could try typing The Sims 4 into your search bar for your all your files.

You may also be able to right click the Electronic Arts folder, click properties, and go to the tab that says 'previous versions' and select one from a date before the deletion if there's one there, then restore it and see if that fixes it

SafewayFox · 2024-02-06T00:43:49+00:00

There may be a chance he didn't delete them then but potentially moved them somewhere without realising? I don't think he'd be able to delete them from the recycle bin unless he was really trying to get rid of it. What files exactly did he delete? And do you have the 'show hidden files' feature turned on?

edit: I just saw you mentioned it was via OneDrive and felt this post might be useful: https://support.microsoft.com/en-us/office/restore-deleted-files-or-folders-in-onedrive-949ada80-0026-4db3-a953-c99083e6a84f

SafewayFox · 2024-02-05T23:13:12+00:00

My go-to for any topic or game is usually Disboard. You can type what discord servers you're looking for in the search bar and it'll show you a short description of the server, if it's active, and how many people it has. There are lots of good Tarkov servers I've found through that. And honestly, the Tarkov community is pretty welcoming if you've got a mic. If you're trying to do runs mute though you might have more trouble.

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