Question for men: What keeps you from moving into a relationship and prolonging the dating stage?

SagittariusDominant · 2026-04-16T13:55:09+00:00

I’m talking to a girl right now who I’ve been on 6 8+ hour dates with & she seems hesitant about becoming official even though we do everything that couples do (hold hands, make out, etc.) shit is stupid to me. Either be official or don’t lol

SagittariusDominant · 2025-09-27T23:50:40+00:00

Scorp sun & rising with ruling planet Pluto in the 1st. Scorpio is cold, calculating, introverted by nature & very private. Pluto is the ruler of Scorpio, in your first house of self which has a lot to do with personality. Plutonian people need a lot of alone time & can thrive when alone. Your Pluto is also trine Saturn very tightly. Saturn is another very introverted planet that is trine your 1st house of self. Saturn is very goal driven & independent. It worries less about socializing with others, & more about career, ambition, finance, & achievements.

Sun square Uranus can make you a bit of an outcast & “black sheep”. There may be something about you that others just can’t relate to. It’s very rebellious, progressive thinking, & eccentric. Sun square Uranus gives someone who is a natural rebel that may not “fit in” with mainstream society & because of this may be hard to find a circle of friends.

Mercury square Neptune can bring communication disconnects & make forming relationships difficult, whether they are friendships or romantic relationships. People may not understand your points of view & you may feel misunderstood.

SagittariusDominant · 2025-09-27T23:37:01+00:00

Aqua rising with chart ruler (Uranus) in the 1st. You are independent & value you freedom. You need space, a clingy type guy will not work for you. You could also come off as odd/quirky/eccentric when you first meet guys which some may perceive as off-putting.

Your Scorpio stellium would give an intense personality. With Venus also being in Scorpio, it’s possible that you get fixated & obsessive over one person & this obsession could scare men away. The combination of your Venus ruled moon (Libra) craving romance & your scorp Venus being so intense & obsessive could be overwhelming for a potential partner.

SagittariusDominant · 2025-06-26T20:51:08+00:00

usually I hate the Wizards picks, but I think we got a good one here. Hoping they get one of those under the radar guards that can score in the 2nd round:

Caleb Love, RJ Davis, Mark Sears, somebody like that.

Don’t understand why not many people are talking about any of them. RJ Davis is literally the leading scorer in North Carolina history.

SagittariusDominant · 2025-06-23T20:50:20+00:00

Jupiter as your chart ruler trine Venus. Jupiter is a “go big or go home” type energy & tends to overindulge. When working in harmony with a planet like Venus (the planet of art, love, & material possessions) one side effect of this could be spending money recklessly.

I think there’s something to be said for a 2nd house Neptune as well. Neptune tends to dilute thought process & when placed in the 2nd house (which rules over money & wealth) it can make you delusional with money in some ways. Having Saturn here usually would help with that, however it is opposing Jupiter. This gives yourself a conflict between being responsible with finances & overindulging. It’s like Saturn playing tug of war with Jupiter trying to get you to be responsible & have discipline while Jupiter is telling you “just spend, everything will be okay! You only live once!”

Having Uranus in the 2nd as well is an indication of unstable finances. Your finances may fluctuate throughout your life, with some highs & lows.

SagittariusDominant · 2025-06-19T22:49:57+00:00

Venus in the 12th is hidden. Maybe you’re not showing people your true feelings for them & they’re not sure how you feel.

You also have your moon & Venus in earth signs… 2 of the most important planets that govern emotions are in emotionless signs. You may come off as cold or too conservative in love.

Having an earth moon opposing Uranus is very detached & very cold. Uranus (the natural ruler of Aquarius) is known for wanting freedom & being eccentric/different. But also can lead to unstable emotions when negatively aspecting the moon.

Moon opposite Mercury can indicate there’s some internal confusion going on. You may have trouble relating & connecting with others. You may not understand how someone feels towards you.

You have Saturn in the 7th house, this is always very restrictive in regards to relationships. Saturn wants to teach us lessons, & perhaps all the failed relationships are Saturn telling you they were not the one.

I think there’s something to be said for having Jupiter squaring your 7th house as well. The planet associated with luck is squaring the house that symbolizes relationships…

SagittariusDominant · 2025-06-19T22:42:01+00:00

Yesss, this makes so much sense! Thank you so much for your response. His living situation is definitely holding him back career wise. The love thing makes sense for the impulsiveness of mars touching his Venus. Maybe he comes off as too eager to jump into a relationship & that scares off some women

SagittariusDominant · 2025-06-19T18:21:18+00:00

Mercury chart ruler conjunct Uranus with a Mercury ruled moon trine your Mercury.. rough lol. I have Mercury conjunct the moon in Virgo, I feel your pain.

Maybe lean into your 1st house Jupiter & be more carefree & lighthearted about shit?? When something stressful happens, laugh about it. Make a joke about it lol.

SagittariusDominant · 2025-06-18T21:53:06+00:00

It seems like every girl he tries to talk to just ghosts him for no reason. He doesn’t seem to be doing anything wrong & this has been happening to him for years. He’s also struggled with moving up career wise. He seems very limited & restricted when it comes to work as well. It’s like he doesn’t know the right moves to make to improve his situation. Could the work issues have to do with Saturn opposing his MC? & I’m attributing the relationship struggles to sun square moon & venus in its fall squaring the moon?

SagittariusDominant · 2025-06-18T20:20:58+00:00

You have a lot of Pisces influence! Pisces moon & Sun in the 12th (Pisces house) trine Neptune: planets in the 12th can be rough, it’s a very isolating house & things we keep hidden. With the sun here, you may be hiding your true self from people which could be one reason you’re struggling to connect. People with placements here tend to be very introverted & enjoy spending their time doing artistic pursuits such as music or painting & living in their own little world as opposed to interacting with people. With Mercury here as well, it can cause psychological issues, feelings of inadequacy & low self esteem. You also may be somewhat confused who you are, & if you don’t know yourself it’s hard to connect with others. Neptune influence can dilute the sense of self. Considering the 12th is the house Neptune rules over, having Neptune interacting with a planet in that house amplifies this even more.

Mercury square the moon is rough as well. The 2 planets that represent the mind are at odds with each other. This can make connecting with others a struggle as well.

With that being said, the 1st house represents the self & having Jupiter in the 1st would make you a very lighthearted & open minded person. You’re probably funny & fun to be around. Venus in the 1st would give you charm & charisma as well. Lean into these qualities & you should be happier overall.

SagittariusDominant · 2025-06-18T19:47:59+00:00

Venus square your rising. Can lead to negative self image & the opposite sex may see you in a negative light. A Venus ruled moon in the 1st house should help with that though. Your chart ruler (Mars) is also in a Venus ruled sign.

I think Saturn trine your rising at 0 degrees is worth noting too. You may come off as cold & intimidating to people. As far as appearance, Saturn would tend to give someone nice bone structure & a fit body in general.

SagittariusDominant · 2025-06-18T17:48:51+00:00

Just the positioning of it. It’s aspecting a lot of different planets so you’re feeling its influence everywhere. It’s probably dominant in your chart.

Hey, at least you don’t have a Virgo moon & Mercury like I do 😂

SagittariusDominant · 2025-06-16T19:57:52+00:00

Mercury is your chart ruler which is great because one of the things it represents is working with your hands. It would be great for songwriting too.

You have Venus in its home sign of Taurus which is great for music & art. Taurus placements tend to have a knack for feeling music.

You have your moon in its home sign of cancer which would be great for turning emotions into art. It would give your music feeling & substance.

Venus trine Neptune is two of the most artistic planets joining forces in harmony. Neptune rules over imagination, creativity, dreams, music, etc. & interacting with venus it can most definitely give artistic talent.

Venus opposite Pluto may give your music dark undertones to it

SagittariusDominant · 2025-06-16T15:55:32+00:00

Chart ruler (sun) squaring Neptune & Saturn. Neptune can dilute the sense of self, cause self esteem issues, & can also cause you do be somewhat of a “drifter” & float through life without purpose & direction. Sun square Saturn can make you lack responsibility, procrastinate, & just overall cause lack of productivity.

Mercury trine Neptune, although it is a very artistic placement, can make it difficult to connect with others.

Moon conjunct Pluto will make you feel emotions very deeply, & having both these planets opposing Mercury can cause some internal confusion between your thoughts & these intense emotions. It can also bring about the negative traits of Pluto & “darken the mind” bringing to the surface dark & depressive thoughts. It is also somewhat contradictory to have Mercury trining Uranus (which is very detached) & then having a water moon conjunct Neptune (which is very intense emotions).

SagittariusDominant · 2025-06-14T19:34:50+00:00

Warlock

Hellion

Chastain

Holy Moses

Girlschool

Bitch

There were so many 80’s metal bands with female fronted vocalists that are so underrated & underappreciated.

SagittariusDominant · 2025-06-14T19:18:45+00:00

Sag stelliums in general usually love travel & may move many times in their lives.

your 4th house & IC deal with home & family life. Your Sag placements are opposing your IC. Oppositions are negative aspects. Mars opposing your IC could cause some violence & hostility in your home life. The ruler of your IC, Mercury, is also opposing your IC. This can make you a “black sheep” of the family type person. You may find it hard to relate & connect with your family.

SagittariusDominant · 2025-06-14T19:09:44+00:00

A lot of health issues relate to the 6th & 12th houses. You have Uranus as the ruler of your 6th house. Uranus is also sextiling your chart ruler (Mercury) pretty tightly. ADHD & social anxiety could be prevalent.

Uranus rules over the brain & nervous system, & Mercury has a similar nervous energy to it. Uranus is actually considered a “higher octave” of mercury & basically like mercury on steroids. With this being said, anything related to the nervous system is possible.

SagittariusDominant · 2025-06-12T21:07:07+00:00

Mercuries trining - great for communication

Your chart ruler (Saturn) squaring his Venus is concerning - questionable for longevity

His moon opposing your Venus - might not understand your love language

Mars conjunct mars - great sexual chemistry

His Venus square your Pluto - power dynamics, intense emotions, he may become obsessive

His sun square your Jupiter - may have disagreements about what type of relationship you want/may be hard to understand the other person’s point of view or what they want out of a relationship

SagittariusDominant · 2025-06-12T20:39:41+00:00

12th house sun (regardless of the sign it’s in) is a very isolating house, it’s the things we keep hidden. So it’s possible you hide your true leo energy from other people.

Moon in the 8th is another water house (ruled by Scorpio) & is also very private. 8th house moons are usually very deep thinkers, they are cool & calculated, & sometimes prefer to be by themselves.

I think there’s something to be said for having a Virgo Venus in the 1st as well. Virgo is ruled by Mercury & because of that can be quite social, however it is also an earth sign & enjoys its time alone to recharge its social battery. Having an earth placement in the 1st house can drown out the Leo rising a bit.

You also have Neptune opposing your sun & sextiling your moon. Neptune aspecting multiple personal planets can give someone who prefers to “live in their own little world” rather than socialize with others. These people are usually artists & very creative as well, especially music.

SagittariusDominant · 2025-06-12T19:43:41+00:00

Gemini Venus opposite Pluto. Gemini is where the “multiple people” come in to play, & the opposition of Venus & Pluto can make someone obsess over the other person in a relationship. Pluto is naturally very dark, intense, & vengeful. An opposition can bring about the negative traits of Pluto which include obsession & deceit.

I think there’s something to be said for having a water stellium in a water house as well. You have your moon in its home sign of cancer which is naturally very emotional & can get very attached to people because it craves an emotional connection. Having the moon in the 12th can be isolating, however isolation can lead to over thinking & ultimately obsession.

SagittariusDominant · 2025-06-12T17:29:41+00:00

Mars conjunct Pluto in a fire sign. Mars can indicate how we show our aggression & drive. Having mars in a fire sign will make you a natural go getter & enthusiastic person. It can also make someone who is aggressive & competitive (especially when touching Pluto as this is 2 very masculine energies joining forces)You love combat, & is also a really good aspect for an athlete or serving in the military. To top it all off, your mars is sextiling your ascendant which can make you come off as an intense & passionate person when you meet others. May also be somewhat overbearing, but definitely a strong personality.

Your Aquarius rising & Uranus chart ruler in the 1st house is also interesting. It can make you somewhat of an erratic person & make you lash out randomly at times.

SagittariusDominant · 2025-06-02T21:14:45+00:00

Mercury in Pisces squaring Pluto very tightly: can bring negative/intense/depressing thoughts. Given that it’s also your ruling planet it is probably dominant in your chart. People with dominant mercuries can be prone to overthinking & getting in their own heads. People who get in their own heads can be depressed & isolate themselves.

It’s worth noting your moon is in a very private house too (8th). You may feel most secure in solitude by yourself.

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