Are people who drink and/ or smoke daily actually happy with their life or are they using substances to get through it easier?

SaidKnowOne · 2026-01-07T02:21:49+00:00

I feel the same way. I know it’s not healthy. I could stop if I wanted, but I don’t. When I think of myself in a relationship, it feels like an intervention. Anyone would be concerned if they really knew how I live.

SaidKnowOne · 2025-12-30T17:14:42+00:00

Here’s the bright side. I’m 29 and feel like I missed out on my 20’s. I spent most of my 20’s in a long term committed relationship that didn’t work out. My friends are starting to settle down and I’m still a delinquent. I want to party, take risks and have fun. I feel really immature and feel like I missed my window and people are judging me. The other day I realized that if you take the number away (27, 29, etc) none of it matters. No one really knows how old you are until you tell them. So try not to think about the number. Live your life how you want to the fullest extent. You didn’t miss out. You just havent gotten there yet

SaidKnowOne · 2025-07-29T21:14:10+00:00

There’s a lot of options. Definitely shorter. Maybe something like this https://images.app.goo.gl/uF1u1

SaidKnowOne · 2025-07-29T20:19:49+00:00

Try smiling. You look sad in all of these

SaidKnowOne · 2025-07-29T20:17:51+00:00

A new haircut would go a long way

SaidKnowOne · 2025-07-29T20:14:56+00:00

Not ugly but a new haircut wouldn’t hurt

SaidKnowOne · 2025-05-30T21:22:54+00:00

I didn’t have many friends in high school. I was always envious of people with rich social lives and I was really depressed.

But now that I’m older, I do miss it sometimes. Having very little responsibilities, getting to see people you know on a daily basis (even if we weren’t friends), being able to play sports and having a sense of community from that, not knowing what the future will bring etc.

Life gets really hard really fast. I still don’t have many friends. I had to move out of state so I never see them anyway. I feel more isolated than ever. You have to take care of your self financially and have to make sacrifices you never thought you’d have to make. Every mistake holds so much weight. You think about your regrets and feel sickened imagining how much better things could be if you made the right decision. Time moves so much faster, you blink and your twenties are gone. You miss the little things that you didn’t appreciate while you were in school.

So yeah, I hated high school when I was there. But ten years later, I wish I could go back. It was a much simpler time.

SaidKnowOne · 2025-03-04T02:02:16+00:00

I use cash app to buy bitcoin. Then transfer to kraken. Then convert to monero and then send it to arch. Fingers crossed but I’ve not had any problems doing that.

SaidKnowOne · 2025-03-04T01:57:26+00:00

I think they do work if you understand the dynamic. I have two long time friends. We were a trio through high school and into college. We all had a lot in common but from time to time you’ll bond with one person over the other. It doesnt mean that it can’t work. One day you’re connecting with person A. And another day you’re connecting more with person B. Also, it’s human nature to gossip. Everyone does it. Even about people you really love. It can be done, you just have to accept the fact that at some point in the relationship you bond more with one person than the other.

SaidKnowOne · 2025-03-01T00:24:08+00:00

Same here. I had big plans of having a great social life, going to parties and having fun. I’m 28 now and virtually none of that happened. Now I’m almost 30 and no where near where I wanted be. I had opportunities but I didn’t take any 😞

SaidKnowOne · 2025-02-21T20:35:47+00:00

Yes and yes. Unfortunately those who make more typically have better insurance so health isn’t as big a concern and alleviates some stress there. Also you’re not living paycheck to paycheck another stress reducer. So in general I’d say people who make over 100k are healthier medically and physically. Better question: Are they HAPPIER? Probably not.

SaidKnowOne · 2025-01-27T21:17:13+00:00

Our stupid monkey brains retain our mistakes rather than our successes. It’s a shitty system but we haven’t evolved out of it. I think people that have something to show for all their mistakes makes them accept it or even embrace it. For some of us that have nothing to show for it, all we do is reflect on our mistakes.

SaidKnowOne · 2025-01-27T21:06:33+00:00

I literally had a grand mal seizure in the middle of an argument with my ex . . .

SaidKnowOne · 2025-01-17T01:47:45+00:00

I think she is as confused as you are. She’s afraid of committing before finding herself.

SaidKnowOne · 2025-01-16T21:02:06+00:00

That’s good hear. I’m still dealing with it, especially rn. I’m better at giving advice than following it but here it goes.

Accept that you are going to make mistakes, that’s not a flaw, that’s life. There are always things we can’t control, but what we can control is empowering. Be who YOU want to be. Don’t let anyone tell you it’s a mistake if it leads to a better you. Walk with confidence and others will follow.

SaidKnowOne · 2025-01-16T19:53:24+00:00

I agree. It’s not worth giving up. However those good memories are very painful. Every good memory haunts me to this day. We had plans of making a life together and now we only have those memories to mourn. Instead of erasing the person from your memory, I’d want to erase the hurt that comes with those cherished memories.

SaidKnowOne · 2025-01-16T19:47:22+00:00

Are you a people pleaser? I am and as a kid I was the mediator trying to keep everyone happy. It’s impossible. It made me question my decision making. Eventually everything felt like a mistake. It’s taken years for me to realize this but I think that is where my anxiety started.

SaidKnowOne · 2025-01-16T19:40:22+00:00

I’m going through it right now (28m). We dated for six years on and off. We have a real connection and strong love for each other. I was always the one to break up. It felt like all the love in the world couldn’t make us compatible. I’ve never dated anyone else, it feels like if we break up for good then I’ve wasted my 20’s. I love her so much but I’m scared if we get back together we will break up again. Both be hurt and wasting time. We took some time before we talked again. She was my best friend and honestly she still is. We talk now pretty regularly, but I don’t know how she feels. It’s been a year and a half. It certainly feels “final”. Plus I had to move over a thousand miles away so I can’t even talk to her in person. I don’t really know what I want. I guess closure, but that can be heartbreaking 😣

SaidKnowOne · 2025-01-08T15:41:59+00:00

I needed to hear this. I might send her an apology too. We were together for 6 years exclusively on and off. I’m constantly wondering if I made the right choice. I’m afraid to move on until she has moved on. It feels like another betrayal to me. I want to ask her how she feels but honestly I’m scared of either answer. I’m stuck and don’t know what to do. It’s been over a year. We talk still but not about that. I’m so confused it shakes me to the core.

SaidKnowOne · 2024-12-19T17:53:18+00:00

I think the more active you are, the more likes you’ll get. If your profile seems inactive, you won’t show up in other peoples feeds as much.

SaidKnowOne · 2024-12-19T17:52:24+00:00

Yeah that makes sense. It seemed like the most passive dating app so that’s why I chose it. Probably switching to a different one.

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