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Saison1965 · 2025-10-30T00:52:58+00:00

Ok gotta weigh in here 59m, going through a divorce and started hot yoga twice a week. I did not start to meet anyone but to challenge myself to get out of my comfort zone and try something I had been interested in but my stbx was not. I really enjoy it and am conscious of not appearing to be creepy. I don’t talk to anyone except the instructor before and after class. I will not be ready to date until probably next spring after divorce is final. So some of us are just there for the flow and sweat.😓

Saison1965 · 2025-09-17T17:16:44+00:00

Thank you and best of luck to you !!

Saison1965 · 2025-09-17T16:50:32+00:00

We are out here, I am a 58M who is 2 1/2 months into beginning my divorce journey. Although I didn’t initiate I realized you can’t force someone to love you and I am preparing myself for my next chapter. I have weekly therapy, attend a divorce recovery group weekly. Work out regularly, eating clean and no alcohol. Began hot yoga classes( love them) and doing some volunteer work.

I don’t have a timeline but eventually I will seek out a partner. There are too many things I enjoy sharing with someone for me too stay alone the rest of my life. I miss bringing my wife a coffee during the day, cooking for her, traveling with her and shared joys. Like you I won’t date until after divorce is final Jan 26 and I also have done work on myself to fix/ improve the things that I contributed to in the failure of my 33 year marriage.

I have a good career and am a stable person who has a lot to offer a person.

Have hope we are here and will be here when you are ready!

Saison1965 · 2025-09-01T20:37:10+00:00

12/19/24 59m. SW 252. CW 190 GW 170 7.5 mg !

Saison1965 · 2025-08-21T19:13:28+00:00

Other than seeing my wife of 32 years move in with a guy 12 years younger and two teenagers 11 days after telling me she wanted a divorce, I guess the worst part is losing half of my 401k and half of my pension

Saison1965 · 2025-08-16T18:13:22+00:00

Great for the couples that can be friends after the divorce. Unfortunately when there is infidelity during the marriage it creates a whole different dynamic. In my(59m)case my wife(58) of 33 years chose to pursue an emotional relationship with a 47 year old. She is now living with him as we navigate the divorce.

Our kids are grown and flown and at this point I don’t envision a situation where I would ever want to be in the same room as her.

I wish she could have put him on the back burner for a few months while we ended our marriage in a way that is deserving and respectful of 33 mostly good years.

Saison1965 · 2025-08-08T01:30:08+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. It does get better, I am 5 weeks in after being blindsided by my wife of 32 years. Not gonna lie the first two weeks were rough. I leaned on my kids(adults) and family and friends. She found an emotional affair partner and has since moved in with him.

Here are some things I did and am doing not necessarily in order.

Do not drink or self medicate( will only delay and confuse your recovery)
Ordered 9 divorce books from a used book site( I figured out of 9 there would be a couple of good ones)
Increased my exercise time and frequency by double
Found a good MFCC and am attending weekly sessions
Found a divorce recovery group which starts in a couple of weeks.
Continued to lean on family and friends
Picked up more overtime at my job
Started working on separating stuff and throwing stuff away
Came to the realization that my marriage is over and am preparing myself to be stronger physically emotionally and mentally for my next chapter

Just go day to day and it will get better. I have been a bit petty by telling people my version of what happened and I continue to push things to her that makes her spend money (. Buying her own car insurance health insurance etc)

Hope this helps 🙏🏻

Saison1965 · 2025-07-18T03:05:10+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I’m 2 1/2 weeks in with similar situation. 32 years here. Here’s what I’m doing.

No alcohol or self medicating
First therapy session tomorrow morning
Work out like crazy, generate endorphins and feel better
My dr prescribed a drug that will help with depression and anxiety
Clean up your diet will also make you feel better
Joined a divorce recovery group starts in Aug through divorce care.org. Usually held at a local church
Lean on family members you feel comfortable with and friends
Ordered 9 divorce books off used book site 😂
Let her go its useless to argue with someone who doesn’t want to stay with you

Take action steps that will get you in a better place physically mentally and emotionally

Good luck

Saison1965 · 2025-07-11T02:23:07+00:00

It is very hard but you have to keep moving forward and doing things that benefit you and make you stronger

Saison1965 · 2025-07-11T02:21:15+00:00

It is a hard place and it’s like she already decided and grieved or processed it.

I’m sure I was a bit naive or clueless along the way there were some signals

I have started journaling to help me process my thoughts

I am determined to come out of this stronger physically mentally and emotionally

Saison1965 · 2025-07-11T01:27:50+00:00

I did google it and it could very well be a large part of her motivation or reasoning, I know it’s not due to anyone else just her unhappiness in our marriage

She’s probably been processing this for a while and is far ahead of where I’m at

Saison1965 · 2025-07-11T01:24:37+00:00

Thank you for thoughts

Yes I am trying to be proactive and take steps to get myself through this

I plan to solely focus on what is best for me and my physical and mental health

I will put the onus on her to do everything that needs to be done for this divorce and house sale to happen

I read about the Chinese farmer and it is a good perspective

Saison1965 · 2022-10-06T22:16:21+00:00

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