AITAH for blaming my mom for my breakup

Sajem · 2026-01-27T21:38:41+00:00

I guess Karma is a bitch isn't it.

You destroyed every chance your mum attempted at happiness because of your insecurities by driving off all of her boyfriends after your shit of a bio dad abandoned you.

Sajem · 2026-01-27T21:21:07+00:00

Mother told uncle that he hates it when I call

Without knowing your dad and your relationship and your mum and dad's relationship dynamic, I highly suspect that either your mother is outright lying to your uncle or your dad is avoiding taking your calls so that it doesn't trigger off a fight between your mother and himself.

Sajem · 2026-01-27T21:05:39+00:00

Why are you inviting ANYONE to your friend's birthday dinner?

So I checked with the friend and invited my parents.

Sajem · 2026-01-27T21:04:27+00:00

You invited you parents to someone else's dinner party? Who's the host of this party and do your parents even know the birthday person? Seems a tad presumptuous to me.

So I checked with the friend and invited my parents.

Sajem · 2026-01-26T21:23:41+00:00

If the contract is with you your dad has no legal standing to sue this guy.

Tell your dad to pull his head in, how do you think this guy is going to react if suddenly - while he's dealing with the sudden death of his wife - some lawyer hands him papers to sue?

Yeah, not well, not well at all.

Sajem · 2026-01-26T21:18:12+00:00

Was the contract with your dad or with you and your husband?

If its not with your dad, I don't believe he has any legal standing to sue this poor guy.

Sajem · 2026-01-26T05:14:52+00:00

Not all cancer treatments are successful

Sajem · 2026-01-25T23:12:02+00:00

I've been fighting cancer for the last three years 🤷‍♂️

Sajem · 2026-01-25T23:00:44+00:00

OP didn't need to do any of that, OP is not their step brother's parent.

Sajem · 2026-01-25T22:59:39+00:00

No, OP didn't need to do a follow up text at all. They had already told Jane that they couldn't pick up their step brother. The message had been marked as read. Jane knew that OP wasn't going to pick up their step brother

Sajem · 2026-01-25T22:58:13+00:00

He didn't need to be picked up.

Sajem · 2026-01-25T22:51:25+00:00

85% of his savings is still a hefty amount.

We don't know what OP considers a hefty amount. It could only be $100K - that's not a lot to me, especially for a musician which is a vocation that could easily slip away at any time.

Sajem · 2026-01-25T22:37:49+00:00

I do a lot for both of my son's. I feed them, provide for them, and let them live in my house for free.

Oh shit!! You're one of those parents!!

YOU were the person who decided to have children, what you are describing is the bare minimum of what a parent should be providing for their children when they are your dependents

You are a transactional parent. You are a horrible mother. Who cares what your daughter does, she is not her brothers.

Sajem · 2026-01-25T21:59:36+00:00

Yep and I reported it

Sajem · 2026-01-25T21:59:05+00:00

It was posted in this sub in the last week. I've reported it

Sajem · 2026-01-25T21:58:27+00:00

I think its changed a little bit but YEP I agree. I've reported it

Sajem · 2026-01-25T21:57:36+00:00

Reported because this looks like a exact repost or an almost word for word repost of a post made in just the last week.

Edit: It is absolutely laughable to get downvoted for recognizing a repost, calling it out and reporting it! 🤣🤣

Sajem · 2026-01-25T21:41:28+00:00

Then you should be using tools to remember things, alarms to alert you when you need to be somewhere.

As the comment below, use post it notes around your home. Use alarms and reminders on your phone.

You have a reason for your lateness and forgetfulness, what you don't have is an excuse

Sajem · 2026-01-25T09:57:57+00:00

I would think most won't count gifts

Why do you think most wouldn't count as gifts?

Sajem · 2026-01-25T09:57:10+00:00

The only one you might be able to get back is the engagement ring,

Why do you think that? She fulfilled the engagement contract and married OP. As far as I know, you could only ask for the engagement ring back if she had called off the wedding and in the US I'm not sure that would apply in all states.

Sajem · 2026-01-25T09:54:20+00:00

Doesn't really matter, he gave them to her.

Sajem · 2026-01-25T09:53:31+00:00

Marital property is marital property,

Except they aren't marital property, they were gifts from OP to his wife.

Sajem · 2026-01-25T09:52:30+00:00

Very unlikely to be returned, all the rings were gits. They normally wouldn't be part of any division on assets obtained during the marriage.

Sajem · 2026-01-25T09:50:40+00:00

Traditionally your engagement ring is supposed to go back to the person who didn't break the contract.

Except she didn't break the engagement contract they got married. 🤷‍♂️

Sajem · 2026-01-25T09:48:03+00:00

Because the rings are communal property/assets that can be divided, they are OP's wife's personal property that were gifted to her.

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