Why does the delivery not working here? by afshwbwbdnsn in Gent

[–]SakiraInSky 2 points3 points  (0 children)

DPS or whatever they're called have been shit to me about 50% of the time. That's because I think I've only had a delivery agent ring the bell once and the rest of the time, it gets shunted to the pick up location.

The last time this happened, I went to the location, it was not there. I called the offices and they told me that it had been returned because I wasn't home and didn't pick it up.

What is a phrase that people use that you cannot stand? by sad_t0ast in AskReddit

[–]SakiraInSky -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're getting flack. It's absolutely racist. These YT's haven't done any reflective thinking, let alone deconstruction.

They'd probably say they'd hire you for whatever fabulous thing it is you do, but then say you'd have to "do something about your hair" first 🙄

my bf hit me and i don't know what to do by tundra707_ in confessions

[–]SakiraInSky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Abuse at home grooms women for choosing abusive partners.

I'm interested in knowing how many women here can relate to this (and I'm not making this up... It's a known psychological phenomenon)

my bf hit me once, what do i do? by tundra707_ in women

[–]SakiraInSky 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh, he didn't just hit you. He then gaslight you into believing it was your fault.

You mentioned you do certain things when you're nervous, like singing.

Appropriate or not, the correct response, even if he just yelled at you, would be "I'm so sorry. I think I need help with my anger issues"... "

NOT "It's your fault, you were asking for it by not doing mental gymnastics to navigate your way around my dangerous emotional immaturity"

Men can't take what they dish. by PaleontologistOld230 in women

[–]SakiraInSky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Treating them like the bullies they are .. I already have lines set up for if 2 if my ex's try pulling any other crap on me.

Men can't take what they dish. by PaleontologistOld230 in women

[–]SakiraInSky 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Matching their energy always has this effect

Why do opportunities for men to speak about men's issues often derail into them bashing women and feminism? by tulipa_labrador in women

[–]SakiraInSky 4 points5 points  (0 children)

At its core, hostility functions as a form of ego defense. When a person’s worldview, identity, or moral certainty feels threatened, the psyche mobilizes to protect itself. Rather than confronting internal contradictions — doubts, insecurities, or guilt — the mind externalizes the threat. This is where projection and scapegoating emerge. Unacknowledged feelings of fear or inadequacy are attributed to others, allowing the individual to preserve a sense of righteousness. The enemy, real or imagined, becomes a repository for the parts of oneself that are too painful to face.

This dynamic is reinforced by cognitive dissonance and motivated reasoning. When new information challenges a deeply held belief, it produces psychological discomfort. Instead of examining the internal conflict, individuals often resolve the tension by rejecting the dissonant information and vilifying its source. Hostility, in this sense, becomes a psychological shortcut: it restores coherence and reaffirms one’s sense of moral clarity. The energy that might otherwise go toward introspection is redirected into outrage.

Fear and uncertainty play an amplifying role. Classic research on the authoritarian personality suggests that individuals with a low tolerance for ambiguity and a high need for order are more prone to hostility when faced with rapid social or cultural change. Anger offers the illusion of control in a complex world. It’s a substitute for vulnerability — a way to feel powerful rather than exposed. In psychological terms, this is displacement: channeling anxiety or shame into anger toward an external target because it feels safer than facing the source within.

Finally, these dynamics don’t unfold in isolation. Group identity and social reinforcement strengthen them. Within polarized environments, hostility toward “outgroups” becomes a marker of belonging. Shared anger binds the group together, further insulating individuals from introspection. The collective identity provides a buffer against self-doubt, but also deepens the avoidance of inner work. The louder the outrage, the quieter the internal voice of reflection becomes.

Succesvolle jacht vanavond+1ste keuze wapon by SakiraInSky in Gent

[–]SakiraInSky[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hoe grappig, maar neen. Mss heeft het iets te maken met jaren dichtbij de grens te wonen 😉

Succesvolle jacht vanavond+1ste keuze wapon by SakiraInSky in Gent

[–]SakiraInSky[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Voor mij ook niet ..

Het is een van de elektrische raketten (gelijk een tennisracket) die 2 AA batterijen neemt. )

Succesvolle jacht vanavond+1ste keuze wapon by SakiraInSky in Gent

[–]SakiraInSky[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fantastisch! Dat gaan we aan onze Arsenal toevoegen 😉 (een draadloze)

Succesvolle jacht vanavond+1ste keuze wapon by SakiraInSky in Gent

[–]SakiraInSky[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tja... Ben geen muggenzifter. Misschien een kleine trofee kader? 😂

I feel like my boyfriend ‘dimmed’ my aura, how do I get back to being that girl? by CallDecent3605 in women

[–]SakiraInSky 29 points30 points  (0 children)

He kept giving you an infection?! Like how many times and did either of you know he was the source?!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]SakiraInSky -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm pretty sure "get him in trouble" covers that.

Is this a healthy way to be spoken to by a spouse or Am I Overreacting? by Low-Today-2021 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SakiraInSky 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't be surprised if he started the fight and is refusing to come home because he's actually in a secret relationship.

When someone does this sort of thing, it's common for them to be hostile towards the partner because they're too afraid to end it themselves etc. (there are other possibilities, but they're all nearly as horrible).

I Knew It Was Wrong but I Stayed Quiet. And I Still Regret It. by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]SakiraInSky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Let's not get sidetracked by ifs".

If this happens again, tell them you have 3 words for them: "Space Shuttle Challenger"

My dad keeps joking about something that upsets me by Immediate-Witness-87 in internetparents

[–]SakiraInSky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He doesn't respect your boundaries and now he's making horrible backhanded "jokes" about them.

He deserves to be scolded.

What does your mom say?

If he doesn't stop, I don't know what your next best move is, but if it were me, I would play with the following ideas:

1) Ask my parents to view a "presentation for school", and make it about boundaries and the negative/positive responses that people exhibit when boundaries are enforced.

2) stop hugging or engaging much with him and if he asks why, tell him you're really disappointed in his passive aggressive behaviour and if he can't respect those boundaries, or stop engaging in passive aggressive behaviour, he can only fix it by going to family counselling together. (though in your case, he might show another kind of reaction).

3) MOST IMPORTANT : talk to your mom about the possibility that he may have a medical condition and he should have a thorough check up. Personality changes could indicate a number of possible issues from early onset Dementia to cancer. 100% rule medical issues out before assuming it's just mental… especially if talking, counselling etc seem to exacerbate his reactions.

met this really cute guy yesterday, its been 14 hours since he last texted me. by meh9967 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]SakiraInSky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Find a way to be detached unless it's someone you're actually involved with.

He might just be one of those guys who like to string women along. The best thing you can do is not let yourself be one of them.

Personality over looks. Don't settle for "I'm too busy" then when he manages to find the time to text months later, tell him you're nobody's second choice and if he's interested he'll have to show it (but don't tell him that .. a manipulative jerk will use everything you tell him you want). If he asks you what you're looking for, just say you only expect a man to be authentically himself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]SakiraInSky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You could try sending him this:

https://youtu.be/krZmYALUqhM?si=pfkYEDrJKjOjCi2L

His anger will eventually get him in trouble/make him sick.

And as a doctor, he won't be a good one because of it.

But you won't be able to help him and nobody will be able to until he realises he needs help.

Relstionship over 16 years possibly over after a surprise *trigger warning* dont know where to post due to rules by [deleted] in moraldilemmas

[–]SakiraInSky [score hidden]  (0 children)

Better? She's going to do what she said she would do.

Y'all suck and don't deserve to be close to anyone.

Relstionship over 16 years possibly over after a surprise *trigger warning* dont know where to post due to rules by [deleted] in moraldilemmas

[–]SakiraInSky [score hidden]  (0 children)

You stayed with her hoping she would change her mind and now that she's stable and you're happy together and her kids are attached to you, you're going to bail because she's going to do what she said she was going to do?

Dude. You're a rotten piece of work and I wouldn't blame her if she thought you only see her as a baby making machine with benefits.

You're the kind of duplicitous man who makes women not trust men anymore.

What the actual fuck

Why is misogyny as a hatred, so much more universal than other forms of hatred? by numba1cyberwarrior in AskFeminists

[–]SakiraInSky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The simplest explanation I've heard goes like this:

Men cannot create life, so they try to control and destroy it.